This is something sacred to me. I don't feel that way often, but about this, I do. This, to me, is one of the most important things I will ask of you. To me, this is the key to your success, and you all know that is always my primary goal.
I keep meaning to explain this to you in a very conversational way, but somehow there never seems to be enough time to be able to really just "talk" to you. So, in an effort to make better use of "time," I have relied on the wonders of Wikipedia to be able to explain the 7-point Creed, which is the integral foundation of this week's blog question.
Without further ado--
John Wooden's Seven Point Creed,[1] given to him by his father Joshua upon his graduation from grammar school:
* Be true to yourself.
* Make each day your masterpiece.
* Help others.
* Drink deeply from good books, especially the Bible.
* Make friendship a fine art.
* Build a shelter against a rainy day.
* Pray for guidance and give thanks for your blessings every day.
If you don't know who John Wooden is, LOOK HIM UP HERE--his story is quite remarkable. As a coach, I deeply admired him and the things he accomplished. As a human being, he is amazing in every sense of the word and one of the few people I can honestly say I aspire to emulate. As you know, I don't say that about very many people.
In any case, your task for this week is to come up with your own 7-Point Creed and share it here. I know that I am asking a lot of you. I know that this is not something you can do in two-three days. And this is why I am extending the deadline until Sunday night (the 20th). You will really need to put a lot of thought into this.
Ask yourself these questions to help you along:
What do I value?
What are my morals?
How do I want to be perceived by others?
What do I want my legacy to be?
What have I learned in my life?
What else do I want to learn?
Now, I certainly don't want you to answer those questions and consider that to be your creed. Remember, a creed is a sort of guideline for living, but it is also completely subjective. Look at Wooden's creed again. The statements there are kind of ambiguous and can be open to interpretation, don't you think? So, when you are doing this, try to keep that in mind. However, it is precisely BECAUSE the statements are ambiguous that you will have to explain what you mean by them, what they mean to you and why you chose them. Always the why.
What you are basically doing is creating a blueprint by which you can live your life. YOUR life. Nobody else's.
After all, who is more important than you?
Well my first creed would be Love everyday. Now what I mean by this is always try to be at your best mood everyday to everyone you know, to every activity you do. It is essential that we are at are best mood it helps though tough times, and is simply right to be happy everyday.
ReplyDelete-Second would be "Be nice". Now its obvious we don't like assholes and try not to be one. So why not be nice. There is an ethical law called "The Golden rule" and the rule states the we should treat others how we treated ourselves. Now it may be hard to be nice to everybody, but it will certainly help in the long run and keep us mentally healthy.
-Thirdly is 'Learn things that make you alive'. We should never ever work at a job that we hate. Working will most likely feel like a drag and will make you be pessimistic about life if you hate it. But if we do a job we love we will go though life with flying colors.
-Forth, Parade with good-fellows. Always have good friends because they will not turn you in a 'bad influence'. Good friends don't try to drag you into a world of vice and a bad image to other people. Having a bad friend will also make you do thing you really should not do. If you have good friends then you will have a pretty good character.
-Fifth 'Be true to you'. We should never try to be someone else. Or else your real you will be gone and you will turn into an empty shell. Also it will be a waste of your time to even attempt to be like someone else. A person has so many quirks to them that its impossible unless you dedicate your life to it.
-Sixth, 'Be grateful to your family', We should always be grateful to our parents. They have given up so many things just so that we can reach adulthood, so we are obligated to be grateful to our parents even if we have major disagreements with them.
-Seventh, 'Roll with your mistakes'. Making a mistake isn't always bad in fact I think it helps us. Whenever we make a mistake we sometimes beat ourselves up too much because of one little mistake, I know I have. So we just need to look at our mistakes and rise above and build upon it so that we will not make those same mistakes happen again.
MY 7 point creed:
ReplyDeleteBe proactive; laziness is not rewarded.
Be original; cheating is not honorable.
Be the odd one out, for the righteous path is the least common.
Be a skeptic; the world is open to more than one interpretation of things.
Be patient; frustration only holds you back.
Value the people in your life, especially the ones you call family, for they are in your life for a reason.
Rely on facts and knowledge and research, for they will never let you down.
What I mean by being proactive is that as soon as you are of age, apply for jobs. Do your homework, and hand it in on time. Do extra assignments, even if they are not graded, for your benefit. Contribute your character to the world by exploring, and meeting new people of various backgrounds. To me, this means that I will be getting a weekly paycheck from working, and that I will be more educated by doing all of my work, and retaining as much information as possible from doing so. I chose this because I do not see that many people my age at Oakcrest working. A lot of people are also lazy, and do not do anything in class but catch up on their sleep or finish typing up some texts. So, what could you possibly earn from being lazy? Bed sores, no work experience, no knowledge, and grades that will negatively affect your college applications.
I cannot stress this one enough. I live by creed 2. I cannot explain how many times I see people around me saying, “You wanna slide me that homework?” or “Did you do the homework??? If so, can I see it?” or “Who wants to be a real one and send me this homework?” What I meant by this creed is that a cheater is not worthy of anything, really. I have absolutely zero respect and tolerance for the 99% of students that copy other people’s work, and have the audacity to put their name own name on it. To me, this means that cheaters do not get respected or honored. They might get the grade, but so what? It’s all that knowledge that they deemed unnecessary, that they missed out on. I chose this because it is so relevant, especially in my generation. No one understands that copy and paste doesn’t work in the real world.
What I mean by being the odd one out is not what you would think. It does not mean to be an outcast or to be weird. It just means to stay on the right path, even if your classmates are on a completely different one. In high school, there are so many drugs and weed and alcohol. It is so repulsive to me that students of this age, who are supposed to be focused on how to prepare for college and bills and just actual life itself, are more worried about what party they will attend to this weekend, instead of prepping for a big test they have next week. This one means a lot to me because I have lost too many friends to drugs and alcohol and partying. I have seen many people with the potential to do anything they wanted, but once the week was over, the drinking and smoking and partying consumed them. No one realizes it, but all of that stuff is a commitment. You are committing to that type of lifestyle at a very young age. Priorities are NOT set straight.
I chose skepticism as one of my creeds because over the summer, I went to a medical camp. Many of the speakers at this camp were amazing doctors or scientists. I had so much respect for them all. I bought a notebook specifically to take notes at each session. As I look back on my notes, I noticed that many of the intelligent speakers made a point to tell everyone how important it is to always ask questions. This means a lot to me because I am often afraid to ask questions. I feel as if the teacher or mentor is so intelligent that my lousy question is not worth being acknowledged. This congress I went to definitely help me get over that mind set. Questions are healthy. I chose this because questions provide clarity, and I am someone who LOVES clarity.
ReplyDeleteEveryone knows this one. The person sitting next to you in class clicks their pen one too many times and you snap out of frustration. Your mom tells you to try harder when you are already trying your best and you break down. Your sibling won’t stop nagging and picking on you the one day you need to be left alone so you cry. I understand this very well, and I am sure almost everyone else does too. To me, this means you have to tolerate things that would usually make you curl up into a ball and cry, for your own sake. Frustration blocks out rational thinking. I chose this because when I was very little, my dad was trying to help me add numbers together. He was trying to show me how to use my fingers in order to add the two numbers together-the simplest thing- and I just gave up and blocked him out. I never had the patience to listen for long periods of time, I still don’t! I do however get better at it the older I get. It definitely takes a lot of practice.
I chose this because I have lived long enough to know that just because you are related to someone by blood, it does NOT automatically make them family. To me this means that your absolute best friend, who you tell EVERYTHING to, who you know everything about, who you love inside and out is considered family. This means a lot to me because I have a friend that goes to OC High School. We basically grew up together, and I don’t even tell people that she is my best friend because she is not a friend to me. I see her and her whole family as a continuation of my family. The same thing goes with Reec. I know his whole family, and we have spent many holidays together with each other’s families. I love having people close to me like that because I know I can always count on them. That is what family is.
What I mean by relying on science is that it won’t ever lie to you. It is not influenced by personal feelings, and it is not subjective. To me this means a lot because I put 100% of my faith in science and research. I believe everything science-y as long as it comes from a reliable source- obviously. I chose this because too many people act upon how they feel, and what they grew up thinking is right instead of following actual proven studies done by scientists.
Well, here I go.
ReplyDelete1. Common sense is not so common, so learn some.
I'm not saying some people don't have common sense, but that people have varying degrees of it. Sure, having book smarts is great for a future career and all, but common sense is what gets you places. You can have a great education, but when it comes down to it, you might not know what to do if you don't have any common sense.
2. Excuses are like assholes. Everyone has one and they all stink.
Excuses will never get you anywhere. Life is all about accountability and responsibility. If you can't take a hit or two from your own mistakes, you won't survive in the real world.
3. Guilty until proven innocent, not innocent until proven guilty.
Everything, and I mean EVERYTHING, falls under this creed. Whether it be knowledge, morals, beliefs, or even people, it all falls here. Everything is wrong until proven right. If everything was right until proven wrong, you would live your whole life believing everything is right even though it could be wrong.
4. The early bird gets the worm, but the second mouse gets the cheese.
Being first is great. If you succeed, then you get to reap the rewards before anybody else can. For example, if you're trying to get a job, being first is great. However, if you change your perspective, being patient can be beneficial too. If you wait and learn from other people's mistakes, you can then go in and reap the rewards after other have failed. I guess what I'm trying to say is keep an open mind and always look at every situation from all angles.
5. "Love makes the world go round, but laughter keeps us from getting dizzy." -Anonymous
Love everybody everyday. Without ove, the world would be a cold, dark place. Loving 24/7, though, can be a tough thing to do when the life goes through its ups and downs, so laugh a little. Laughter, after all, is the best medicine.
6. Appreciate what you have.
If you can start the day without caffeine or pep pills,
If you can be cheerful, ignoring aches and pains,
If you can resist complaining and boring people with your troubles,
If you can eat the same food everyday and be grateful for it,
If you can understand when loved ones are too busy to give you time,
If you can overlook when people take things out on you,
When through no fault of yours, something goes wrong,
If you can take criticism and blame without resentment,
If you can face the world without lies and deceit
If you can relax without liquor,
If you can sleep without the aid of drugs,
Then, you are almost as good as your dog!
If a dog can do without these things, so can you.
7. Everyone dreams of changing the world, but nobody dreams of changing themselves.
Sure, don't let your dreams be just dreams. But that's not the whole story. When we have a problem or issue, we tend to look around our lives to see what can be changed so that it can fit us. However, by doing so, you can ruin relationships, routines, dreams, hopes, and even your future. What you should do is look inside yourself, and see how you can change to fit into your life. In the wise words of my old pastor, "Change is like a puzzle. You just have to be the right piece."
My seven-point creed:
ReplyDelete1. Value yourself.
The first and everlasting key to success is knowing who you are as an individual. When you know who you are, you know your value. You won’t let others step on you. You won’t let others control you and your own life. You won’t let yourself settle for less than what you deserve… you won’t be hesitant to just be you in front of everybody. You won’t let ANYTHING ruin you. High school is definitely the place where I witnessed a lot of students losing self-respect and giving up on their sense of self-worth. They start doing “things” just because others are doing it. They are too busy fitting in that they forget their limits and the better future they can possess. Personally, it is better to write or create your own story. Don’t try to conform to what is socially acceptable. Try to offer something new without devaluing what you’ve got.
2. Grow a backbone and be confident.
One of my biggest pet peeves is when someone does not have the courage to do things for himself/herself and he/she always depends them on others. I say this because EVERY year, I meet people like that, and it irritates me. I understand that there are times when we just have to let it slip, but there are also times when we have to start standing up for ourselves. If there is one thing tennis taught me in general, it is to fight for YOUR game, and not let your opponent have it because it is YOURS to begin with. Anytime soon, each of us will have to have our own wings and fly alone into the open sky. Mom and Dad wouldn’t be there 24/7 to check if things are ok with school, with your teachers, with your friends, with your life. You have to know how to handle things on your own, and in order to do that, you have to be independent and have confidence in yourself and in what you do.
3. Finish what you’ve started.
I can say that track & field is not the sport I will consider going back to in a million years. In seventh grade, I joined the track team because I thought it was easy since I was a pretty fast runner. Well I thought wrong because after the first week, I felt exhausted, over-fatigued, and basically ready to head out to anywhere else but the oval. At the end of the second week, that was when I decided to quit. I remember my dad questioning me at the dinner table on to why I stopped. I remember him telling me, “Next time, when you do something, you also have to finish it. Because in the real world when you don’t finish what you’ve started, your boss won’t even hesitate to fire you.” Ever since the talk at the dinner table, I don’t think I’ve seen myself give up on the things I do. Now, before I start something I think about it carefully because I will either benefit from it or face the consequences. The talk that my dad and I had happened to stick to me up to this day. Today. no matter how hard, tiring, or complicated things get, I deal with it until the end. Finishing what you’ve started will not only get you somewhere, but it is also a reflection to your character.
4. Use your mistakes as stepping stones.
Some people see mistakes as the end of the world. They would bawl their eyes out thinking it would solve their problems. Committing mistakes are the key to a better version of us. Mistakes are not something we should be ashamed of nor we should be proud of; it’s a part of our life that we should turn into learning opportunities. Playing an individual sport allows me to make as many mistakes as I can. However at the end of the day, I will assess myself and improve those mistakes into a powerful weapon of mine. “Mistakes are meant to guide you, not define you.” They are experiences where we obtain our wisdom from.
5. Choose your friends wisely.
ReplyDeleteSurround yourself with those who will bring you up along with them. Allow people in your life who appreciate you for who you are, and help you when in need. Keep those friends that never talk behind your back, and instead they make you shine even more and defend you if necessary. These kinds of people will bring positivity and happiness in your life. I say this because I know someone close to me who was not appreciated by her so-called “friends” whom she treated as if they were her sisters. When she decided to leave their lives, she told me that her life was so much better. She felt like a huge rock has been lifted off of her chest. Through her experiences, I learned to pick my friends carefully.
6. Read often.
Growing up, my brothers and I are told to read our books at least half an hour a day. Aside from not being a native speaker of the English language, I did not understand its purpose until I got a little older. You may not notice it right away, but when you read in a regular basis, you also expand your vocabulary. What is even better is that, you are able to utilize those words in your daily living, either be it in writing, or in your everyday conversations. My dad once told me that, “What’s the last book you read?” is often asked in a job interview. Why is that? Because you are the books you read, and also it reveals a person’s intellectual ability. A job would want somebody who has an excellent problem solving skills and an open-mind to be able to keep and establish a successful company.
7. Contentment.
What I mean by this is the feeling like you have everything you need to live. Personally, at least at the moment, that’s how I feel. Well maybe not fully, because I haven’t even graduated high school and college yet. Nor do I have my dream job and my own family. But, I go to school, I have a roof over my head, and food and water to keep me going. Also I have a mom, dad, brothers, and other relatives that support each other, help each other, and love each other. I have my friends who I know will be there to cheer for me and be there when I really needed them. I do the things that I love to do. And honestly at this age, this is all that matters. And hopefully in the next years, I will reach the stage where I will be 100% contented.
Everybody has a view on life as we know it. And while it may be similar, it is also different. But what makes life so interesting is that everything connects. From the shows you watch on TV to getting in those important documents at your job. Everything connects! And with that said, here is my seven point creed.
ReplyDeleteFor starters, my first creed is keep your promises. I don't know about anyone else, but I like to entertain people, to put a smile on their face and I will continue to preach that till the day I die. You know how people say honesty is the best policy? Well that applies to yourself and the others you surround yourself with. You will never have any worries when you tell the truth to yourself and the others around you.
My second creed is be everyone’s love bug. Not sexually of course, but to have a loving attitude towards everyone, or at least try to, is the best you can do to brighten someone’s day. And there are different types of love that everybody enjoys, so I try to make everyone comfortable in that aspect with whatever they enjoy.
My third point of creed is to wash away your anger. You can't get anywhere in life if you're always angry. But regardless, anger is an emotion we feel at one time or another, whether it's from seeing a bad call against your favorite team in a football game or being frustrated with a relative. So the only thing you can do is not control it. Let things come naturally. I personally don't get angered easily, I just let my anger vent and I mentally send my anger out to sea, where it can vent all on its own. Eventually, it will come back, but to let your anger control it and not let it control you is essential to my next point of creed.
And that is patience is critical. I don't like rushing a lot of things. Letting things come naturally to me or taking my time on something is what I'm good at. Projects or papers just come out better for me if I take my time on it, like a musician who hasn't come out with a album in years (I.e. Frank Ocean), to only come out with one amazing album soon after. In my opinion, things come out more messy if you rush it and you won't be able to cherish it. That's why patience is a not only a point of creed to me, but a virtue.
My fifth point of creed is educate yourself and the others around you. No feeling is better to me than seeing somebody get something right when they have been struggling with it. You can learn a lot from the people around you. Whether it's their personality or the way they educate themselves, you have to be able to adapt and learn from yourself and the people around you. I try to do that everyday, because you learn something new everyday. So why not educate yourself a bit more of that thing?
My sixth point of creed is don't lie about yourself. Don't be the person that tries to show off being something you're not. Being yourself is what will get you true friends in your life. Being true to yourself is what will reveal who you're fake friends are. That's why I don't go to parties or listen to trap music because that's not who I am. Finding yourself and staying true to yourself is what will make you happy in life.
And to finalize my seven points of creed, you have to carpe diem, or seize the day. I truly am a firm believer in when I say that everything connects. And my last point of creed goes with the six point of creeds that I've just mentioned. To carpe diem, you have to live life the way you want to live it. Letting someone dictate your life is not the way to live. Just learning how to carpe diem is the success of life.
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ReplyDelete1. Pray - Without Christ I am nothing. Without Christ YOU are nothing. Without Christ WE are nothing. So, pray. Everyday. Pray to give thanks for everything God has blessed you with. Pray in your times of need as well as others.
ReplyDelete2. Give – When it comes to giving it doesn’t necessarily mean money. It could mean you’re your time, devotion, and love to others in need. Helping out others doesn’t only make them feel good, it also makes you feel good as well.
3. Be honest – HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY! I can’t stress this enough. I have no respect for liars. Especially liars that lied to me to “protect my feelings”. Liars that lied to me because “You would have freaked out” I rather hear the truth that’ll make me cry, then later on find out the truth from a bitch on the street when you knew it the whole time.
4. Love your self - Love yourself because comparing yourself to someone else is a death sentence.
5. Exercise – I’ve learned that exercise is also the key to mental health as well as physical. There was a time when I didn’t love myself and during that time period I became an emotional eater. I remember watching Keeping Up with the Kardashians and Khloe Kardashian expressed that she would exercise to get rid of her anxiety. After watching that I began waking up at 6 am, leave my house at 7 and I would run 3 miles every day. With exercising I not only lost weight, but I also became happier with myself.
6.EAT YOUR GREENS! – It does so many wonderful things to your body.
a. It enhances brain functions
b. Cardiovascular protection
c.Strengthen The Immune System
7.Slay
a. Your outfit when you first meet someone is your first impression not your personality.
i.If I was to see somebody who is wearing sweat pants for the first time Id assume that they are lazy.
b.It gives you more confidence
i.This may sound silly, but just like my breakfast, my outfit determines my mood as well.
c.Not only is a hot body the best revenge, so is a good outfit.
d.I’m in formation and like Beyoncé once said “Slay trick or you’ll get eliminated.”
The past few weeks have been rough. When I say rough, I mean I hit rock bottom. Hard. But, as I am getting myself together, I think about what I want my future to be and what I need to think about so I don’t have to hit rock bottom for a while. Here is my Seven Point Creed:
ReplyDelete1. Be kind, always
*We live in a fast paced, competitive world and sometimes we forget about the simple pleasure of being nice to each other. A little kindness can go a long way; it can be as simple as complementing a stranger on their outfit/make up or can go as deep as paying it forward. An act of kindness can impact anyone; it could turn their day around from bad to good or it could even be their reason to keep on going. I remember people always, by their kindness.
2. Share your love
*One of the reasons my parents adopted me was so that they could share their wonderful life with another human being. I want to do that as well. I have convinced my parents not once, not twice but three times to bring in shelter animals. My animals were in need of a safe and loving home. I am so immensely happy that I can give four little lives a forever home (with the help of my parents). I hope in the future that I can bring in more animals and even a child.
3. Each day is a new day
*Dwelling on the past is so harmful yet I am the queen of mistakes. Over the years, I have learned that every day is a new day and what you do to make it better than the last is up to you. If you dwell on the shitty day you had yesterday, today is only going to be worst. Going in with a new, positive thought process will mold your day into a great one.
4. Difficult roads lead to beautiful destinations
*Life is tough. There is absolutely no denying that. But each obstacle you encounter will help you later on in life. It makes you stronger and tougher mentally and you can get through anything you put your mind to. Don’t give up, the outcome of your path will be worth seeing.
5. Homemade is better than bought
*This is more of a given but I really love this creed. Homemade is so much better than buying a piece of garbage. When the gift is homemade, it comes from the heart and that person spent all their time making that gift just for you so it’s unique. I would rather get a small, homemade gift rather than a piece of plastic. Last year, Justice made me a homemade snow globe for Biomed’s secret Santa with a figurines dog that looked almost identical to mine and its hands down one of my favorite gifts.
6. Save up for a rainy day
*By this creed, I mean don’t spend your money on stupid junk you don’t need. That money could be used on other things. Also, you never know when you’re going to need some money so it’s always ideal to save up for the future rather than spending it on something you’re not going to need. A tip for saving money is to put it on display, like putting it in a mason jar, so you can have self-control. That way, when you see your progress, you’re not tempted to mess it up.
7. Stay as environmentally friendly as possible
*Nature is absolutely beautiful, why must we destroy it? We are cutting down trees, destroying animals habitats for what? Shopping malls that will close down in five years? I know, it’s near impossible to go to a CEO and say “Stop destroying the Earth, you already have 500 chains restaurants” but we have to start somewhere. Use Eco-friendly paper products. Re-use as many things as possible. Recycle! And finally, don’t litter. Please don’t litter. Or I will show you a sad turtle stuck in a soda can ring.
1. Remember your worth
ReplyDeleteIt’s particularly easy to forget who you are and how you got here. We tend to get lost in the crowd and as we do that, we erase what we know about ourselves. It’s important to always remember your worth. Not only remember, but KNOW how important you are., and accept it. We are all here for a reason, and whatever that reason may be, it’s still a reason, and that is good enough. Once you are able to look into the mirror and remind yourself each day that you are worth it without second guessing yourself, you will experience the true feeling of self love.
2. Make the best of each day
Time is easily taken advantage of. We waste certain days by sitting on the couch doing nothing and justify it as being okay because there’s a lifetime of days to come. But is there really? A lifetime of days could of course mean years and years of days, but it could also mean one or two weeks worth of days. And I admit to being one of those people that get caught up in doing absolutely nothing every now and then, which is why I try my best to value each day like it’s the last time I will ever see the sun again. Time is slipping away from our hands and we have zero control over it, and that in itself should be a reason as to why each day needs to be lived like its our last.
3. Head over heart
I know that there are going to be people that completely disagree with this one, but all I can ask is to please hear me out. As much as you want to give into your heart, remember that the heart is one of the most deceiving things out there. The heart does not have a frontal lobe, which allows you to make appropriate decisions. Don’t let your heart fool you. Your mind knows better. In the moment you’re going to be hurting when you have to turn your heart away, but in the long run you will be grateful that you had the mental strength to stick with what you know deep down inside. As amazing as the heart is and as much as you need it to live, don’t let it deceive you.
4. Protect your mental and physical health
I am one of the many people that stress themselves out way beyond necessary when it comes to school. It’s actually quite ridiculous, and I hope to learn how to manage my stress better, which is why protecting my mental health has become one of my main priorities. When you’re up until the late hours of the night, close to pulling your hair out and letting out a bunch of tears, working on a plethora of assignments, put the textbooks away. Close your computer. Pack your pencils away. And go to sleep. No assignment is worth your sanity. If you get a few points off for turning it in late then so what? You learn from your mistake of procrastinating and make sure it doesn’t happen next time. But don’t ever let school grab your mental health and run with it.
I’m not gonna sit here and tell you to not go to parties, because I admit to going to a few myself. But there’s a difference between going out every so often and having fun, and going out every single night and killing your liver or lungs. I get it, we’re in high school and we want to make memories, I am in the same boat as all of you. But treating your body the proper way so you live long enough to make more memories is essential, and way more important than the amount of time you can chug a beer in. So focus on your physical health. Understand your limits and don’t push them. There will be plenty of times to have fun in the future when our bodies are fully developed.
5. Embrace compliments with an open mind
ReplyDeleteAccept compliments. I know that many of us have a hard time doing so, but accept them even if you don’t agree with them. If a person goes out of their way to tell you they are digging something about your outfit or hair, then go out of your way to say thank you with a smile. If someone tells you that they LOVE how you went with an edgy, messy hairstyle that day when really you just were too tired to brush your hair when you woke up, embrace the compliment. Embrace your un-brushed, edgy hairstyle :) Just because you don’t agree with an idea that someone else thinks about you doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t consider making it work in the future.
6. Give respect
Respect is key. People throw this concept around like it’s nothing, which is unacceptable considering that our country is in desperate need of some respect right about now. It would be a whole lot easier for us to live in our lives if we felt respect in the air around us. It doesn’t take much to be respectful. If you’re at dinner and the meal you ordered comes out wrong, don’t make a scene. Don’t throw your napkin down and leave for the door. Just ask for the meal you ordered. Be respectful. You never know what someone is going through. If we’re all gonna demand respect, why don’t we start with giving it out?
7. Be trustworthy
Trust is constantly taken for granted. Secrets are shared, promises are broken, and we are constantly “exposed”. If someone comes to you with a problem and asks you to keep it between you and them, then keep it. It is not that hard to keep quiet about a topic that shouldn’t be discussed. Be grateful that you are being approached because someone feels as if they can trust you. Do not break the trust.
Although this is the first time I heard on the 7-Point Creed, these morals and my beliefs are not new to me. Here is a list of things I have believed in for a very long time, and will continue to. It is the list of 7 things I live my daily life by:
ReplyDelete1. Be optimistic.
*There is nothing I hate more than negativity, and somehow it seems to be everywhere. I am a firm believer that everything will work out in the end. Why take a bad situation and make it even worse by being pessimistic? It will make life easier and more enjoyable to trust the process, let things play out, and be happy.
2. Confidence/ Self Love.
*Luckily enough, I have always been pretty confident. Being confident opens up new windows of opportunity, that others may not receive. Confident people tend to catch eyes in large groups of people, and most importantly, confidence is contagious. By opening up to others it allows them the comfort of opening up to you, but with confidence you have to have self love. Self love is being genuinely happy. To love yourself you have to be proud of yourself and all your accomplishments. You have to push yourself to your fullest potential, you have to do the best that you know you can.
3. If you want something done, you have to do it yourself.
*Everyday I observe several people who rely on others, they ask for help, or for a favor and then get mad when the outcome is not up to their expectations. Beggars can’t be choosers.
4. Prepare today, for tomorrow.
*Nothing in life comes easy, which is why you have start preparing for five years from now, now. Life happens in fast, so before you know it, I’ll be graduating from college which is why it is important to do the hard work now, so it will smooth sailing later.
5. No excuses.
*Life happens and people make mistakes, but with those mistakes come responsibility, which can only be learned when you stop making excuses. Own up to the things you’ve done wrong.
6.Live with no regrets.
*I would don’t regret anything you’ve done in the past because it makes you who you are, but I don’t believe that. I believe you should think before you act or speak to prevent you from doing things that you would regret.
7.Be remembered.
*Don’t be another name in the paper. Do something to help people. Do something to inspire people. Leave a legacy.
1. Keep an open mind, and don't let other people's opinions sway your personal conceptions. -As an adolescent in the social media era, it's easy to become close minded and see one side of things. For example, because it's easy, look at politics. If you follow mainly liberal accounts that bash conservatives, you will be convinced that conservatives are sent straight from hell. You need balance and need to understand all sides of the story. You also can't base your opinions off of what people you look up to you say. Just because your parents are liberal or conservative, doesn't mean you need to follow the same agenda. Branch off and be your own person.
ReplyDelete2. Control what you can -People stress over things they can't control, which impacts the things you can control. If you're upset about something going on that you can't control, don't let that stop you from being successful or doing what you can to change it. In order for change to happen, everyone must do their individual part. Nothing happens when an individual tries to do too much by themselves.
3. Balance your selfishness. -There are times in life where you have to be selfish and worry about yourself because you come before anybody, but you should always give back and lend a helping hand when possible. If you don't do anything for anyone, what's your purpose?
4. Surround yourself with positive people. -Do not put yourself in an environment that is destined for a train wreck. That's like eating Taco Bell before a championship game. It doesn't add up. Even if the people bringing you negativity are your "friends" they have to go. At the end of the day, they're pulling you back from your true potential, and are parasites to your paradise.
5. Avoid ignorance. -stay updated in world events. Think about what it's like to be in other people's shoes. Understand why people live the way they do, and do not judge their lifestyles. Learning about the things around you does nothing but make a positive impact, and increases your potential to be successful
6. Shoot your shot. -No matter what, your goals should be big and hard to reach. If you aim small and hit small, you never know what you're capable of. If you shoot for the moon and miss, you will still land among the stars
7. Be grateful! -wake up everyday like it's your last, because it might just be. Do not waste your gift of life and the things you've been provided. Once you realize the gifts you have, life becomes more enjoyable and less stressful. You can finally be satisfied no matter how many negatives take part in your life.
My seven point creed:
ReplyDelete1. Kindness is key
Kindness is one of those things you have to cherish. Without it most people will think nothing of you. Making a person feel special and treating them with kindness will make you be loved by the person and people around you. Being kind sets examples for other people so it is some we have to cherish.
2. You judge yourself, not others
Don't let other people judge you because of the way you look, dress, or act. If you have your own style or group of friends that you hang out with, don't let other people judge you because of that. Just be yourself. As long as you are happy then it doesn't matter what other people think about you.
3. You have it better than others
The next time you complain about something that isn't even worth complaining about, don't! Just remember you have it better than others. You shouldn't complain about school when there are people who can't even get an education. You shouldn't complain about the food you eat because there are people without it somewhere else. You have it easy and you have to remember that.
4. Cherish family
Family is everything. Your family are the most important people in your life. Don't ever let family go. Don't ever be mad at your parents for an extended period of time. They love you with all of their heart and so should you. They have made many sacrifices for you. Always keep this in mind.
5. Keep a positive attitude everyday
Always remember to have the best possible attitude you can whenever you are doing something. Keeping a positive attitude will guide you through the toughest of times. People don't embrace this concept enough and dwell in the darkness too long. You don't want to introduce stress into your life and keeping a positive attitude prevents it from happening.
6. Create a legacy
Do as much as you can during your life to be remembered. Be the person who was different. Be the person that worked their ass off to be good at the sport they loved. Be a model for other people around you. Create a legacy so people know who you are and you will be remembered because of that. Create this legacy so people can follow in your footstep's to become successful in the future.
7. Failure is inevitable
Throughout your life you will fail. It is something that is impossible to avoid. But by failing you learn from your mistakes. Unless you are a perfect human being which no one is you will fail. You will learn to correct yourself, better yourself, and become more successful by failing. People don't understand that it is okay to fail. They think it's the end of the world when in reality it's not. It just helps you in the long run.
The seven rules/morals I live by:
ReplyDeleteNever give up, always prove those wrong who undermine you.
For everything you do: perform like you're the best, train like you're the worst.
Never do anything that you wouldn't want children of your own doing, or anything your parents might find disappointing.
Always be strong, all battles you have to face were given to you because you are strong enough to overcome them.
Cherish everything and everyone, you never know when they might disappear.
Everyday, make someone smile, make someone just as happy as you are. Always be kind.
Have a role model, someone to look up to and to receive advice from.
Never give up, always prove those wrong who undermine you. Nothing you want will ever come easy, you have to earn it. There will always be those people that will try and knock you down, stand in your way. You have to prove them wrong, you have to believe in yourself before anyone else does. There has been so many people who have stepped on my dreams and tried throwing away the goals I have, because I'll never make it apparently. You quickly learn that these people never really wanted to help you, only to help you realize that “you're not good enough.” But never will I ever let someone else decide my future for me, I will never give up.
For everything you do: perform like you're the best, train like you're the worst. In life, there'll always be someone better than you, but you shouldn't accept that. Your goal should be to be better than them, to be the best. If you think you're the best you're wrong, you're the worst, you have to have that mentality. I will always follow this, especially when it comes to anything band or music related. If I have an audition I'm going to audition like I know I'm going to make it, like I'm better than the two-hundred other trumpet players that want a seat in All South Jersey. But I'm going to practice like I don't have a chance, that I don't have a chance and I want to be the best.
Never do anything that you wouldn't want children of your own doing, or anything your parents might find disappointing. A lot of teenagers like the “rebellious” look, per say. They like to go against what their parents tell them, not knowing what they could possibly be getting themselves into. Think about it this way, your kid(s). How would you feel if your kid(s) did something that you told them not to do. My biggest fear is being a disappointment to my parents, especially my dad. I will never do anything that I think might disappoint him.
Always be strong, all battles you have to face were given to you because you are strong enough to overcome them. I always look at an “unpleasant” situation like this, God gave you this battle because he knows you are strong enough to get through it. Everything happens for a reason. My dad passing away has made me stronger than I ever thought I could be. It's taught me so many things, he's taught me so many things. Not everything will get better, you have to accept that. But everything comes with a lesson, and you always have to be strong.
Cherish everything and everyone, you never know when they might disappear. Many people take the simplest things for granted, money, food, school, family, parents… People always say “you don't know what have until it's gone.” This to me, is so powerful, probably because I've kind of lived this. My dad leaving me at such a young age taught me that anyone could leave you at anytime. Never take things for granted. When they're gone, they're gone, and they're never coming back.
ReplyDeleteEveryday, make someone smile, make someone just as happy as you are. Always be kind. I love making others smile. Being kind goes such a long way. Holding the door for someone, saying thank you when someone does that for you. Telling someone to have a good day or just giving them a compliment in general or making them laugh. Just always being positive and having a good attitude. It just makes me feel good, being positive and it makes me feel even better seeing someone else smile.
Have a role model, someone to look up to and to receive advice from. I feel that you should always have that one person to look up to and want to be just like. This person will give you an example of what you want to be like when you're older. This person will always give you advice and input when you don't know what to do. My role model is my dad and even though he might not be physically here to give me advice, he will always guide me in the right direction. Because he's looking over me.
Help Others
ReplyDeleteBe honest with yourself
Don’t give up on anyone
Don’t allow anyone to affect your decisions
Learn from your mistakes
Everyone deserves second chances
Be loyal
1. My first creed is help others. I don’t think by allowing someone to fail you are doing yourself any good. I often see people not helping someone because they don’t want the other person to do better than them.I think this is wrong because instead of allowing someone to fail you should be pushing yourself to the best you can do. Helping someone won’t do you any harm so why not be successful and help others be successful too.
2. My second creed is be honest with yourself. What I mean by this is, don’t think of excuses when you know you’re wrong, just accept you’re wrong and choose not to make the same mistake again. Making excuses for yourself is only a disadvantage for you because you’ll soon get used to lying and thinking you’re always right. I know a lot of people who can’t admit they’re wrong because they think they always right and I’m kind of the same way except I’ll admit i'm wrong if I truly know I am wrong.
3. My third creed is don’t give up on anyone. Everyone has their own personal battles they have to fight and they may be very tough or very just an everyday small situation. Not everyone has someone who they can fall back on or rely on. There are people out there who have never had anyone from the beginning and they think everybody who ever enters their life will eventually leave them. I’m personally the type of person who will help anyone whether I like them, hate them, they used to be my friend, or someone who currently is my friend. I don’t think it’s right to kick someone to the curb just because I’m not on friendly terms with them. I will help anyone who ever comes to me no matter how dirty they did me.
4. My fourth creed is don’t allow anyone to affect your decisions. There are times in your life where you come across people who will have bad habits like drinking, smoking, constantly getting into fights, and going to obscene parties. There’s nothing wrong with hanging out with these type of people, but don’t be easily influenced by them just because they think you’re “lame”. Don’t make a decision you know you’ll regret later on in life because a few people think you’re “lame” or “no fun”. You know yourself better than anyone so you know what’s best for you and your future.
5. My fifth creed is learn from your mistakes. Everything and everyone in life are either lessons or blessings. Once you’ve messed up, don’t sit around and cry about the consequences and then after awhile make the same mistake again. Instead, realize what you did was wrong and make sure it doesn’t happen again. People are often lessons and after someone's done you dirty you learn to not trust certain types of people again and that can save you from a lot of negative consequences.
6. My sixth creed is everyone deserves second chances. I do think everyone changes at some point in life no matter how bad they are. They eventually grow up and become mature enough to realize they shouldn’t be doing certain things and they shouldn’t be treating people certain ways. They realize everyone deserves to be treated with respect and it’s wrong to do anyone dirty. Without second chances, people can’t prove they’ve changed. Everybody makes decisions they aren’t proud of and everyone deserves to prove they’ve changed.
Delete7. My seventh creed is be loyal. Loyalty is personally one of the characteristics I find very important. I feel like everyone should be loyal and if you’re not then that says something very negative about you. To me, that means you can’t be trusted with anything you say and I would never believe a single word you’d say. I’d never be in a relationship with someone who isn’t loyal because like other people that would definitely change my perspective on relationships and how everyone else is. I think if one person can be so unloyal to me then another person can be 10x worse. Everyone deserves to be with someone loyal and everyone should be loyal and if you can’t be loyal then you shouldn’t be in a relationship.
1. Keep an open mind: It's not right to judge other people and it's really annoying to see people judge others for no reason. There is no reason to judge someone for anything and it really makes mad to see it so often in today’s world. I always keep an open mind when meeting new people and I don't judge them. I just think about how I don't like to be judged and if I am I don't let affect the way I feel.
ReplyDelete2. Appreciate Family: I always keep my family number one and I spend anytime I get with them. You don't know how long they are going to be here, so it's good to appreciate everything they did for us and what they still do. I especially appreciate my grandma for the wonderful person she is and how happy she makes me feel when I'm around her. I always think it’s good to remember all the things my family has done for me and all the times they were there for me when I needed them most.
3. Appreciate what you have: I am thankful for everything I have and It’s not necessary to complain about anything. I think about the people that have nothing and realize how fortunate I really am. I appreciate everything I have and I know that it could be a lot worse. Some people go through each day in a constant struggle and I realize that this would be a terrible way to live, so I appreciate all that I have.
4. Show Respect: I have always lived showing respect for anybody or anything that deserved it. It’s always good to give people respect because it makes your relationship better. If two people have respect for each other, then you will have a great relationship. I always thought it was good to have respect for people to let them know that you appreciate what they do. When people don’t show respect to people, especially people older than them, it looks bad and I have seen this a lot.
5. Associate with the right people: I like to bring myself around positive people and people who share common interests with me. Your friends really show who you are and that’s why I choose my friends wisely. I have close, genuine, good people as my friends and it really makes a difference in your life. When you are associated with good people it just makes life easier and better.
6. Be kind: There is no reason to be mean to people for no reason. Being kind to not just a certain group of people, but all people, is great because it makes them feel good and it makes you feel good. Judging people and being mean just makes people feel bad and I don’t know how anyone can feel good after being a bully. Being kind is great and I wish everyone was as kind and thoughtful as some people in this world.
7. Give everything your all: Doing something halfway and acting as if it is complete is stupid. Giving something your all and seeing a positive result is a great feeling. This applies for all aspects of life and not just school or things like that. Putting maximum effort into everything is the best way to do things and it makes no sense to do it any other way.
1. Do as many things as you can that make you happy.
ReplyDeleteIf there is one thing I want out of life it is for a majority of my time spent here to be happy. It's definitely not easy to just be happy but I don't want to just simply BE happy, I want to feel happy. What I mean by this is I want to only do things that will make me a better person or that make me happy. Many people tell me that my senior year I should take more history, more science, and more math but those things don't make me happy. Media makes me happy and if film and media end up being things I don't pursue further in life that's okay because it made me happy in the moment.
2. Find beauty in all of nature.
Nature is something easily forgotten but to me it is one of the prettiest things this world has to offer. It will never leave you, it can be as quiet or as loud as you want, as peaceful or as playful as you make it. Something I find beauty in is abandoned buildings surrounded by nature, or rusted things, because they were claimed by nature. I want to hike a lot when I'm older because it is something important to me that makes me happy. As soon as I graduate college I want to buy a truck or a van of the sorts and build a tiny house in the car so I can drive with my house and I want to drive to places where I can hike. One of my other goals is to hike the Appalachian trail. I feel like it will change me as a person.
3. Make a change.
I want to make an impact in peoples lives. Something that I fear is I will reach the end of my time knowing I didn't use my life as an opportunity. Everyone is born with an opportunity to change someones life. I feel as though I've impacted a few peoples lives but I feel like that isn't enough. I want people to remember me and my presence forever. I want to make a positive impact on everyones life that I meet.
4. Learn to love.
This is something I personally have a hard time doing. It is something I wish to accomplish before my life ends though. I want to be able to love someone. I have relationship issues and problems where it's really hard for me to have a relationship with people and actually deeply love someone. Yeah sure I love my family but I know there is a level of love out there that I've never experienced. I think I love my dog the most out of everything in this world.
5. Cherish the people you have with all you have.
I always forget that one day I won't have the people I have right now. The other night I was texting Cameron and I was crying to be honest because I realized that one day I might not even remember Cameron exists. This scared me so much and I started to panic because I don't want to forget any of my friends.
6. Don't let things stress you out.
Don't stress over little things. Imagine your life as a timeline and zoom out to see how tiny this moment is right now. I still have so much time ahead of me and there is no reason to stress over stupid little things like school because honestly it won't matter in 20 years.
7. Be the best version of me I can possibly be.
Gabi’s 7-Point Creed
ReplyDelete* Cherish your loved ones
* Laugh often
* Be your own happiness
* Be easy at forgiving
* Defend your name
* Set high standards
* Be selfish
Cherish your loved ones. Each and every day people are left with guilt and devastation after the loss of a loved one. The devastation is inevitable. No matter how mentally stable or strong willed a person may be, it is in our human DNA to grief. Devastation is an excruciating pain from within that has the power to control your every thought. The only thing worse than devastation is regret. “I should've treated that person better.”, “I should have told that person I love them.”, “I should have never lied to that person.” This is called regretful thinking after a loved one is no longer in your life. Don’t wait until it’s too late. let your loved ones know what they mean to you because people never get the flowers while they can still smell them.
Laugh often. Laughter is what keeps me sane. I laugh when I’m nervous, I laugh when I’m scared, I laugh when I’m angry, but 95% of the time I’m laughing at something I found hilarious. Laughter is a beautiful thing although mine may sound more obnoxious than anything. Laughter can be used as a way to cover negative emotions or express our happiness towards something. Whatever the case, laughter is very convenient and priceless.
Be your own happiness. If you go about your life searching for people or things to fill you up inside, you will be very disappointed. Those things will temporarily put a smile on your face but could never take the place of internal peace. It is your job to make your own happiness and no one can tell you how or where to find it.
Be easy at forgiving. When someone does you wrong the first emotion present inside of you is anger. A Lot of times we are so angry that we don’t realize how it is destroying us. Although we have the right to be angry, we don’t have the right to be angry forever. Forgiveness will set you free. Forgive for yourself. Rather than letting negative thoughts control your mind, let them all go and be free.
Defend your name, it is all you have. Have confidence in yourself and demand respect. If you allow people to belittle you, they will. People will throw dirt on your name every chance they get, It is up to you to brush it off so that it continues to shine.
Set high standards. Set your standards high and let nothing less be acceptable. Expect more out of yourself because more can always be done. When your standards aren't set high you become satisfied with underachieving. High standards can also be set as a reminder to yourself for where you want to end up. My high standards keep me hungry in life.
Be selfish. The world that we live in is very treacherous. In a perfect world people treat us with the same amount of respect that is given, but not in this one. Most of the people that we share this earth with are greedy and strictly worried about themselves. In order to get ahead in life we have to be aware of our surroundings and act selfish also. If you don’t you’ll finish in last place and taken advantage of.
My Seven-Point Creed:
ReplyDelete1.) Treat others the way you want to be treated
I’ve heard people say this since I was little, and since the first time I’ve heard it I have always tried to live by it. I wouldn’t want someone to lie to me, cheat on me, treat me badly, etc. Why would I treat someone badly if they treat me with the utmost respect? Although when someone does treat me bad I try my hardest to not treat them badly back. I just eliminate the negativity.
2.) Stay Loyal
I never talk bad about someone behind their back. I find that if you’re willing to say it behind their back you should be able to say it to their face. When my friends or loved ones aren’t doing what they should be, or aren’t being the kindest I’ll let them know what I think.
3.) Love everyone, don’t discriminate
Why would you just someone for based on their skin color, their sexuality, their religion, their gender, etc. ? I believe we should love everyone unless they give us reason not to. Love them based on their hearts. Skin color, race, sexuality, etc. doesn’t define a person. Everyone bleeds red.
4.) Keep your mind open to other ideas
I’ve had so many conversations with close minded people, those are the most frustrating discussions. I always keep my mind open to other ideas because living life as a close minded person is annoying. Why not atleast listen to what others have to say? Others opinions are never wrong to me their just their opinion.
5.) Live for yourself
If i wanna dye my hair purple, wear a dress shorter than usual, wing my eyeliner more than usual, or wanna change my look in anyway I will. It’s my life and I only get to live it once. I used to live my life for others and was miserable and ever since I’ve changed that it’s gotten better.
6.) Don’t cheat your way through life
Whether it’s cheating on a test, in a game, on your significant other, etc. cheating isn’t cool. You didn’t earn the good grade and you didn’t earn the win. Why go through life faking it? If you think about it, cheating and not earning the grades or whatever it is the right way then you really have nothing you’ve earned. You can’t say you’ve earned anything.
7.) Live life everyday like it’s your last, you aren't promised tomorrow
I try to remember this everyday especially when I’m down in the dumps. I remind myself that tomorrow is a new day. Everyday I try and wake up with a positive attitude because why waste a day being completely negative, you aren’t promised to wake up the next morning.
1. It's okay to fail at times.
ReplyDeleteFailing is a way of learning. Don't be afraid to live life because you may fail. What is the worst that could happen? Get up, and try again. The only way you could learn from your mistakes is if you learn what it feels like to do wrong.
2. Give back.
Giving back will not only impact the receiver's life, but it will change the outlook on yours. Whether it is something as simple as waiting the extra 5 seconds to hold the door open for someone or if it means buying a lunch for someone in need; there are people in this world who struggle tremendously. Do your best to help others whenever you're presented with the opportunity.
3. Hug often.
Hugging is key, in my book. Sometimes all someone needs is a hug in order to know that they are special and worth it. Hugs are priceless and could make your day or someone else's. I feel as if not enough people love or get love in this world, so hug often.
4. Have YOU time.
This is more important than it may seem. With the stress of school and the reality of the world, taking time to relax by yourself is challenging. I believe in order to life a peaceful life, you need to be able to step away and spend time making yourself happy. So finish your homework later. Go take a warm bath, eat that ice cream, and cuddle with your dog. Enjoy life and yourself.
5. Take risks.
In other words, live life to the fullest. If you're gonna die, then you might as well die happy. Loosen up and have some fun. Go out of your comfort zone and do some things you wouldn't normally do. Go bridge jumping, go swimming with the sharks on vacation, go hold that snake.
6. Be honest.
No one likes dishonesty. If you make the effort to be dishonest, then don't try to make the effort to get out of trouble. Pay the price. Accept your fault and don't do it again. This goes for anything. If you're going to be dishonest, good luck being successful.
7. Always do your best.
Put 100% effort into everything you do. It is important to set goals and strive to be better. Dont skimp out on homework or a test just because you're tired of doing it; if you're gonna start it, then finish it with everything you have in you.
1. Believe in yourself
ReplyDeleteBelieve you can accomplish anything you put your mind to. Not believing in yourself creates a negative state of mind and you're completely down on yourself. Get out of your mind and do what you know how to do.
2. Keep your faith
Don't ever go a day without your faith. I believe God has a plan for us and that everything happens for a reason. I trust him with everything. In every happy moment, praise God. In the difficult moments, seek God. In every down moment, trust God.
3. Live in the moment
Life is going by fast, so don't spend each day thinking about the next. Live in each moment and cherish each moment. Dont dwell on the past because you cant go back and change anything. It's done and over with so focus on today and the many opportunities it will bring.
4. Be kind
Be kind to everyone and everything. You never know what someone is going through so don't make their days worse. Even if they seem okay, they may not be. Little acts of kindness can change a person's day.
5. Love yourself
Dont focus on your flaws because they're all unique in some sort of way. You are beautiful just the way you are. You don't have to change or do anything drastic to make yourself look better. Embrace who you are and be happy with what you are.
6. Appreciate your family and friends
Tell your friends and family you love them. They probably don't hear it enough. Thank them for everything they've done.
7. Be grateful
Be grateful for everything you own. Some people are not as fortunate as you. Also be grateful for who you have in your life. Cherish each moment spent with them because in a blink of an eye, they could go away.
1. Don’t underestimate you opposer: The fact that I play sports makes this very important to me. As assuming that your opponent is no competition to you then you have already put yourself in a hole. Not many people realize how bad people want things, and just because of recent events does not mean that you should underestimate or think less of your opponent. Reviewing your opponent is one part but in order to succeed is to be able to find the complete value and succeed against them.
ReplyDelete2. Keep the real friends close: I can read people like a book. It's not hard. I find it hard to keep many of my friendships close to me. I make sure that I never get to attached to people and make sure that I can keep the reals close and make sure I don’t let the fakes in my life and get to know to much about me.
3.Keep relatives closer than any material things: As simple as it is, relatives in your family is the only true blood you have. You will not have anyone more influential in your life. They are more important than any type of hobby of lifestyle that you try to run. You have to keep your priorities in the trunk and make sure to never forget them.
4. Be nice: Being nice is not just making your lifestyle better, but it is making the people around you lives better. You will never realize how far a compliment can go for some people as some people are abused or do not get the type of loving that you get. Everyone in the world needs to be nice. There is always someone that can benefit from you not being a jerk. It is a key compartment for the key of life.
5. Cherish your luck: Do not try to overplay luck for what it was. There is no denying luck and you just disregarding your luck makes the type of luck you get more selfish or ignorant. Luck is a gift, that I believe others have more of. If you want to gamble let's gamble and go all in, but luck may not always get you there, but if it does you should cherish the luck that you receive so willingly. Luck is a gift to few.
6. Respect your parents: There may be no one else in your life. Maybe your parents are not in your life. But what I life by is the fact that I get so much from my parents is a blessing. Your parents put it all on the line for you. The pay for you and get you where you want to be in life. There will be no one who wants any better for you then your parents. Disrespecting them is a lost cause as some are not lucky enough to have them in their presence.
7. Never forget who you are: Always stay true to yourself and make sure you take everything for granted. Don’t forget where you came from and who brought you here. There is no one else in the world that can change you except yourself. It is your personal ways to push yourself and accept your fate. Never forget that you always have yourself.
1 Wasting time is Robbing yourself
ReplyDelete- Time beats us all so don’t take it likely. Some things are not worth our time and its wasted time that we will not get. So many things drain and rod our time away from us. Cough Cough phones. Procrastinated never got you anywhere
2 Build your dreams
-Always pursue your dreams. If you give your dreams up someone will use you to build their dreams. True happiness comes with doing what you love and dream to do.
3 Blood is thicker than water
-Family should always come first. If everyone followed this the world would be a better place. Yes, sometimes family can have your problems but you should always try and make a family work and overcome its problems. Family will always be there for you and will always stand by your side. Some people have family problems but that’s probably because you or someone in your family didn’t put family first.
4 Quick to love slow to anger
- Sometimes there is a misunderstanding. When you are quick to anger you can do things and say things that were not necessary and hurtful for no reason. You should always take a loving approach to get full understanding of the situation before getting all heated.
5 Do not live in ignorance
-Always be appreciative of knowledge and always think for yourself. Always take time to learn something new. Ignorant people are taken advantage of.
6 Always stand for what you believe
- Those who don’t stand for what you believe in stand for nothing. Figure out what you believe and learn about what you believe and gain a full understanding of it. This way you are equipped with armor to stand and fight for what you believe in.
7 Shoot high to get high
- If you never aim to be number 1 then you will never be number one. Always shoot to be your best and that will put you in the right direction.
1. Regret nothing.
ReplyDeleteWe tend to dwell on the things we did--the things that we can't change. We tend to look back on decisions we made and convince ourselves that what we did was wrong, and we spend the rest of our lives looking back, wishing we would have done something differently, or everything differently. But as I've done this for several years of my life, I now understand that regretting things takes more out of us than we know. But more than anything, we should not regret the choices we make because at one point it was exactly what we wanted, and it was the reason that we were happy.
2. Take no one for granted.
Sincerity is a gift. Genuineness is scarce. True, pure love is nearly impossible to find. Don't choose to ignore the good things in life until they're gone. Don't wait to appreciate the little things until it's too late. Because being taken for granted hurts. But what hurts the most is when the person you took for granted leaves just as easily as they once handed out chances.
3. Never settle.
No matter what you have been told, no matter what you believe when it comes to your worth and your ability, you are capable of all things. You are smart enough to go to that school. You are good enough to play for that team. You are devoted enough to earn that degree. You are beautiful enough to win that heart. You can do whatever you set your mind to. Don't ever doubt that, and don't ever sell yourself short.
4. Push your limits.
By that, I don't mean go take 10 shots at the party when you know you'll probably lose consciousness at 6. I don't mean go drive yourself into the ground trying to satisfy someone or to get a grade. When I say push your limits, I mean that you have your limits. You know what you can and can't do. But if you know that you've never been able to do one thing, but every time you try, you get a little bit closer to the goal you're reaching for, then keep going. Don't give up because of the voice in the back of your mind telling you you can't. Push just a little bit further. You got this.
5. Learn who you are, and stay true to that person before anyone else.
Know who you are. Know what you believe in, what you stand for, what you're passionate about. Don't try to get to know anyone else before you figure out who your are. And once you know who that is, don't try to change that. Be happy with exactly who you are and don't ever silence your opinion in any circumstances.
6. Embrace reality.
It is what it is. There's nothing you can do about it. There's nothing you can do to change it, so there's no reason to dwell on it and allow it to effect your life negatively. Accept the facts, acknowledge the positivity of the situation, and know that even when the night sky is cloudy, the stars are still shining behind them.
7. Be the change you wish to see in the world.
We're told our entire lives that we're only one person, and that we can't single-handedly make a difference, and that's one of the biggest lies anyone will ever tell you. You are able to do more than you think, and with a simple attitude change, a simple action, a simple stand, you set an example to others. You become a figure or brilliance. You rub off. You make the change.
1.It's okay to say no.
ReplyDeleteThis is something that took me a while to realize. I can't tell you how many times I've put others needs before mine and stressed myself out. I'm the kind of person that will move heaven and earth for the people I care about and some people take advantage of that. Saying no doesn't make you the bad guy.
2.Honesty really is the best policy.
Lying will get you nowhere.“Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth”- Buddha. Eventually the truth will come out and end up doing nothing but hurt others. Even if you did it with good intentions it will do more harm than good. Lying leads to more lies and hurt feelings. You also can't expect honesty from others if you're not honest with them.
3.Trust your instincts.
If you don't feel comfortable doing something dont. If you get a bad vibe from someone get away as soon as possible.If you feel strongly about something go for it. Trust yourself and follow your gut. Don't let other people's opinions make you second guess yourself.
4.What you put into the world is what you'll get out of it.
I'm a strong believer of this. If you out positive energy into the world it will come back to you and vice versa.
5.Be grateful.
Be grateful for everything you have. The food on the table. The roof over your head. The clothes on your back. Clean water. Your parents or family. Being homeless before has really taught me to appreciate the little things in life. After that experience I don't take anything for granted. It made me grow as a person.
6.You will have bad days.
It's okay to have a bad day. There will be days you can't get out of bed. Days that will make you question your existence. When these days happen feel free to stay in bed, eat your favorite food, and watch your favorite show. Remember that it will pass and it's going to be okay. Please be nice to yourself.
7.Don't compromise yourself
Don't sell out. You are who you are. Don't change that for anyone else.
My Seven Point Creed:
ReplyDelete1. Kindness
We live in a world charged with negativity, judgement, and hate. However, being kind to people is contagious in the sense that it generally makes everyone feel good and not so enraged. If we tolerate each other with kindness regardless of our differences, relationships, or standings, we can compromise to avoid not only the problems we face, but also the proverbial feelings of despair, lack of self worth, and discouragement towards a person.
2. Respect
My biggest pet peeve is people who are very rude. I cannot tolerate rudeness, and it makes me upset as rude people just strive for humiliation and inferiority to them. Depending on the person, I will accordingly alter my tone in who I will talk to when appropriate, such as how I always refer to teachers by their last names. I see respect lacking in many sometimes, and I want to emphasize that even if you may not agree with that person’s views, we must find a way to respect each other and ourselves.
3. Appreciation
My sixteen years has not only been a smooth pathway; it has been a roller-coaster. I’ve dealt with so many issues: issues with myself, issues within my family, or even issues in school, which I’ve all managed to hide and not talk about as no one knows. However, I am so grateful that things were not the way they were, and I am so much better off now. I appreciate everything I have because there are people out there who are struggling and do not have what I have. Things may not be perfect, but I thank God for all I have, like my privilege of receiving an education, when at many times, it is taken for granted. Despite how far I get, I will always remember why I am so appreciative of the wonderful things of my life.
4. Work Hard
This one is pretty self-explanatory. We cannot automatically wish to be on top of a hill from the bottom of it. To reach the apex of the hill, we need to put in energy and force, walking up there until we eventually reach it. The same thing goes with baking. You cannot have a cake with frosting and all its amenities until you make the batter with the ingredients, follow directions, and bake it. Basically, it takes effort for most of us to reach our goals, and if we stand around and do nothing, you will not achieve your desires and regret it. When you work hard, it pays off in the long run to see the successes you have achieved.
5. Perseverance
ReplyDeleteAt those points of time where life gets completely difficult and I feel like giving up or losing motivation, I remind myself why I began pursuing my goal. We go through crazy situations and feel hopelessness, believing we will never succeed and overcome our hardships. However, if we remind ourselves of our purpose, how much we wish to achieve that goal where we want to be, and our overall passion knowing we will have support, it is easier to persevere. Regardless of the situations we might face, we must remember to push through our problems and later look on how much pride we have from doing so and reaching our goals. It may be difficult, but it is possible.
6. Take Appropriate Risks/ Do Not Let Fear Hinder Me
So far, the situations I’ve put myself in due to listening what the opposition told me taught me a lesson. If I do not go with my instinct and pass out on the things I want to do but am hesitant to do so because of fear or the general belief that I am not good enough to do that activity, I will regret it. You never know what you are capable of until you actually try it. Yes, you may not be the best at that specific thing, but at least you can say that you tried and will not live life wondering what might have been if you had just step aside fears and negative opposition. Do not do what people want or think you should do. Do what you want to do, not because you are pressured into it, but because you want to do it with whoever or whatever for the benefit of yourself.
7. Enjoy Life/ Value myself
The craziness of life with schoolwork or work in general leaves us often overly stressed and and anxious, and we often find ourselves in positions where we panic about our lives and continue worrying. This results in us not having time for ourselves or time for fun, so if I want to add another creed, I want to say that we should remember ourselves, our hobbies, and what makes us happy because we do not want to not enjoy ourselves because we have no breaks from the hard work we do.
I’m constantly telling myself these points in order to stay sane because I think way too much and beat myself over all the little mistakes that I’ve done and how I think.
ReplyDeleteBe different ~ I do have a feeling that I need to belong, but I end up stressing myself out about how I act and what I’m expected to do. Sometimes, I just need to relax and tell myself that I don’t need to fit in. It’s okay to be different. Life is more fun where there’s laughter.
Give details ~ My mom is always on me for not talking a lot. Ever since second grade when I had this seemingly ordinary incident, I only gave the necessary details whenever someone asked a question. If someone asked me what grade I was in, I would say 11th, but not my school. I felt like people didn’t want to hear extra stuff and I didn’t want to waste their time, so I don’t like to talk a lot when someone asks a question. I’m slowly learning to give details if anyone is curious because some people do want to listen and there’s less awkward silence. I’ve also missed a lot of opportunities by not being specific enough with my answer and I regret those moments. I also have to remind myself sometimes that whenever I get nervous about bothering someone to ask a question, all they want to do is help, so it’ll be okay.
Stay patient ~ I used to be really good at letting people take their time (or I thought I was). But now I yell whenever I get frustrated, especially at my mom, which I feel bad for doing after the fact. She does everything for me and all I give back is an attitude. I have to remember to stay patient and calm.
Go have fun ~ All I really want to do most of the time is stay at home without anyone bothering me, unless I need them. It’s like procrastination; I have to force myself to do the right thing, which is to go have fun. But, it’s getting a little bit easier to say yes. I feel bad when I don’t feel like going, but I know it’ll be worth it, so I have to remind myself that I can’t sit at home all day every day.
Make a difference ~ I can’t just wish and want for other people to change things. I have to take the initiative and start it myself. I wait and wait for someone to come along and fix things or make the day brighter, but if no one steps up, then I need to be the one who does it. I want to make a difference and have an impact.
Wrong doesn't mean failure ~ It’s hard for me to laugh at my mistakes coming from two parents who expect everything coming from their oldest to be perfect. Mistakes aren’t the end of the world. I just need to start owning up to them. I shy away whenever I’m accused of something wrong and I hate that. I have to tell myself that it’s okay to be wrong.
Accept your weaknesses; Play to your strengths ~ I feel like I have to be good at everything, which I’m obviously not. But, I still get jealous whenever someone can do something I can’t and I know that’s not a good way to live. I know I have qualities that some people would want, which I should be thankful for. I have to work in a team, or else I won’t survive.
My 7-Point creed:
ReplyDelete1. Stay Consistent
2. Love yourself
3. Always Pray
4. Never let others bring you down
5. Be Grateful for what you have
6. Learn how to forgive, but never forget
7. Control your attitude and be happy
Stay Consistent: Consistency is extremely important to me. Without Consistency, it’s like you’re starting all over again, and you basically have wasted your time. Consistency can go for anything. For example, preparing yourself to be better at a sport, being consistent with school, even relationships and friendships. What is the point of starting something if you aren’t going to work hard to continue it, and most importantly progress in it? Consistency is what’s going to help you improve on whatever it is that you’re trying to be consistent with. Sometimes it’s hard for me to stay consistent and I have to remind myself every day in the long run everything will be better for me if I continue to stay constant.
Love yourself: The phrase “Love yourself or nobody will” is very true. How is anyone else supposed to love you or respect you if you don’t even love or respect yourself? They can’t. Having low self-esteem is very common for teenagers, especially females. A lot of girls show that they don’t have high self-esteem by doing things like tearing themselves apart for others or even letting others run all over them, especially boys. I personally do love myself and the skin that I am in and I remind myself everyday of who I am and that I am worth it. I know for a fact that I don’t need anyone but myself.
Always Pray: Honestly, I’m not a very religious person but I do believe in God, and I truly believe that without God, NOTHING is possible. I personally pray to god every day and I truly think that’s what keeps me up and it also keeps a smile on my face. Praying makes everything better and it truly helps, especially when you’re down.
Never let others bring you down: Nobodies opinion or thoughts should ever bring you down or change your mood. It’s very important that you count on yourself to stay happy. There’s a lot of jealous and devious people who don’t want to see you up, and it’s only in your power to keep the negativity away.
Be Grateful for what you have: A lot of people tend to be extremely ungrateful and selfish and when you act like that, that’s when you lose everything you have. People need to realize how fortunate they are. No one realizes what they had until it’s gone.
Learn how to forgive, but never forget: When someone hurts you, your first reaction is to be extremely angry with them and everything that they do and say disgust you. You don’t see yourself every speaking to them anymore and they’re literally “dead” to you. That explains exactly how I am when it comes to forgiveness. I don’t forgive. I hold everything against the person, even when they try to show me that they are truly sorry I give them the hardest time until they finally give up, and I end up getting even more angry at them when I feel as though that they gave up on me. Forgiveness is very important because you can lose someone extremely important to you over something very little. Although, you should forgive, you should never forget. If someone does something to you once, it is very common for them to do it again.
Control your attitude and be happy: I tend to have a very bad attitude and it can be a huge turn off. No one wants to be around a person who is constantly angry at nothing. It can be very annoying. I tend to let everything get to me and it just ruins my whole entire mood and I give everyone a bad vibe. What’s the point of always being upset and angry when you can be happy. Realize all the good things you have in your life and just smile. Smiling and laughter makes everything 100% better, even if you have to fake it.
I believe there should be more than just simply seven points that should be followed to pave the road to success. Success not only money wise, but morally correct as well. But if I could only choose seven they would be the following.
ReplyDelete#1: DO NOT give up: I am a huge believer in the cliche statement “you can achieve anything you set your mind to” as you have most likely noticed in my previous blogs or other pieces written by me. This means I believe no matter what the cost, chase whatever it is that you want to do. Anything that catches your attention is worth a shot. You can achieve anything with enough dedication. This is the basis of everything, because without the ability to chase what you want or what you believe in, life has no meaning and no purpose.
#2: Get your priorities straight: Everyone wants to be involved, sports, clubs, and relationships, which is more than great. But we also must realize the things that are most important to us and our future. For example, grades. Grades are more important than most. It is fun to go out and hang with friends, but when you begin to neglect your academic responsibilities it gets too out of hand. Set priorities and stick to them.
#3: Treat others with the utmost respect: This is also a big one, because you have no idea what anyone has endured through their lifetime. Words are extremely hurtful, more so than physical pain. Physical pain goes away, emotional does not. Never believe for one second that you are above anyone in any way, because we are all equal here.
#4: Today is a great day to start: Many people (me being one of them) often find themselves repeating the infamous line “I'll just do it tomorrow.” Well news flash, tomorrow never comes! Today is the day to start. We all need that push, like a roller coaster of the tippy top of the track, to get us going. Starting is the hardest part, which is why we should get it done and out of the way.
#5: The glass is 100% full, 50% liquid, 50% air: Your attitude mans everything, it's what makes a great day great and a bad day crappy. Your entire outlook on life can change in a matter of moments, and it all depends on how you see things, optimism is key.
#6: You are the company you keep: Every day we get an opportunity to surround ourselves with two kinds of people, those who share our hopes and dreams, and those who can do nothing but bring us down. It doesn't take long before someone starts to “become” who they hang out with, which is why we must make sure we surround ourselves with good role models who make us our best.
#7: Live Your life: No one should be able to tell you what you can and cannot do with your life, if you want something bad enough, go get it. There is always going to be someone trying to get in the way of you and your goal but that should never stop you from doing what you love. Also, do not dwell on the past or over think the future, life in the moment. Enjoy and the simple pleasures in life, because one day (hopefully sometime in the not-so-near future) you won't be able to enjoy them anymore.
My 7 point creed will include the following:
ReplyDeleteDon't let anything get in the way of my happiness. I believe this is pretty straight forward, and if you know me this makes total sense. Happiness is key.
GIve thanks to the Lord. Very blessing in life, even waking up in the morning should not go without appreciation, nothing is promised or deserved. Count every penny you have and thank GOd for those blessings.
Never get too prideful or too down in the dumps. Never let your highs get you too high, never let your lows get you too low. Stay leveled and grounded. I can’t let my head get too big, because that is when you slip up. If you make a mistake or something bad happens you shake it off and carry on. Take everything in life like a grain of salt and don’t let it have a negative aspect on your life.
Love. Never forget to love. Love is something I take very seriously. Always show those you love, how much you love them. Always do what you love; always love your life.
Be a light. Brighten others day. Make sure people are doing well. Make people feel that everything is alright (even when it's not). Give them hope. It could be something as simple as a joke. I try to be the rock and light in my family, so that no matter what situation they can look to me for relief or humor.
Do what makes you happy. At the end of the day if you're not doing what makes you happy you're not living your life right. Yes, sometimes you have obligations that you don’t want to do, but I’m talking in the grander scheme. In the long run always do what makes you happy, whether with a job, the way you live your life, etc. I want to look back on my life and be happy with the choices I made, and know I took advantage of every day I lived and did what made me happy.
Get better everyday. Any day you don’t get better, is a waste of a day. ALways go forward. Look at yourself in the mirror at the end of the day and say “did I get better?” If not my always go to is Studying the Bible to expand my mind or I’ll bust out some pushups. Never end a day without getting better. I refuse to live my life unproductively.
Nicole's 7-Point Creed
ReplyDelete-Always forgive no matter how painful
Forgiveness has never been something easily earned in my family. A lot of them judge each other and hold grudges that they will take to their grave. I have been paying for some dumb things that I did years ago. It is so frustrating living with people never want to forgive you for things as little as missing a dinner or not showing up to a family party because I had other plans. Living with people like that can get really annoying because in every argument I get into with them, they bring up something that happened a year ago. I try my hardest to forgive everyone in my life. It is easier for me to not hold the weight of a grudge against someone else on my shoulders when I can just find a way to forgive them.
-Never have a bad word to say about anyone
I’ve learned my lesson the hard way with this one. Drama is something I always want to avoid because most of it is stupid. The way I stay out of most the dumb fights is by never saying a mean thing about anyone else. It doesn't matter who I’m with or if I can trust them to keep a secret. Most them time, if you talk shit on someone they will find out about it. One way or another it gets out and then a fight starts between two people. Talking shit is not worth the drama that comes with it. No drama = happiness
-Honesty is the best policy
I try to be as honest as I can no matter what. Being honest is the best thing you can do in any situation no matter how hard it can be. Being caught in a lie is awful because that destroys trust between people. If you lie about something once you will need to continue to lie about it for the rest of your life and it will spiral out of control to where you don’t remember what is true. I almost never lie because I like having the trust of other people, it makes me feel good to know that people never think of me as a liar.
-Love your family no matter what
When every friend you have in your life turns out to be horrible you always have your family to turn to. After a bad day you always have your family to tell you everything will be okay. When everyone else fails on you, your family will be there for you. If you don’t love your family then they will leave you and you won’t have that support in your life anymore that everyone needs at some point.
-Never cheat
I’ll be honest that I’ve cheated on things before. Everyone has at one point in their lives. When I got into highschool I realized how cheating will only hurt me in the long run. School really starts to matter freshman year and if you cheat your way through it then you'll get nowhere. Learning someone yourself is a great feeling because you know that you didn't get it from someone else. Being actually smart and understanding something is better than pretending to know something and faking your way through life.
-Always help others in need
I think that good things happen to you if you do good things for others. Whenever I see someone homeless I give them a few bucks. If someone needs help with whatever they are doing then try your best to help them. Being there for other people I believe will always come back to you in good karma. And it is also a pretty good feeling when you help someone in need.
-Never assume
Assuming or jumping to conclusions almost never works. You normally make a fool of yourself when you just to a conclusion that isn't right. I think everyone deserves reasonable doubt before someone assumes that you are guilty of something. Innocent till proven guilty. :)
7 Point Creed-
ReplyDelete1. Always have integrity. When I was younger I used to watch my older brother do things behind my parents back and I didn't want that to be me so I decided to, even when no one's watching, do the right thing.
2. Live life to it's fullest. Now yes some of you may think, "live life to it's fullest", oh that means to party all day everyday. No, that is not what it means to me it actually means to be prideful and grateful for what you have because some people don't have those luxuries.
3. Family first. My family always comes first no matter the occasion. One year I had a championship game for soccer that could've sent us to regionals but my Grandpa was diagnosed with MS that day so I went to see him instead.
4. Treat others the way you want to be treated. If you don't like being called names then don't call other people names. I know I hate it when people call me names so why would I be equal to that person, I'd rather be the better man.
5. 100% Maximum effort. No matter how hard the situation always try your hardest and do your best because it's better to try 100% and fail than to try 50% and cheat and pass.
6. Leadership. I was always taught to not be a follower of the bad ways in life but to become a leader in the good things.
7. Do something with your life. I’ve seen so many people even my friends go nowhere in life or not know what to do later on after school; that’s why ever since I was young I always had a plan with what to do with my life.
1.Try to attend church at least twice a month
ReplyDeleteYou have to do this as you get older to keep your connection with god because as your schedule gets more difficult it's going to only get harder and harder to attend church. But if you say you'll go at least twice a month you can have more time to manage and fit church into your day.
2.Never hold a grudge
Yes, people do dumb things that will hurt you throughout your life but things happen and people mess up sometimes. Just think if you did something you would soon regret would you want that person to hold a grudge? Probably not so why hold grudges on other people.
3. Remember you have to give respect to recieve it
If you don't treat others with respect don't expect to get respect back that simple, because nowadays in America people need respect. But if a person doesn't respect you don't respect them simple as that.
4. Always do what's best for you and the people you love
Remember that the people that love you are going to be by your side no matter what if they really love you so think about them and yourself when you're making decisions in life because that the people your actions are going to affect most.
5. Never change the way you are
In today's society people like to tell others how to live there life, and try to degrade them if they aren't like everyone else and if that's the case be fine being you because that's what really matters. Other people's opinions shouldn't have anything to do with how you live your life
6. Always have fun
Life is about living and having fun so don't go through your life being all depressed, find something you love doing and try to do it as much as possible so you can enjoy your life more than the day before.
7. Get rich or die trying
Remember you can live without millions of dollars. But living paycheck to paycheck isn't how you imagined your adult life being go think of ways to get rich and do it. It's going to be rough, but no one said becoming a millionaire was easy, so keep grinding until you get where you want to get so you can support your family and do everything you want to do in life.
1. Dont put others before you.
ReplyDeleteToo many times I have been put into a situation where I literally drop what I'm doing to attend to someone elses needs. And as ridiculous as that sounds, it's true. So what I mean by this is that I need to put myself first before anyone or anything else. It's definitely not good to be so faithful to anyone as a friend or girlfriend that you would feel the need to put them before yourself. And I have done it way too many times. And it hurts to know that they wouldn't do the same back. So at this point, it's good to be selfish when it comes to your needs versus someone elses.
2. Be grateful.
Since I was born, I have always been spoiled. I have always been a brat. I have always been an ungrateful bitch. Well atleast that's what most of my cousins tell me. But I kind of see it and it disappoints me that it took this long for me to notice it and try and change the way I am. But it's definitely true that I am all of those things. And it's important for me to be grateful because not everyone is fortunate enough to get what I receive. And it's even a blessing to have a roof over my head and parents that feed me. However, I have learned to thank everyone for what they have given me and appreciate all of the things I am given-No matter how small or big.
3. Be generous.
Going along with being grateful, it takes someone who knows that there aren't people as fortunate as you to be generous. Being generous to me is giving donations, giving my time to people in need, giving money to the people on the street, offering my help, or even just being nice. It feels good to be generous, it brushes off a lot of weight on my shoulders.
4. Be family-orientated.
I feel as though technology has taken over this generation. Many times I have been told by my step mom that my sisters have complained about me being too mean, not spending time with them, and the worst one..... that they wish I wasn't their sister. And these things hurt to know honestly, and it made me cry a few times when I thought about it too much. And the reason they say this is because I spend my time too much on my phone and literally do nothing else but look at it or stay to myself. However, I have learned to change my ways. Being family-orientated to me means to stay off of my phone, and pay attention to my family by spreading the love that we all desire and deserve. It doesn't bother me as much as I thought it would, especially because now my sisters tell my step mom that they love me so much.
5. Learn when to be mean.
Ok. I'm not saying that I can't be mean. But I'm saying I need to be mean when it comes to certain things. By. saying this I mean, standing up for myself, not letting someone else talk me down or call me names. Many times girls have gotten away with calling me out of my name and stooping me down a level. Although it doesn't really bother me, I don't want to be "bitched” I definitely don't want to have people not respect me.
6. It's ok to be wrong.
I have gotten in many many arguments due to the fact that I can't accept being wrong. In a way, being wrong makes me feel as though I am being defeated. For some reason I just cant be wrong and if I am, I find a way to be right or just argue my way out of it. I want to be able to say ok, "yes I am wrong" and not have a problem with it. This would be very satisfying because I honestly do feel bad when drag an argument on with my boyfriend because I cant just tell him he's right.
7. Don't let others take you for granted.
ReplyDeleteWhat I mean by this is that I have been known to easily forgive. No matter what, I forgive. My boyfriend has offended me many times and it hurt but when he apologizes "I'm sorry babe, you know I love you" I easily forgive him and forget about what he did. My friends have betrayed me other times also and one happened to be on my birthday this year. The situation was where they decided to ditch me and lie and say they were going home when in reality they went to hangout with some boys. It hurt a lot and I cried.. and I got into a huge argument with them. And all they kept saying was a bunch of excuses that didn't add up at all. And in the end, after their long paragraph apologies, a couple of videos put on a flipagram, and them saying that they would make it up to me, I forgave them. Alright, so I got a little carried away.... anyways what I'm trying to say is even for the most messed up things, I still find a way to forgive and forget. So, as a result I get taken for granted. And I really want to stop that, by doing so I have to fight the urge to forgive with "it's ok" and instead bring out the "it's not ok" and this would also mean, losing a few friends. This one is very important to me because I really dont want to be the person that everyone just uses and treats however they want because I easily forgive.
Positivity All The Way-
ReplyDeleteSmile. Have happy thoughts. Laugh.
This, I have to say, means a lot to me. Every day I go to school with a bright, wide smile and my friends would say I seem unexpectedly giddy or peppy. Maybe it is due to the lack of sleep I get on school days, but I like showing people my smile and laughter just because I like seeing the smile and laughter they return to me. It is surprisingly to say, but I used to be super gloomy, always down in the dumps, which probably attracted people to stay away from me. That is probably why I hold this one quote dearly. Compared to the negative thoughts I used to have, I feel happier with positive thinking. Be positive. Think positive. And everything will be alright.
Fight Till The End-
I am a stubborn fool. I simply do not like to give things up easily. You give me a puzzle to solve, I solve it till the end. You hand me a task, I see it till the end. I like seeing the results of things and not give up halfway. What is the meaning if you are only going to give up so easily? Why bother trying so hard to start something only to see bad results in the end? Do not give up. Be strong. Stay strong. Even when things seem so wrong, so hectic, keep going. Do not break down just because of a measly obstacle. Stand up and push forward.
Be A Helping Hand-
If someone is troubled, offer them your hand. If someone needs your help, do not refuse. To me, it does not matter who they are whether they are someone you like, someone you hate, someone you do not know, a criminal, a hero. If they need help, give them the help! When I mentioned criminal before, I do not mean help them rob a bank or be an accomplice in murder. I mean, if they are at lost because their old grandmother is dying and needs medical attention, help them. Just because that person is someone you do not like, does not mean you have to be heartless towards them. My heart refuses to be that cold. It goes against my entire existence to be a bitch. Ignoring someone who needs my help just does not sit right with me.
Be A Silent Ninja-
Observation is key. Never speak up unless there is a need to.
I go by this a lot. Maybe I worded this weirdly, but I truly believe this is a right thing to do. I tend to keep things to myself a lot. I rarely go and throw out my opinions to the world, only because I find that unnecessary. Why say something if you know that it will just add fuel to the fire? I personally, just like to stay on the neutral side. And I like observing things. Not just things, but the tiny details people often miss. I pay close attention to the way people act and dress. I pay close attention to the posture they have and the movements they make with their body as they stand in front of an audience. I feel with just that, I get to really know a person, but that could be the psycho me talking. I also pay attention to nature. I often take scenic pictures and post them on the internet for people to see, just to get them to notice ordinary things looking not so ordinary. There are times where I even prefer to listen to the birds sing than listening to Pandora. Sometimes people need to see the small things in life, you know. Maybe if I deleted this whole paragraph and had just written: “Notice the details around you” would make this one point not sound so creepy.
Appreciate What The World Has Given You-
If there is one grain of rice left in your bowl, EAT THAT GRAIN OF RICE! I am a real stickler when it comes to people who do not seem to appreciate what they have, especially when I see food being wasted. I often see people disrespect the things they take for granted like their education, their family, AND the public bathroom stalls. Like last week, when I went into the bathroom, you would not BELIEVE what I saw in that toilet! Just thinking about it makes me sick to my stomach. Bleh. But anyway, people tend to forget about the small details and pay no respect for the things given to them. Being thoughtful and treating what they have kindly is all that I ask.
Stay Open-Minded-
DeleteListen to people’s opinions. Accept their point of view.
I like hearing other’s opinions on things and I like it when people help critique some of my writing (only because I frequently phrase my sentences weirdly). Hearing what other people have to say allows me to see things in different perspectives. Not only that, but sometimes, when the world changes so fast, it surprises you to the point you do not accept the change. I know some people and have heard of stories about people who refuses to listen to what others say. Like there was this one pizza dude who refused to change the way he makes pizza and his pizzeria is slowly losing business. His family keeps telling him to change, but he just would not listen even when he fully knows that he is losing customers. Change is not always good, but sometimes you need to consider the change and think about. Do not just toss it to the side. It would not do you any good.
Stand Up To Challenges-
I agree. Challenges are scary. There is nothing else more scarier than to gather up your courage and facing challenges. But there is nothing more satisfying than overcoming those challenges. Over the years, I have faced a couple of challenges myself and there have never been a time where I felt bad about saying “yes” to those choices. Like that time where I finally caught a ball in dodgeball, or that time where I joined tennis, or even those many times where I gathered up my courage and spoke to strangers who I am now able to call “friends”. Challenges are scary, but sometimes, you just need to take that leap and cross over the line between your fears and a whole new world you have yet to experience.
1) Treat others the way you wish to be treated:
ReplyDeleteThis is one of the first things I think of because the most other parts of my creed basically have to do with treating others the way you wish to be treated. As any self-respecting person, I will never wish for someone to mistreat me. So what would be the point of doing badly to others, if you know that they would most likely do bad to you as well? The only type of person I could think of that would wish bad things upon themselves are masochists.
2)Don’t interfere in others people's lives unless asked to do so/Don’t bring people into your own problems if it has nothing to do with them:
Now, I know there are many reasons as to why it would be perfectly fine, if not essential, for someone to intervene with another's life, but think about situations that aren’t as dire: someone wondering if they should ask someone out for example. Why would it be my business to persuade someone of who they should date? Unless the person they plan to date would be dangerous to their physical or mental being then I would not intervene, and in that case I would not jump in if I was not close to you. In my eyes, a person’s business is there own as my business is my own. If I am not asked to have an opinion on something, then I will keep my words to myself. If I never ask for someone’s opinion, I expect them to keep their mouth’s shut.
3) Be as just and fair as possible:
It is so hard to do what the fair and just option is, when there is an option that will benefit you. I can’t even think about choosing what is best for me when it is neither fair nor just. Even if I did do that, I would have to go back to whomever I did something to and fix my wrong doings.
4) Respect others and your surroundings:
Respecting others is always a basic moral. And I don’t mean respect in the sense of admiration. I mean respect in the sense of acknowledging those around you. But this is surprisingly hard to do. There are many reasons as to why this is difficult but it's usually because it is not in one's best self interest.
5) Be tolerant of different ways of life:
There are different cultures, religions, beliefs, and status’ all over the world and in the community people live in. As there is different ways of life, to us, these ways may seem strange and absurd to us. That is when tolerance comes in. To coexist with all different walks of life we must show tolerance to attempt to live peacefully amongst each other.
6) Try your best to remain self-control:
Self-control is what keeps us from making rash decisions that impact our lives and the lives of others around us. Maintaining self-control will make sure that you are not making decisions that will ruin something you worked hard for.
7) Be sensible:
Being sensible allows for me to use knowledge as one of my leading ways of making decisions.
My seven point creed aka my moral compass that I follow from time to time are:
ReplyDelete1) Be grateful for what you have for others are unfortunate
I feel like this creed is a life lesson to be learned because every individual is different in their own way.Some are lucky to have everything go their way while some others are not. A substantial amount of people will always complain they hate this or that, they don’t want this, they want something else. They should at least be grateful what they want is coming to fruition. You may hate the food that you get, school, your parents, family, friends, clothes, a house, a car etc. ( You know where this is going) Well, I say wake up and smell the coffee because at least you have is in front of you. Others are unfortunate to have food to it, a house over their heads, clothes to wear, money, an available transportation, family to support and live together in harmony with, friends to have fun with, an education to make a path towards the future etc. Overall be thankful for what you have. At least you been blessed to have a great future or opportunity ahead of you. This creed helps me to appreciate things more and see better things in life.
2) Give a helping hand to those who need it
This is basically what I do everyday. Majority which is in school. That’s why I always stay after school a lot. (Clubs, activities, events etc.) I will always assist anyone in need. Whatever free time I have I would sacrifice it to help anyone. Giving a helping hand is the right thing to do. Knowing that you lifted a giant weight on their shoulders and making them feel at ease is pretty incredible. You never know they in return will help you also. Almost like a symbiotic relationship. Through helping someone, you may gain a friend whom may help you in the future.
3) Leave the past behind and look forward to the future
It’s hard to keep this creed but I always attempt to keep it. Leaving the past behind is hard for people. Usually the factors of it is either forgiving, regret, or the wish to stop time and restart everything all over again. Well in my perspective staying in the past will destroy you. It will lead you nowhere. Only in circles. The past is long go we can’t change it so we have to deal with it. The future is something we can look forward to. You can change and shape the future in any form you want it to be. The future is where you can make a new living, a new you, or correct your mistakes to live a better life.
4) Life is so short and precious, so give thanks to God
There’s a saying live life to the fullest which is true. Don’t be timid, be active. Being active can help you navigate life easily without difficulties. Thank God for what he has done in your life. All the great things you’ve accomplish would not be possible without him. Whether it in school, sports, home or work etc. Through God everything is possible. He guides you, protects you and loves you without a doubt. You are never alone for God is with you and is always by your side.
5) Each and every individual is talented and unique
ReplyDeleteNo matter what you say ( I don’t have a talent, I’m weird, I’m useless, I’m not unique etc.) You are dead wrong. We all have a talent. It’s there but your eyes fail to see it. Talents come in different forms. Yeah being able to draw, sing, dance, act, being athletic, smart may be the main ones but it could be; being able to connect with everyone so easily, looking at things in a creative way etc. We are all unique. Our personalities is what make each and every individual unique in this world. Variety is key. It makes the atmosphere in the world balance.
6) The limit does not exist
You may have heard this from “Mean Girls” Well the way I see it is that anyone can do anything if they put their minds to it. The path may be challenging but through willpower it’s easy breezy. We are the ones whom put limits on ourselves we usually lack the willpower. For example everyone is a genius and has the skills to prove it but we tend not to even bother and slack off or not even attempt it. If we are able to stop that sluggish behavior, have the strongest willpower then the limit we put ourselves would cease to exist.
7) Generosity is key to life
Being generous is what everyone what to see in people. It lets everyone know that the atmosphere around you is pleasant and calm. In some cases, if you are kind to others, you will be pay back a thousand fold. It makes the world go round. Generosity will build and expand connections with people. It will brighten everyone’s day. Through generosity your life would be a wonderful one.
There are many creeds people can pick to follow. Normally there are mainly seven creeds that one follows. The thing is, does one really follow it through? Does one follow their creed 24/7? Is it just talk or do people really follow it throughout? Having a 7-point creed may just be for show, however, they are what we want to use as guidelines for our actions. My 7-point creed as follows:
ReplyDelete1. Love yourself.
This may seem generic, but it is really important. If you can’t love yourself, how can you love others. If you see yourself as a mistake then you will start acting like a mistake. If you can appreciate the way you are, all the negative emotions are no more and now there’s room for positive emotions. Positive emotions lead to a positive day. You have to love yourself because you are different than everyone else and that’s OK.
2. Let your regrets wash away.
Not a day goes by when you could have done better. But the past is the past. The present is now. One, out of many, quote from Buddha goes, “Do not dwell in the past, do not dream of the future, concentrate the mind on the present.” I always think about what I could have done better. I also dream about a future where it looks possible but at my current state, it’s impossible. Either way, thinking of the past regrets and the future are not good for the mind. You have to think about the present and do what you think is best. What’s done is done.
3. Blood.
Blood meaning family. Family are people you have a deep bond to. They are the people you grew up with when you were young and they are the people who take care of you at your current age. I have a younger brother with a wide age gap. 13 years difference. Unexpected but that doesn’t matter. He’s my very own brother. Sadly I don’t live with him but whenever I call him or he calls me, he always makes my day. The little troublemaker that he is, he is a Brit after all, he is still my brother and it is responsibility to do my best as his older brother.
4. Show some respect.
You don’t know how someone lives. You whine about your own life while there are people who live a harsher life. And you, none the wiser, treat that person like dirt. You should always show some respect regardless to who it is. This creed is not really one I follow 24/7 however, this creed is really important to being a nicer person.
5. Charity.
You don’t have to fork over tens of thousands of dollars to charity. A little bit makes a difference. It doesn’t have to be just money. Talking to someone counts. Compliments are free to give. Who knows? You can make someone’s day by a few words. Your life may be worse but as I said before, there are others who are in much worse conditions. If you give a little of your time, you can help ease their day a little.
6. Forbearance.
Rushing is never good. Rushing to do homework right before it is due doesn’t help you learn. Being patient and taking your time is key to learning. When I rush to get work done, I don’t really learn what I’m doing. Taking each part of the work patiently helps a lot. Rushing to conclusions can really turn you old. Always wait and hear people out before you conclude something offending about someone.
7. Uprightness.
Always be honest. Not what I do all the time, but something that is good for the inner body. Being dishonest dirties the body. When someone asks you a serious question and you say the answer that is more beneficial to you is showing greed and when the answer is a lie, it is something ever worse than greed. You should never lie to a teacher, a real friend, and family. If you can’t be honest to other people, how can you be honest to yourself.
I. Take one step at a time - That feeling is all too familiar as a high school student. You’re assigned loads of homework, participate in after school activities, you’re trying to earn money from a job you have no time for, and on top of it all there’s zero time to get any sleep. The stress can be too much sometimes, but I have formulated the perfect solution to assuage all the pressure. The big secret is…you need to just take one thing at a time. I know, unexpected right? For example, when the big picture is too overwhelming, look at the smaller pictures. Don’t stress over everything at once. Breathe and focus on one particular thing, then the next. This goes for everything in your life. You aren’t a miracle worker and you can’t get everything done at once. Some things take time and patience. Don’t rush yourself, but be persistent.
ReplyDeleteII. Make peace with the past - Regret something? Stop. Made a mistake? Stop thinking about it. Move on because no matter how much you dwell over something, it won’t change. I have to constantly remind myself that there is no time machine or time turner where I can change previous actions. What’s done is done.
III. Time heals almost everything - Time should be your best friend, not your enemy. Either now or later. You want to be happy now? Go make it happen, go live out your dream or go ask that girl out you’ve been crushing on for months. On the other side, time can benefit you in another way. Sometimes people feel like they’re in a bad place in their life and everything is going wrong. But believe me, as time goes on and you grow as a person and encounter different people, it will get better. Similarly, if you’re sad, give it some time and something good will happen. Or if you’re the more adventurous type, go out now and make yourself happy. Either way, time doesn’t hurt you, it only helps you and is a guide.
IV. Believe in miracles - Now I’m not saying you will wake up one day and be surrounded by stacks of money and live in a grand mansion, but good things can happen. Why live your life as a pessimist, when you can live with an open and optimistic mind. Who knows, maybe one day that quiet kid in the back of the room becomes the world’s smartest person and makes millions off of their new technology. You probably wouldn’t have expected miraculous results from that kid, but miracles can happen. In another case, you might believe you’ll never find the one…but miracles can happen.
V. Sometimes, your best friends know you better than you know yourself, just listen to them…even if they sound crazy - Everyone is going to face a down period in life whether you go through a horrible breakup or you lose your job, etc. And you know what, all you need is that one person that’s going to be there for you and smack you right across the face and say “Wake up and get moving”. For this reason, it is essential for everyone to have that one person that motivates and pushes you for the better. That person should know for every situation what it entails to get the ball rolling and knows exactly what to say to get that outcome out of you.
VI. It’s easier to ask for forgiveness than for permission - Don’t lie, we all possess that little rebellion side somewhere inside of us. Don’t act like a lunatic 24/7, but use it when needed. Sometimes there are moments when you know what is morally right and you realize in your heart you just have to do it. For me, it’s sticking up for my friends, even if it’s breaking the rules, but only on necessary occasions. Know the rules and the limits, but also know when there’s that certain point where you have to follow your gut.
DeleteVII. Ask questions like you’re a Kindergartener, but also have the knowledge of an 80 year old - Never ever be content with your brain and the knowledge that fills it. The world is a ginormous place and what’s the fun of not exploring and experiencing it. Everyday continue asking: what, where, why, how, and who. There’s never too much you can know, and take every experience as a lesson and hold it inside of you forever. Pass it down to your kids or your peers. Spread the knowledge, and therefore that’s spreading happiness. Teach someone about your life and listen to other people’s journeys. Interact with other people, learn about diversity, and overall just be aware of your surroundings because one day, you’re not going to be on this Earth anymore, so take in everything.
1.Stay HUNGRY
ReplyDeleteAlways, and I mean always, keep striving to do more, to achieve more, to be more. Keep on the prowl, search for opportunities, and grasp them in your hands. Never become complacent, because once you do, you will fall. As long as you have a strong desire, anything becomes possible. To me, staying hungry means I will always ascend. It means I will fight tooth and nail to try to get the prize, no matter who stands in my way. It could be the smartest kid,or the strongest kid, nothing can keep me away from what I seek. I want to stay hungry, and I want to be so hungry that it manifests into an obsession, an obsession with getting more. Once I achieve my goal, I will move on to the next, always climbing the ladder. I chose this because I see people who have had their fill all around me. They are sleepy, groggy or otherwise have no intention of moving. Being surrounded by them has made me lackluster, and recently I feel as if I had just woken up. I see the danger all around me, and I now am in high alert. Now I need to be hungry again, and I’ll make success my main course.
2. Live like Larry
By this I mean, live life to its fullest. This depends on the person. For some people, it means they need to go crazy, maybe skydive, or tightrope. To me, it just means to live. People just go through life, letting it pass by them. I think that is one of the worst things you could do in life, seeing as it is so short. People say I am stuck in the past sometimes, but that is because I realized just how much time passed. I am about to become an adult, and I can barely remember anything before I was 10 years old. These days I soak every day in, I make the most of it, because I know I can never do it again. Things I could have done, but didn’t haunt me, and I never want that to happen again. I chose this because back in the 8th grade, a really good friend of mine would always say “Livin’ like Larry” (from Spongebob) and I would repeat it back to her, and I’ll never forget it.
3. Be Legendary
Make your name known. Be the best you can be. Just do it. Be the only one standing when everyone is sitting. Have something that is special to you. To be one of the masses is not what I aim to be, and it is definitely not why I am on here. I know I can do it. I have to blaze a trail with a fire so magnificent, its mark will be left for centuries. I want to be the best there ever was, and if I fail, I’ll at least have worked my way up somewhere high.I chose this because one of my biggest fears is oblivion, and that can only be countered with fame.
4. Battle the World
This means that you have to keep on fighting, and never take things lying down. If you do not understand something, do not shy away, but instead, combat your own unintelligence. If you sense injustice, erase it. If something or somebody is holding you down, break free of its shackles, and soar. I can be a pushover sometimes, and I hate it. I want to be able to make my voice heard, and my feelings known. If you do not accept it, fine, but I will get my way in the end, or die trying (not literally, ain’t nobody got time for dying). I chose this because this is something I want to do personally. I want to verbalize it, so I can kind of force myself to do it.
5. Laugh a lot
DeleteEnjoy yourself, regardless of what others may say. Squeeze every last bit of laughter out, it is good for your health, and I am definitely going to live long. Your humor is your humor, and do not let anyone else try to change that. To me, this just means keep joking. A lot of people will say that I’m annoying, and that it ISN’T funny, but it is and I do not care what you have to say. As long as I am laughing in the end, that is okay. I take great pleasure in making other people laugh, so instead of being a stick in the mud, I believe people should laugh along with me. If you don’t, that is fine, but I won’t stop. I chose this because this is one of, if not, my oldest rules, dating back to fetus Tobi. They say I came out the womb laughing. Laughter and me go hand in hand, and I enjoy its company.
6. Stay focused
This means keep your goals in sight. Eyes on the prize, as they say. Follow the light, and you will surely find your way. If you stay on the straight and narrow, you won’t ever get lost. I like this a lot, and am currently doing my best to keep this one, although it is hard. You can often get distracted by those around you, or by other worldly things. I just have to keep following my dreams, however crazy they seem. I chose this because I feel as if though this should be on everyone’s list. It is a must have.
7. Know PAIN
No, this doesn’t mean hurt yourself. This means that you should strive to understand one another, and share in each other’s pain. By sharing pain, people are able to connect to each other on an emotional level. By experiencing pain, you are able to understand things you never thought you would. Being insensitive is one of the worst things you can do, and those who do not understand the pain of others often inflict greater pain. That is what knowing pain means to me.I chose this because I will never forget it. The first time I heard this, it just stuck with me. I often feel disconnected with some students, and this is the reason why, I am sure of it. If I can understand them, and feel for them, then and only then, will we be able to know each other.
1. Analyze things.
ReplyDeleteI believe that analyzing is always a good thing to help keep from making bad decisions. This can apply to common things such as when you notice the teacher is about to lash out and you should keep quiet, or other things such as who is worth befriending based on personality traits and actions. No, I'm not saying to judge a book by its cover, however speech patterns that clue into personality and certain actions that show true character are good things to analyze in people before getting too close to them. This is mainly because it's not wise to hang around people who will be detrimental to you, or even make decisions that are detrimental, so analyzing the situation, people, or many other things is one of my ways of life.
2. Prepare for things; the best preparation for good work tomorrow is to do good work today.
As Benjamin Franklin once said, " By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail." I believe that preparation is a large aspect of maintaining a clear and stable mind. If you are constantly becoming stressed over things, being prepared is a great way to help alleviate that stress. Personally, if I prepare for something in advance( let's say a project) then it helps me out in the long run because I will not have to stress about it at the last moment. This is immensely helpful, and why preparation is a creed I live by.
3. Knowledge is power.
It's always good to know things and knowledge will always be useful. It is said that knowing is half the battle and there is some truth to that which I am inclined to believe. I believe that knowing things and being educated on many different subjects cannot be a detriment; that only good things can come with knowledge. I enjoy knowing things and wish to learn more (however maybe in a more relaxed manner than school) and this curiosity will never change throughout my life.
4. Friends are valuable.
No, not for their organs (bad joke, but it's the first thing that came to mind after hanging around so many people going into the medical business). I believe you can never truly replace good friends because everyone is slightly unique. Memories cannot be remade and making the best of them with people I can be friends with for life is one of the small things that is important to me. People cannot be replaced and I find comfort in knowing that I have some great friends.
5. Do not act rashly (unless absolutely necessary)
Self-control is large part of who I am. I tend to think things out and weigh pros and cons before I do something, no matter how enraged or emotional I am. Thinking things through and exerting self-control helps more than it hurts and is something that everyone should do more. Today, people are way too emotional and impulsive; not reserved in the slightest about what comments come out of their mouths in the place that they are. The amount of stupid comments I hear just around school alone makes me want to just stop and shut myself down until I can comprehend the stupidity that they are spewing. If people had some self-control, this world would be thousands of times more peaceful.
6. Never show your full potential.
I always leave some room to do better so it seems like I'm doing better when in reality I'm just being a little less lazy in whatever it is I'm doing. Really though, I believe that it is always good to leave some room to work with in whatever you do. I never show my full potential for a couple of reasons. The main one being, I just don't feel like it. Why should I? Slightly higher recognition? Whoop-dee-doo! Now (my second reason) there is more expected from me! Hooray for more work and harsher comparisons to my previous work! No, I'd rather avoid the trouble and leave some insights and potential to myself. Letting people underestimate you can be very beneficial if you play it correctly, giving people a pleasant surprise when you exceed their expectations, which is why I choose to live by this creed.
7. Always be comfy.
ReplyDeleteI love being comfy, and will always strive for the most luxurious comfort available. It's one of my main reasons for striving for success. I mainly care about getting a high paying job and living in a good area for one reason: comfort. The good job is so I can buy the comfiest bed possible and the comfiest clothes, while the good area is so I can sleep without outside noise disturbing me. Some other things are in there too, however those are the main reasons. In the end, I just want to relax in comfort.
My 7-Point Creed
ReplyDelete1. Don’t change yourself for others.
2. Numbers don't define you.
3. Live your life knowing you’re living it to the best of your ability.
4. It's okay to cry.
5. Nothing will ever be handed to you.
6. It's okay to ask for help but don’t take advantage of people.
7. You're worth something to someone.
7-Point Creed Explained:
1. Don't change yourself for others.
Have you ever heard of people changing ever since they became friends with someone else? There are lots of times where people try to become other people. They forget who they are and become a different person. I hate that. I believe being yourself is one of the best gifts you are born with. You shouldn’t change yourself for others because you abandon your true self and become a duplicate of someone else. This is my first point because I love being unique. There’s something special about each and every being on this planet and if someone tries to change you then they aren’t your friend.
2. Numbers don't define you.
For a very long period of my life, I've believed numbers were everything. Coming from an Asian background, numbers mean so much and if your number isn't high enough, you're cut. Class rank and grades were always on my list of priorities. My brother was always better at me grade wise. He's always at the top of his class and has straight 100s. My parents always compared me to him and asked why I didn't do as well as he did. I tore myself apart for not doing well in school. But that was the old me. Numbers don't have a meaning. Unlike words, numbers don't have a dictionary definition. You can't look up what a 1500 on the SATs is. The reason why numbers hold value in our society is because we give it power. If you realize that numbers don't mean anything then they won't have any value.
3. Live your life knowing you’re living it to the best of your ability.
Out of all my points this is the simplest yet most confusing one. This creed simply means that if you’re not having fun, then what are you doing? Life is too short to worry about all that nonsense. If you aren’t living your life happily, then there’s something wrong. I chose this as my third point because I believe that life should be lived to it’s fullest potential and that if it isn’t then you have to change it so that it is.
4. It’s okay to cry.
This creed holds a lot of value to me. Growing up as an Asian male, my father always told me never to express my emotions and especially not to cry because I’d be seen as weak. If you know me, you know that I cry a lot. I’m going against everything my father says by doing this. I don’t see crying as being weak but rather as relieving stress and frustration. It’s not healthy to hold in your tears. I chose this at my fourth point specifically for myself. Since I shed tears lots of times, I often wonder if it’s okay to. This is a reminder to myself that although others may think that I’m weak, it’s simply an act of getting rid of the stress.
5. Nothing will ever be handed to you.
When I was younger I always thought things would be handed to me. When it came to academics I always won awards. That was until someone finally beat me. I never studied, I never worked for things. Since everything was given to me up to that point, I never felt the need to. After that experience, I learned that nothing will ever be given to you and you have to work for it. The reason I chose this as my fifth point is because I still sometimes have problems with this issue. I expect things to be given to me and when they aren’t I throw a little hissy fit. I realize that hard work will get me those things and not temper tantrums.
6. It’s okay to ask for help but don’t take advantage of people.
DeleteThere are lots of times in life when you’re in a tough situation and you need help. A lot of times you may be scared to ask. I realized that most of the time if you ask for help, people will often help you. But of course, there’s a limit. If you don’t need the help and you continue asking then the chances of people helping you will go down. If you can do something yourself but ask for the help because you’re lazy the chances of people helping you will go down too. I picked this as my sixth point because people take advantage of me all the time. People believe that I don’t want to help them and that’s absolutely not true! I am open to helping others but if you don’t need my help and are taking advantage of me, I’m not going to help you.
7. You’re worth something to someone.
This point hits hard for me. If you know me well enough you know that I’ve gone through a lot in the past two years with depression and anxiety. I hit rock bottom so many times that I’m not too sure why I’m still here. For quite some time I really contemplated why I was put on this planet. Why my parents gave birth to me. When I couldn’t find the answers to the questions, I thought my life was meaningless and that I served no purpose on this planet. The reason I’m still here is because of my mom. My mom means a lot to me. The main reason I’m still alive is because if I wasn’t my mom would be devastated. Every time I think about what would happen if I wasn’t here anymore, I think about how my mom would react. I realize that I’m worth a lot to my mom. She tells me that I keep her going and that she’s so lucky to have me. The reason this is my final point of my creed is because, for anyone thinking that their life is worthless, you’re wrong. There are people there who care about you and if you weren’t here anymore, their life would never be the same.
First things first, my biggest creed and something that i live by each day is, Every day is a new opportunity. Everyday is a day to do something great and you should always take advantage of that.
ReplyDeleteNumber two: Never let negative thoughts bother you throughout the day. To me this is big because there's no point in being mad or upset. Nothing good comes from that.
Thirdly: Loyalty is a one time deal. If someone isn't loyal to you the first time, they won't be the second or third or forth or ever, so don't waste your time on them.
Number 4: Surround yourself with people who want to be successful. You are the product of the people around you, so if you're around great people you will be great.
Number 5: If it seems too good to be true, it usually is. Nothing in life will be handed to you on a platter so don't trust easy things.
Number6: Family comes first. Family is what has gotten you to where you are today, so don't abandon them.
And finally number seven. This one took me the longest to think about, and is the reason why I will be the last to turn this in, but my seventh creed is, If it isnt broken, dont fix it. Sometimes in life you need to stick to what is working. Changing a process when it's working doesn't make sense.
Each of these creeds are things that I go with day by day in order to keep a level set mind and live a happy life.
I don't really have too many beliefs but there are a few that I would say, are key to the way I think about things. Like I said though there aren't many and a lot of them kind of tie into one another so they're kind of similar, hopefully they're not too redundant.
ReplyDelete1. Value EVERY opinion (not just your own or ones that agree with yours).
We live in a country where we pride ourselves on the fact that freedom of speech is a right in our country, that we are allowed to believe whatever it is that we want to believe, and I believe that should hold true in more than just the law. As a person you should remember that everyone else is ALSO a person just like you. They have thoughts, feelings, biases, etc, and that's what makes us human. Despite the fact that their ideas might disagree with yours doesn't mean they're evil, quite the opposite actually, most of the time they have the same worries as you, it's just that they think a different way, like Evelyn Hall once wrote "I disapprove of what you say but I will defend to the death your right to say it.", most people aren't megalomaniacal asshats who think everything should be their way they're just people with opinions like you and I so try to be understanding.
2. Nothing is JUST black and white.
Everything in this world has nuances to it, everything is the way it is for a different reason, every situation is different, you can never say one thing is entirely bad or one thing is entirely good because ultimately there are different reasons as to why things happen. As they say "the road to hell is paved with good intentions" and "the ends justify the means".
3. Be grateful for EVERYTHING
This one comes up a lot around thanks-giving actually. Something a lot of people tend to forget is just be thankful for the basic things we take for granted. Things like the fact that you live in america where medicine is at its peak, you have a roof over your head which some people don't, etc... etc... because things all things considered , it could be a LOT worse, but as luck may have it... it isn't.
4. Pride will hurt you more than it might help.
People tend to put pride above all else, sometimes even coming before self preservation or logic, well to those people I must say that there are times where you just have to bite your tongue and hold yourself back, a lot of the time your pride and need to react will get you into a worse position than you need to be in.
5. You cannot move forward without taking the step.
Most people are afraid to take risks out of fear of failure, why? Failure is simply another step towards progress and growth anyway, and there's never a guarantee that you'll fail. So remember to take opportunities while you can because you won't know if you can succeed if you don't at least try first.
6. Your decisions and goals are your own.
Never let someone set their goals as yours. You should never have to live up to someones standards and their hopes and aspirations should never become yours. NEVER let a person live vicariously through you... that is bad... VERY BAD... It is okay for you to have your own goals and they HAPPEN to be the same but they should never decide them for you. You are your own person, you should be able to survive with your own goals, I mean... you've been alive this long.
7. Life is hard but you have to roll with the punches.
Remember life is tough and unforgiving but there are people out there who help make it easy, you are going to go through trials and tribulations but you should come out on the other side of them fine it's definitely not going to be easy but give it your best and you should do just fine.
1. Be yourself: Pretty self-explanatory but you want to at how you want to act and do what you want to do. You don’t want to change yourself to please others or fit into a certain group. It’s always been important to me that people don’t try to fake their feelings around me. I just want people to not get the feeling they need to hide who they really are; embrace who you are.
ReplyDelete2.Put others above yourself: Value others and their lives & needs above your own life & needs. This might not be a commonly shared thought but I have always felt that my life & my needs can be sacrificed for others. Your life is the greatest sacrifice you can give for someone and being able to feel like that for most people gives me hope that I will never turn my back to people when they need me.
3.Don’t underestimate your worth: Following up to the previous point, you don’t want believe that your life has little value. While you may be willing to give your life for another, do not think of it as small deal. Every life is precious so treat it as such. Wasting life is probably the worst thing you can do.
4.Think of the big picture: Life last a lot longer than today or this week so we need to think of year, 5 years, 10+ down the road. I hate doing homework or having all of these responsibilities that get in the way of things I want to do instead but I know that these nuisances will one day benefit me. The hard work I put in now will allow me to have the ability to do whatever while not having to worry about I will feed myself or, maybe, a family.
5.Family is important: Not just blood, but close friends or even pets (I love my pets the most) are what make a family and family is what helps you get through everything. Without family you have to rely on yourself to get through whatever life hands you and that can be hard for some people. Family means a lot to me and without the people in my life I wouldn’t be who I am today.
6.Never let your emotions control you: Letting your emotions like hate or love determine your actions is a terrible habit to get into. I would consider myself a master at not letting my emotions control me, I always take a logical approach even in the most emotionally stressing times. It can make me seem distant at times or uncaring. It’s hard when others who don’t share this process of thinking see my viewpoint because most of the time they isolate me. I know that the choices I make are not clouded, that they aren’t emotionally fueled allowing me to make the most rational decision. Being able to live a life where you always have control over your judgement is a wonderful thing.
7.Stay humble: Don’t take where you are in life or the things people have done for you for granted. I haven’t always recognized the hard work my parents would put in to make me live a wonderful life. My family has never been rich but I’ve been treated like a king my whole life. To a plethora of kids who experience this they start to get the idea of being better than others. Looking around at all the struggles in the world that are truly disgusting you have to be thankful for the life you have. There are kids who are withering away as we speak from starvation or others where war is an everyday thing for them. The worst part is that it’s not their fault, not a single one of them wanted to be dealing with these problems. Too many people look down on these struggling people when in actuality we should be looking up to them.
My seven point creeds consists of:
ReplyDelete1. Learn from your past mistakes. Do not repeat what you did wrong in the first place. The main purpose of mistakes are to learn from them; they are one of the easiest lessons to learn in life. I base most of my actions on what I have learned from prior to that time and I know what to and not to do when in a certain situation that I had experienced before. I chose this because it is something that is applied to everyday life. For instance, when working on a group project, one mistake that can be made is picking someone who does nothing productive or contributes nothing to the group.
2. Don’t be too positive, always see the negative side. People always told me to look at the bright side of things, but I like to look at both possibilities. I am one of those people who would be scared to do something because I see this option as something with high risks attached to it. I am not one to take risks or do anything that would have a large effect on me if something goes wrong. Unlike most people who would see the light of what came out of something bad, I rather see what went wrong and what caused this to happen.
3. Don’t listen to what others say about yourself. It doesn’t matter what others say about you, whether it is behind your back or straight to your face. When I was younger, I was bullied and some of the people I talked to bullied me too. And most of this happened online, but I kept all of this to myself. Fortunately, one friend, who was there to witness the bullying, told me to just ignore their insults and don’t believe what they say. Following that advice really helped me get through most of my childhood. Now that I think about it, most of the insults that they yelled at me were not even relevant to what others said my personality was when I was a child. I chose this because without this advice, I would still be the kid that stays in the corner, out of sight, and easily forgotten.
4. Think outside of the box; there is always another solution to a problem. There isn’t just one concrete method of finding the solution to a problem. There are usually many ways of doing something. For instance, when dealing with an argument with a friend or family, there are many ways to approach this. One method would to be immature about it and go to violence, leading to a broken relationship between them. And the other method would be to talk it out peacefully and make-up. Whenever I am faced with a problem, I try to have a “3-D” perspective of the situation and see what would be the best option to go with out of the many other ways that it could lead to.
5. Don’t put a lot of trust in someone, including friends and family. I learned from my childhood that putting your trust in someone allows that person to easily manipulate you. To me, trusting someone is basically asking, “can I trust this person with my life.” If I trust someone fully, that means I was able to knowingly put my life into their good hands. When I was younger, I was betrayed by my closest “friends” and by certain people in my family. My “friends” would only talk to me because I had the homework done and that I could “help” them on their projects. I trusted their excuses leading to me doing everything for them while they sit back and relax. Too bad I didn’t realize it sooner until years after. And the same process repeated itself with many others. I have learned that trust isn’t something that should be easily obtained which led to me believing that I should not trust anyone.
Delete6. Be honest when giving your opinion. When someone asks me for my opinion about something, I am the one to give the blunt answer. I am not the person that sugarcoats something. For example, let’s just say my sister just performed a piano piece in a recital, she would always ask how did she do. I would be only one in the family to tell her what she did wrong, but I won’t be the first to tell her what she did well. I am insensitive to what others think when I voice my opinion. Even with my own works, I am harsh on myself about it. Going back to the piano example, if that was me up on the stage and I know I made a mistake, I will say that I did after the performance. I am harsh and blunt, but completely honest.
7. Be logical, don’t assume. I am not someone with a creative mind and I usually like seeing the reason for something. I always try to think through things logically; to come up with the more plausible and reasonable thing to do than what someone with an active imagination would come up with. Looking at the cause and effects of something, especially an action that I am thinking about doing, would affect whether or not I would actually perform that action. To me, the logical choice is the best choice to follow. I hate assuming something is true without having any strong evidence to back it up. I don’t like to base my opinions of something based on what I heard from others. Evidence is key to me. With evidence, I can have a strong rational about something and not base it on what others have said.
1. Be passionate in everything you do and give it your all.
ReplyDeleteI mean this in the most literal way possible. If you're going to do something, do it with all of your heart and do it with such strong emotion. Even if you fail, as long as you know you've tried your best, then you shouldn't be concerned. If someone sees the passion that you have, they're definitely going to respect you for it. This means a lot to me because when I see people be so passionate in their sport or when I see people be passionate in anything, I give them so much more respect and I feel like that's something everyone should go for. Respect is something that everyone should strive to earn and I think being passionate with what you do is one way to earn that.
2. Persevere through even the worst.
This can simply be said as "everything gets better." There's always a light at the end of the tunnel so try to find it. This means a lot to me because personally I've gone through some rough times but getting through it feels so much better and it feels so fulfilling. I chose this because more people need to be assured of the happiness that comes. It's just so easy to quit that seeing the light gets hard.
3. Be persistent with your efforts.
This "creed" can be connected with number one but this one pertains more to doing the same thing or going at the same thing multiple times. This shouldn't be taken as doing things wildly and repeatedly for no reason, but by it I mean to not just simply give up if something doesn't go your way. This means a lot to me because it's honestly how I get most of the thing I want, even grades. I'll start to be persistent in trying to get them. This is important because it helps people become more successful because if it works for me why can't it work for them.
4. Be patient with everyone and everything.
Nothing should be rushed and no one should feel rushed. This is extremely important to me because I used to be impatient and people would just get mad at me and I would also end up hurting myself if I rushed things. This is important in life because if you rush things, even with people, someone or something will always be broken.
5. Take care of your body.
If you don't have any connections in life, you'll always have your body so exercise, workout, eat healthy, and treat your body properly. This is important to me because after recently tearing my ACL, I realized how much I needed a healthy body. This is important because everyone is dying and you need to have a healthy body to be happy and be productive in life, most of the time.
6. Trust the process.
7. Read.
The 7-point creed that I will use to personally help guide my life would be the following, (1) Stay true to yourself, stir clear from peer pressure. I do all that I can as a person to be who I am, and not what other people want me to be, that can be disappointing to some people and they become uninterested in the relationship because of that, but I don’t find the purpose in altering my personally for the appeal of others. (2) Never forget your roots. my culture is very important to me, and because many people do not see the beauty in it, I choose to love it so much more. For all the hatred received from just being black is how many more times I will choose to enlighten myself on the bitter fruit of my history, and show love to my culture. (3) Hold on to your faith, I have a christian background and it has been stitched in me that my faith is my foundation and can be the resolution to all of my troubles. (4) Never mute your art, or in other words let my art speak. As artistic as I am it would be a shame for all the creativity piling in my brain to go to waste. I will continue to write, draw, sing, etc. and let it speak for who I am. (5) Always keep a playlist in your pocket. I don’t mean my phone exactly but it’s always safe for me to have music in my grasp, it is my safe haven in the midst of a hurricane and all of my struggles. (6) Always be compassionate. This is still something I’m learning to do, because I can be a little cold and abrasive sometimes. Despite that I am learning to have more compassion for people, an open mind to what others are going through, and how I can contribute positively to someone else's life. (7) Keep progressing, never settle for less, keep adding on to your goals and don’t let comfortability keep you idle from reaching your dreams.
ReplyDeleteGo with the flow of things
ReplyDeleteWhat I mean by this is to not overthink anything. Let fate take its course and don’t be ashamed of things that may happen in your life. If something goes wrong, make the best out of it and don’t try to undo it. I chose this because this how I keep myself from overthinking the decisions I need to make in life. I try my hardest to go with the flow of things that come my way, which also means to go with my gut.
Appreciate the people there for you
The worst thing you can do is take people for granted. Especially the people that have always been there for you whenever you needed them. Once you take people for granted they won’t be there for you anymore once you need them. Before you know it, you have nobody there for you anymore. I chose this because there have been many people in my life that have taken me for granted until I eventually stopped being there for them, and in the end they always regretted it.
Learn from your mistakes
If you make a major mistake, try learning from it. Don’t repeat your bad habits, that only makes things worse. I have made many mistakes in the past that I’ve promised myself I wasn’t going to repeat because only something bad will come out of it.
Family is the most important thing to have
Family is the closest thing to you because you are connected with them in a special way. Family is something that you will always have and will always be there for you no matter what. They will never judge you and will always support you. I am very close with my family, and I couldn’t appreciate that more.
Make the best out of everything
Don’t let one thing destroy you. If something goes terribly wrong try your hardest to stay positive about it because that’s the only way to get through it. Nothing that happens to you will ever be able to lower your worth. I have learned to stay positive about everything that comes my way; this helps me get through things.
Believe in yourself
Don’t put yourself down. Always try your hardest to reach your goals and never tell yourself you can’t do something. The more you tell yourself you can’t do something, the harder it is going to become to do that something. I have experienced many situation where I’ve told myself I couldn’t do something and I ended up not being about to do it. Don’t put yourself down
Forgive
Holding a grudge on people and situations isn’t healthy. Moving on from situations keeps you happy. Holding a grudge only constantly reminds you of the hurt you were in when it happened. You are always happier when forgiving people. I am very forgiving, maybe even too forgiving; but I am also happy.