Most of us have been there at one point; the ones who haven't will get theirs, eventually.
There you are, innocently sitting there eating your Cheerios, or some other tasty snack, when it hits you. That flash of lightning that zips through your brain, jump starts your heart to the point of acrobatics, and sends the corners of your mouth into that half-circle of upward idiocy because that stupid grin won't stop spreading.
An image of your beloved burns itself into your brain like a cheap plasma TV screen. Yup--it's love, and its got you in its grips. Muu ahhhhhahhhh.
If none of this sounds familiar to you--don't worry--you simply have no soul. ;) Just kidding--like I said, you'll get yours and it'll be just as described only maybe with different metaphors. Not ever being privvy to this feeling does not preclude you from this blog question, though; no doubt, you've seen what looks like and that's as much as you need for this assignment.
First, define love. Nbd. Thousands upon thousands of poets, essayists, philosophers and the like have all tried to come up with a working definition--whose to say their version is better than yours? Do your best.
Have you ever been in love, or known someone who has? Did their behavior change? Did yours? Why do you think we are attracted to those we are? What do you look for in potential relationships? What is your idea of a "perfect" relationship? Who taught you about love? What is your earliest memory of "seeing" love? Does that memory affect how you view the idea of love?
And, finally, what will you teach your future sons and daughters about the idea of love and relationships?
Love is unexplainable and consistent. It’s about falling for someone while watching them beat you at uno or seeing them trip over a step and thinking to yourself that you’re never letting them go. Even when you feel sadness, anger, or resentment, that love is always there. Everyday that you wake up, they’re the first thing on your mind and the last before bed. Every time you see that person you remember why it is that you fell in love with them. Loving someone and being in love are two very different things. Being in love is something not that many people get to experience in their lifetime. Being in love is rare and should always be cherished. When you’re in love, your attitude changes. You see things in a more positive aspect, and appreciate yourself and the person you’re with a lot more. It’s like your whole world lights up, and it’s not just black and white anymore. You can’t imagine what it’s like to live without the other person. Every time you think about getting home from work in 10 years, you think about going home to that person. You think about all the great memories you’re going to make in your whole lifetime. Why? Mainly because that person is your future, the love of your life, your soulmate, your everything, and you don’t mind spending 70+ years with them. I definitely know what all of that feels like. There are no perfect relationships. There are always going to be fights and arguments and things that were better left unsaid. Love is what pulls you through those hardships and rough patches. Love is what blatantly ignores every bit of hurt you’ve felt in the past because it mends the future. People judge other people’s relationships because they haven’t experienced that degree of love. Love comes in many different shapes and sizes, but one thing all relationships have in common is trust, love, and faith. I will teach my future kids to always go after the person that you love, and never let them go.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I have never experienced this kind of love so it’s hard for me to define what I think love is. But yes, I have witnessed lots of couples who are deeply in love with each other. I see it from my mom and stepdad. I see it from my aunts and uncles. I see it from my cousin and her husband. I see them everywhere since the day I was born, though it just didn’t work out for my mom and dad but that doesn’t affect my idea about love. From what I have seen, love is not letting that person go. Love is when you and your partner compliment each other so that you’ll be able to fill those empty spaces that both of you lack, and those will come from you as individuals, and from the challenges you will face together. Love is when you will keep bringing each other up until the end. Love is when two individuals plan their road to forever. But the one thing about love that I will forever believe is that no matter what the circumstances are, if you really love that person you will always fight for him/her even if your love story becomes a “me and you against the world.” Love is a magic. It could do many things to a person so yes, it will change a person’s behavior towards almost everything; it could be good or bad, it will all depend on you and who your partner is.
ReplyDeleteEach of us has a certain type of person that we easily get attracted to. We find them attractive because we see something from them that we don’t usually see from the other fish in the sea. To me, a potential relationship is when two people has that respect, trust, faith, love, and patience for one another. There is no perfect relationship. We will always have the misunderstandings, but I believe the best way to have a strong relationship is having your partner and his parents get along with yours because your parents are the ones who will be able to guide and help you in times of difficulties. In addition to that, it is best to take things slow, take it one step at a time, cherish every moment together, and enjoy each other’s company because you will not only treasure your partner and yourself, but the relationship itself as well.
Love is not something someone teaches you. Love is something we witness everyday, and eventually we will feel when the person destined for us comes along. I don’t really know what to expect, since not everyone will feel the same way when they find love. That’s why this kind of love can never be taught. So I guess the only thing I can tell my future kids about love and relationships is what my parents always tell me: “Don’t rush it. It will be there if it’s meant for you.”
Hehe. When it comes to love, I am the right person to ask! After all the ups and downs I have accumulated from falling in love, being in love, and experiencing breakdowns because of love by reading tens and hundreds of romance novels, I am practically a GENIUS in this topic! As cliché as it may sound, love is when you and your partner form an inseparable bond together, where not even the bestest of friends can understand the emotions the two of you are going through. Love is when you and your partner will, no matter what, back each other up through tough situations. Love is when you want to prevent your partner from getting hurt or seeing them struggle, and you want to share your happiness with them.
ReplyDeleteAs you can see, I have experienced being in love (through main characters) and I have seen many others (who are real, they are not characters) fall in love too. And sadly enough, I have seen their behavior change as they spend more time with their partner. I have seen those who have become happier and thrown away all of their suicidal thoughts of giving up life; I have seen those who have become depressed as their relationship with their partner progresses. When someone you know ends up finding love, I have learned to be prepared to accept the change that will soon to come and when that change is not a good change, I have learned to talk to them about it and explain how I feel about their change as gently as possible. (I am sorry to say this, but when someone falls in love, friendship can be broken within seconds).
We become fascinated by those we are interested because opposites attract. I very much believe this statement, since I base this off on my parents relationship and my sister’s relationship...and the novels I have read. My ideal relationship is when the parents approve of your relationship because they know you best and they know what is good for you and what is bad for you, and there should also be no relationships that do not have mini quarrels. When people think of “perfect relationships”, they just think that both partners should understand each other, but there should be fights in a healthy relationship. I believe that quarreling is a way of strengthening a relationship.
You can never teach “love”. Love is not a physical thing, it is an emotion that kids will learn on their own as they grow. My earliest memories of seeing love is definitely by watching children shows on television or computer and by reading books. And I have to say, it does affect my way of viewing “love”. By reading all these romance novels and watching all these movies and TV shows, I have built up expectations on what love should be. For my future sons and daughters, I will tell them everybody experiences love differently, there is no one path to finding love and that their relationship will be different to the relationship I have experienced, but love cannot be forced. Do not get influenced by what other relationships are doing and how fast they are going, go on your own pace. I cannot and will not guide them through to finding their own happiness, but I will give out pointers when there is a need.
There is nothing I love more than love itself. I love listening to stories about someone meeting their first love, I love the way someone acts when they're around someone they love...I guess you could say I am the cheesiest & the most hopeless romantic on this earth. But what is the true definition of love? I feel as though everyone has their own unique definition connected with their personal experiences that no one else would be able to understand. I personally have never been in love, but I definitely have loved, and to me, there is a difference between the two. I imagine that being in love is feeling like you’ve found the person you could imagine spending your entire life with. I imagine that being in love is being old and the person you love still makes you feel beautiful and young. I imagine that being in love is caring about the person more than you can care about yourself, I imagine that being in love is always being happy with the person you’re with. Being in love, and loving is so different. You can love anyone, I love my bestfriend, but I am not IN LOVE with my best friend...do you see where I’m getting at? Now, as for relationships, I don’t believe in a perfect relationship. I believe that if you can work through the hardships, and stay 100% committed to the person you’re with, then you can remain happy. If there’s anyone who taught me about love, it’s my grandparents. I have never seen anything so pure until I watched my grandfather feed my sick grandmother, and then purposely make a huge mess just so they could have something to laugh about. It really is the little things that matter, and I have always said that I hope someday, I could find the love my grandparents share with one another. When I have my own children, I will teach them that love isn’t something you should go looking for, love is something that will find you, and when it does, to never let it go, and be a dorky romantic, just like their mother!
ReplyDeleteTo some, love is an emotion. To others, it is a choice. To me, however, it is everything and nothing at the same time. I remember the first time I fell in love. It felt like my heart was beating at the speed of light and nothing could stop it except that special person. I remember spending time with her, laughing with her, joking with her, and scaring her. Everything I did was always to make sure that we would be happy and enjoy her time with me. Whenever I was with her, no matter how long, it always seemed that time would pass to fast, then slow to an inescapable crawl whenever we were apart. Love makes people do crazy things, and not regret it.
ReplyDeleteRelationships all come at a cost. For me personally, I look for a person who is willing to sacrifice their time and effort to be with me, and, of course, vice versa. I don't believe in the notion of a "perfect" relationship, no matter how enticing it seems. No matter the circumstances, there is always something that will try to tear people apart. Love is something that I believe that you can't really teach. You have to experience it for yourself to truly understand what it means to you. My earliest memory of seeing love was between my mom and biological dad. He is gone now for certain reasons, but I remember that they would always be there for each other. That memory probably affected how I see love today. I would like someone to care, someone I could rely on, to be there for me when I need it most. If and whenever I do have kids, I would tell them that love is the most important, most valuable experience that they will ever go through. I would tell them to cherish every moment of it, because you never know when it could end.
Love. What everyone hopes to find one day. But what really is love? Love is the most intense feeling of affection or intimacy you could have towards someone or something. Love is the most misused word of all vocabulary ever spoken. Love is the best feeling in the world. Love is the most dangerous feeling in the universe. Love, is love. To most, they could say they’ve been in love hundreds, even thousands of times. You know, all those one-week social media relationships hearing an “I love you” on the first day? That is not love, being in love is such an indescribable feeling that cannot be put into words, only emotion. You’ll know when you’re in love, you’ll know due to all past experiences and heartbreak telling you so. No one else can tell you this, just you, you will know when you’re in love. Sad to say, I’ve never been in love. But really, not sad at all because I’m not undermining what love really is, applying it to any disgusting, past relationships. I know my time will come, and I’m in no rush. You might think, how could anyone think they know this much about something they’ve never experienced? Well this is because I’ve witnessed love first hand, my Mom and Dad. My Mother and Father being my earliest memory of love and teaching me what love really is. Just walking into the room you felt the heart-warming sensation filled with laughter and nothing but smiles. You could tell it was love when my Dad passed away. How everyone’s behavior changed, especially my Mom’s. Being so deep in depression it felt like we were ten feet under hell. You could see the love in the tears that were no longer smiles. You could see the love visiting him at the cemetery not being able to hold back any kind of emotion. You could see the love taking over that completely broke not only hers, but everyone’s heart into an infinite number of pieces. You might not see the love, but I know this is love. This changing my outlook on love forever, I would consider myself these feelings of intimacy if I was even half as in love as my parents were. Their type of love is what I look for in my potential relationships in the future. We are attracted to our significant other for how they make us feel, obvious I know. Can we really describe it? That person will make your heart beat outside of your body, but you will never want it to go back inside. When you are with that person, you will forget about it all. Everyone who hurt you, everyone who broke your heart. Then realizing, your heart was never broken, only for it to break if this person ever left your side. In the future, I hope to give my children the simplest yet most effective advice on love. I will tell them that only they will know if they’re in love. To not listen to what anyone else says, they do not know how you feel, only you know. Just be careful, your emotions are the most powerful thing about one, don’t let them overrule you.
ReplyDeleteWhat is love? An emotion. Love, loving someone and being in love with someone is completely different. When you love someone you will try to do anything that will make them love you back, you will try to make them stay with you even if you don’t make the happy. However, when you are in love with someone you would let them leave. Even if it hurts you so much to the point you want to die. You will let them leave. If you truly love someone you will put their emotions before yours.
ReplyDeleteI have been in love and I am still in love. He is an amazing storm with his beautiful brown hair, blue eyes and tattoos. The way he laughs, the way he talks when he is so passionate about something, the way he will take up for someone he truly cares about is so lovely to me. But, I hate how he would throw a fit. I hate how when he would do something wrong he would blame me. I hate how he made me feel worthless. I hate how he made me cry. I hate how he took all my money. I hate how he made me laugh. I hate how he made me love him, but most of all I hate how he rather be with her than me even though I wouldn’t put anything above him.
Being in love changes your behavior. It clouds your mind and vision. Even though, there were a bunch of sign saying he wasn’t the one. I still didn’t listen. I always thought he would change but he didn’t and he never will. He is selfish and I am selfless. He saw that and took advantage.
It funny how I went through all this in my first relationship and I haven’t had any since then. This first relationship will definitely effect the rest because of the fact that when you are in love with someone it is going to take more than four months to get out of it. I believe that you shouldn’t date someone else until you don’t love that person, but a part of me feels that, that it is impossible to fall out of in love with someone. Maybe if I had seen people being in love before I had my first boyfriend I wouldn’t have gone through all of this emotion pain, but maybe it was meant to be and there wasn’t anything to do to stop it.
For my future children. The only advice I have for them is to please tell me about their relationships so I can tell them if they are running games.
Love is such an amazing feeling. However, when it comes to mind on how to actually explain love it's quite impossible. Love is so many emotions combined together and you could only explain love by the things people do that make you experience it. My first love was and still is my boyfriend. The way he makes me feel everyday is what I call love. To further explain, I'll give examples...
ReplyDeleteLove is when you have an emotion breakdown and he lays on the floor with you and holds you to tell you everything is gonna be okay, and you believe him. It's when "Netflix and Chill" literally means watching netflix and hanging out. It's when you accept their flaws and accept them for who they are. And even when he makes you feel absolutely insane, you still find the words to tell him every night "I love you." Although there will be countless fights about absolutely nothing, you still know that that's the person you look forward to spending your whole life with.
Being in love definitely changes your behavior, it could make you feel like the happiest person alive. It could also make you do crazy things. Love is definitely blind. And there's no better feeling. It's like when you're with that one person, you and them are the only two people in a room even when there's a thousand people with you.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Eventually, you will have your downfalls and there will be times where there will be name calling and long text messages. But no matter what, you guys still get back together and are better than ever. But if you really think there is a such thing as a perfect relationship, it would most likely be two people who have fallen completely in love with each other.
The earliest sight of love that I have ever seen was my stepmom and my dad. They are a true example of how I hope me and my husband will be when i'm older. My stepmom and dad are best friends and hide no secrets from each other, they are my inspiration to be honest. I'm actually such a hopeless romantic, my favorite movies are titanic and every other chic flick. I love love.
As for my future kids, the only advice I would have for them is if you love something or someone never let them have a single thought in there mind that you don't love them. Because to question a person's love for you is painful, especially when you love them unconditionally.
I believe that love is unique to everyone. Nobody can define it because everyone’s definition is special to them. My definition of love is something you can’t stop thinking about, something that makes you smile from ear to ear, something you know you can’t live without. I feel like the word “love” is commonly misunderstood. “I love ice cream.” The love I feel and have experienced can not be compared to ice cream. The word “love” creates a whole new meaning when you genuinely find love for the first time, when the fireworks to seem to fly. It’s like knowing you found “the one.” I’ve always questioned myself, “how will I know?” I always wondered until I finally realized what it feels like to genuinely love. It wasn’t a forced love and it wasn’t a pitty love. I fell in love for the first time, and the feeling, the feeling is hard to find and lucky to have, I got that feeling. Now like I said earlier, everyone’s definition of love is not the same. For me, it wasn’t generated by a boy I thought was perfect or any person for that matter. It was field hockey. I know, how cliche, “Kelsey loves field hockey.” No surprise, but “Kelsey loves field hockey” and someone saying “I love ice cream” are not comparable at all. I, Kelsey Andrus, genuinely love field hockey with my whole heart, with my whole head, with my whole body. I have a passion for the sport that I’ve never experienced with any other or with a boy. It is the first thing I think of when I wake and when I go to bed. It’s what motivates me everyday and pushes me everyday. It's what makes me happy. My life without field hockey is like living without air, you can’t. Freshman year I hurt my knee playing indoor lacrosse, very typical of me, but I knew this time was different. After a couple of days trying to ice and stretch off the pain I finally visited an orthopedic that slipped the most dreaded words an athlete could ever hear, “you’re going to need surgery.” I cried, I cried, I cried, I cried, I cried. 3 days straight. Tears. I sat in the waiting room waiting for a doctor's note to be printed. Everyone was staring, wondering why a teenager was crying louder than the babies. I can’t play field hockey. The older ladies in the waiting room chipped in, “oh I played growing up, it’s only your freshman year, you’ll be fine.” But I knew I wasn’t. 8 months of pain, but not from my knee. I had pain from a broken heart and nobody else understood or could compare. My life was taken from me for 8 months. Nobody understood, and till this day nobody understands. My friends complain, and moan and groan, with the slightest mention and it breaks my heart that something I care about so much is a menace to others. I fell in love with a sport. People call me crazy, some people make fun of my passion, but I. Don’t. Care. I heard it all before. I’m lucky enough to have found something I’m this passionate about at such a young age. Now, when it comes to boys, I won’t have ask, “is he the one?” I’ll have to question, “do I love him more than field hockey?”
ReplyDeleteLove isn't real.
ReplyDeleteI don't believe in that.
I simply don't loves these hoes.
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DeleteForget dictionary.com! Love freaking sucks.Yeah, you can indicate thats not really the word I want to use but, i'll try not to seem so bias.If could've made the definition for the dictionary it would go a little like this.Love is often mistaken for "I like you a whole lot but, yeah I'll still hurt"individuals are often mislead in use the word in the wrong content.However, if you actually are in love it will never die.You don't just wake up like "Oh I don't want to be with you anymore" with no explanation then end up with someone new a week later.Nowadays, everyone thinks that love is like those saccharine annoying instagram couples who never argue,send each other book long text about how much they care about each other.Oh yeah and don't forget the cheesy matching shirts.If you think thats love my friends then, you can just stop reading now because, the next line will crush your dreams.Love is staying with someone through arguments,boring text messages that make you feel like your drifting apart and sometimes being ignored.One thing for sure to things for certain you can LIVE WITHOUT love.Point,Blank,Period!Love really does something to the mind it makes your feel like you can't live without a person.Yet weren't you breathing before you met them? My point exactly don't get to attached because, theres no hurt like getting hurt by the person you thought loves you.Imagine hearing the person you love now loves someone else,lied to you or cheated on you.It'll feel like a truck hit you or like you heart just dropped into your stomach.
ReplyDeleteNo I don't think I've ever been in love before.Yes, I have loved someone but, it only taught me nobody really yours its just your turn.If someone really loves you they shouldn't intentionally hurt you.By intentionally, make sure you include this yeah I cheated on you but, i didn't think you were smart enough to find out.Which means I did mean to hurt you I just didn't mean for you to find out.Then, right after you come to someone with hard cold facts about why they're a total jerk they simultaneously flip it on you by saying, " oh I'm not lieing but, believe what you want".Then, you think maybe they're telling me the truth.Nah, they still lieing they just want you to feel bad.The reason why most people can't properly love someone is because, they don't love there self.When you love yourself you won't put up with peoples crap.You won't let somebody push you to the point where they bring out the worst qualities in you!
We all have that one friend who changes every time they get in a relationship.They portray themselves to be this happy couple when really they aren't.The type of friend that ignores you for weeks then, soon as they get in an argument they call you crying.Cancel plans with you to go out with their boyfriend/girlfriend then, claim you never invite them out anywhere.There so in love that they don't even see right from wrong.An in all actuality they don't even want to.No I've never been this friend but, be cautious about the way you treat the people who have always been their for you.They'll be the people there after the relationship if it fails.They'll be the ones defending you when everybody says, how stupid you are for being with that person.In the mist of trying to find someone and figure someone out don't lose yourself.
People look for love in the wrong places.Sometimes because, they weren't loved at home by a parent.They often try to find it through sex.They trust to easy,lower their standards and settle for anything.This is your typical high school "slut" or "hoe". Who's just looking for something in men, seeking attention from men because,she can't get attention from home.We judge people to quickly everybody wants to be loved.Even the girl who trusted a boy she thought she was in "love" with enough to send him naked pictures then,later on gets exposed.Everybody will make it seem like that couldn't have been them in that situation.Forcing some people to even take their own life.Lets not forget the people who fights the person that their boyfriend or girlfriend was cheating on them with.But,why that person doesn't love you?That person owes you know loyalty and for what its worth the person your disliking over someone else.Is probably a really cool person to get to know.Maybe, I should take my own advice in some instances when it comes to love but, lets be honest we'll all play the fool sometimes.
DeleteLove is whatever you make it out to be. Everyone has their own definition, no definitions right or wrong, that is the beauty of its complexity. I would sum love up into "to die for". I've seen people live out that definition on numerous occasions. Some of my friends have experienced it. In their eyes there is nothing more important than their significant other. They are willing to cut every friend off, for that one person. They make no sense of how corny and idiotic they're being, they just care for that person that has triggered all these emotions never felt before. I have not fell in love yet, and that maybe for the best. Although I am still attracted to people. I feel those we are attracted to are because we see a characteristic in them that we desire to have inside us, or a trait that we feel makes that person one step closer to perfect. I am not solely talking about physically I am mainly talking about what is on the inside. Sure a pretty face and a beautiful smile gets my attention, but the way she laughs, thinks, and carries herself is what really makes me feel like I want to "wife her up". The foundation a relationship is built on is the most important thing. Trust and laughter is number one. You need to keep things exciting and have that fire inside of you guys not die. The laughter keeps things fresh, once you lose the giggles then it becomes dry and that's when tempers start to flare. You also need to remember to have some you time, if you become dependent on someone else, you lose who you are as a independent person. Just remember something can always happen and if you forget who you are then when that person isn't there anymore who do you have? I learned what love is through seeing it in my parents, movies, and people out in public. My parents provided me with my earliest memories of love, and I hope to one day have a relationship with someone like my parents have. My father has showed me what a man is supposed to be like in a relationship and how to love a women. I still haven't experienced love first hand so I am not sure what I will teach my kids, I just hope my relationship with my future significant other can do all the teaching on love.
ReplyDeleteLove is something that cant be explained simply by a professor or philosopher because love comes in many forms. Love has to come from you and your partner. Or love can be heartwarming and maybe not as affectionate like with your family members. Because love is a universal sign used by all. Some of us get rejected from having this sign and some of us use this sign as a way to care for somebody. Everybody goes through it in their life at least one time or another whether it's with an inanimate object [hopefully not] or another human being [preferably one in your age range]. But from the moment that you are born, you are loved by hopefully two people: your mom and your dad. This love can be broken mentally, but love can't be broken physically. And no matter what anybody tells you, you will find a form of love one day if you already haven't. From loving your best friend, to loving your parents, or affectionately loving your partner, love will always be in the air, even in times during stress or war. Because there is always someone who will look out for you. take a mensch for example. Because the world is so unbelievably scary and dangerous right now, I mentioned that it was nice to have a mensch movement in the world currently. And there's not just that, charities, foundations, even sports all do something because they like the thing they do and they all love you for it. Will there be times where you will a complete jerk who will never understand what the meaning of love actually is? Of course. But that can't stop you from putting a smile on someone's face. And that's what I try to do everyday, to put a smile on someone's face, whether its in real life or on social media like Snapchat because everyone has a special place in my heart. Some bigger than others, but none the less, a place. The person that taught me this is my mom. I'm not afraid to admit, I can be a mamma's boy sometimes but its only because she has already taught me so much in my short life. And when she passes and moves on to a better place, I know it will always be my responsibility to make someone happy and put a smile on their face even if its one person. So what is love? Love is what you make it to be because will always conquer over all.
ReplyDeleteLove the most complicated feeling known to us all. Most of us want it no matter how much we despise it. Now matter how we describe it we can only single it out as this one category of human trait called emotions. Then if we even try to describe love so many views of it start to appear. It can be the greatest thing in the world, it can be the world thing in the world, too many people love the the wrong person and so on and so forth. The list can go on forever and we still have trouble describing what love really is. But when it all comes down to it romantic love is really saying I love you or I really like you to that someone. Then eventually it maybe grows into a desire to be more then boyfriend or girlfriend. That is how I view on love two people falling for each other with somewhat pure intentions. Then the couple's love for each other is as disproportional as an improper fraction, it is never equal. But my view is one in probably thousands of view of love, heck 95% of songs on the radio are love songs and the most popular songs are love songs as well. So in short we can't escape love
ReplyDeleteI remember the first time being in love. I was in 8th grade and there was a certain girl that I had the biggest crush on. But I was extremely shy back then and I was scared to even talk about it. So for then on I learned a lot about love but I'm sure I have a million things to learn about love.
Love is complicated. I've been told by many that if the other person truly loves you it shouldn't be complicated, but I don't find that completely true. Love is also bittersweet. It's sweet to be in love but hurts when it ends. Love is an indescribable feeling. Time and time again people will try and write about love, but until you experience love for yourself you never really know. There's couples that both of them fall hopelessly in love with each other. There's couples where they love each other but do nothing but hurt each other. There's couples where one loves the other but the other just uses them. Love is so complicated because you never completely know what the other person is thinking. They can tell you they love you but do you really know?
ReplyDeleteThe first person I ever fell for was a guy and as my naive self I would believe all the nice things he said to me. Don't get me wrong he was a sweet guy but as I started to fall for him I got scared and pushed him away and pretended not to care. I've been hurt many times in my life and I was not willing to take the risk again. By the time I finally got past my fears he wasn't interested anymore and I was hurt again. Little did I know the next year I would fall in love with the girl in my second period English class. Little did I know I would find someone so important to me, someone who would make my heart skip beat, but someone who also has hurt me. When it all started I fell fast and got hurt, but I never gave up on an us. I believed that if it was meant to be she'd come back. Being in love has changed my behavior because now I have someone who I'm scared to lose. Sometimes I'm late to class to meet with her in the hallways. Before her I was always early to my classes, I was such a nerd. All I really thought about were my grades. Every time I heard a love song I think of her whether we're together or not. Love does change a persons behavior.
To me there's no such thing as a perfect relationship. I've never seen one. My mom and dad were never married. My mom and step father did not have a good relationship. No one in my family really has a good relationship. I've never really witnesses the perfect relationship because there aren't any. My sister and her boyfriend have been dating for many months now and they aren't perfect they have their trust issues but who doesn't.
All I know for a fact is love for me when it all started it was fun but after being hurt I'm just scared to have it keep happening, love isn't easy. Trust issues are a problem for me.
Love. When people think of the word love, they get all these different thoughts about what it is. To me, love is thinking about one person from the moment you get up till the time you try to fall asleep, but you can't because you have all these crazy thoughts about you and a person. Love is being around someone who accepts you for you and accepts all your flaws and helps you become a better person by breaking all your bad habits.Love is wanting to see someone all the time and never getting tired of them because there’s nobody else you would rather spend your time with.Love is never giving up on someone whether it’s good times or bad times and always trying to fix the problem because you can’t imagine life without seeing,touching and listening to the person.Love is wanting someone to experience every precious moment with you because when that person is around, everything seems so perfect.Love is letting someone go because the love is only from your side and not theirs so you let go so they’re happy.Love is a feeling that’ll have you feeling so many ways whether it’s being so happy to the point where life seems perfect or to the point where you’re so upset that you don’t what to do and all you can do is cry.
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I’m not sure if I would say I’ve loved someone because it just sounds a little strange for me to use the word, but yes I have felt all the ways described above about someone.There is a person who I think about constantly and is on my mind 24/7. He’s the person I can’t imagine my life without and my day feels incomplete if I don't see him. I consider every minute with him to be precious. His flaws don’t change how I feel bad about him, but every now and then i'll try to break his bad habits, but I get habits are hard to break so when he changes any of his bad habits I get really proud. There have been times where we stopped talking for days, weeks and even months, but I would never let someone so important to me slip so easily.In case you’re wondering, no I am not dating this person because I’ve never told him how I felt because I think the feelings are only one sided, but i'm fine with that as long as he’s in my life in some way, shape or form. Behavior always changes I think because you began to pick up on the other person's way of reacting to things, their way of talking and almost everything. I honestly don’t know if my behavior changes, but i'm pretty sure it does in some way. I think we are attracted to certain people because we fall for every little thing they do. Sometimes people just naturally click with someone and sometimes we fall for the little things like the way they smile, laugh, roll their eyes, and even their attitude.
In relationships, I personally look for loyalty, trust and just how much I want to be with someone. I'm not the person who will spend days with someone and not get tired of them because I like being alone, but if I want to spend that much time with you, then you’re special. My idea of a perfect relationship doesn’t really exist. I think if there’s two people who constantly don’t give up on eachother and love eachother unconditionally that is a “perfect relationship” itself. My earliest memory of love is my parents because they are my relationship goals and that’s also where I learn about love. I think how my parents are definitely affect my view on love. They definitely have their horrible days, but at the end of the day/week, they’re always together no matter what the problem was. My mom alway says “I hope I die 1 day before your dad, because I don't ever want to know it feels to live without him.” For my future sons and daughters, i'll tell them that if they really value/love someone, never let them slip from your life no matter how hard it gets.
Love is putting someone else's happiness above your own. That means going to any extent to see them smile. That means spending your last few dollars on them for lunch when they forgot theirs. That means making sure they got home safe after they dropped
ReplyDeleteyou off before you can even think about going to bed. That means letting go because that's what they want, even though it's going to rip you to pieces.
Psh. "Have I ever been in love". I've never been in love harder than I am now. And of course I started acting differently. Suddenly there was a light in my life that gave me a little extra glow. I started to annoy everyone with my rants about my beloved boyfriend, as i stared into the distance and my eyes glimmer at the thought of him. But I've had plenty of stupid little, meaningless boyfriends. I've had a few that meant a lot to me. But none like this one. I've been attracted to guys because they were hot. Or sweet. Or sometimes even bad ass and I just wanted to live that lifestyle for a quick second. But I truly believe that our attraction to people is fate. That they come into our lives to teach us something, or to instill something in us. And somewhere within all those lessons, fate bring us to our soulmate. And because I don't believe in wasting time, or being with anyone that you aren't meant to be with for one reason or another, I don't look for anything in potential relationships. I persue the things that come naturally. But when it comes to a relationship, I hope to find loyalty, trust, devotion, respect, and honesty. I hope to have communication. But more than anything, I seek happiness. And although I can credit some of this to the shit guys that I've been with in the past that opened my eyes for me, the rest, I have learned through my parents. High school sweethearts, now in their forties with two kids, continue every day of my life to show me exactly what love is and what it should be. My earliest memory of seeing love was when i was 8 years old. I came home, and my dad was crying on the couch. His aunt had passed away. One that lived far, far away. One that I didn't know. One that I couldn't have mourned over with him. And as my mom told me these things privately in the other room, she began to cry too. When I asked if she was said about his aunt too, she told me that she didn't know his aunt either. She told me she cried because seeing my dad so broken broke her too. Then, she went into the living room, and they cried together. And that's all I ever needed to see to know that love not only exists, but exists all around us.
One day, I hope to find something like that. Something unconditional, timeless, and pure. And by finding that, I hope to teach my kids the same thing that my parents taught me: that true love never dies, and that true love is real.
I have never been in love before, purely because I don't believe in young love. My opinion on it is that it's premature and not with our right judgements because we're young and rash. I feel like love is such a strong word that is downplayed and knowing the people that I do love, I know it carries a lot of weight. I've heard stories from my sister about people she had relationships with in high school and she'd reminisce on the feelings, and how it felt to be in a "puppy love". Opposed to now while she's in a serious relationship with a man who she's planning on marrying. The difference is notably evident, because it went from enjoying the thrill of calling someone boyfriend, to thinking about a family. I think we become attached to certain people because of certain things they do or say that we can relate to, and admire. We inevitably form emotions before even being able to stop them. In a potential relationship I look for personality first and then someone I'm obviously attracted to. But attraction can fade if personalities clash. My parents are my prime example, 27 years of being in love and still expressing love in a household is so important to me and show me what I'm looking for in the future. And the flaws in their love helps me figure out what I'm looking for in the future. My earliest memory of love is one of my parents anniversaries. I don't know which one it was but I remember setting up and cooking for them. I remember the candle lit set up, the red roses, the Anita baker soundtrack. I remember being happy to have parents who are in love. I know it's important to display love in a household and if or when I ever have children, I'll know from what I experienced that showing love is a necessity.
ReplyDeleteDoes anyone really know the meaning of love? Honestly I just think love is a fantasy people want to believe in so they think they're happy. I have never seen anyone in my life be in love because I don't believe in love. Love can be interpreted many different ways. Love could be used in a friendly way or love can be used affectionately. To me love is just a word people throw around just to make themselves or someone else feel happy. Honestly I don't know anyone with an attraction to certain types of girls or guys like nobody really knows who they're attracted to until they're married even then it's sometimes difficult to figure if you're really attracted to your spouse. Some people think they're attracted to someone based off connection or looks. I have no idea on a perfect relationship because there is no such thing. N one has taught me about love because there is no point on even asking about love. I would teach my sons and or daughters that do what makes them happy and I would let them decide if they think love is real or not.
ReplyDeleteWhen people think of love, they all have different definitions because we have different perspectives and experiences. My definition of love is a constant bond and a constant thought of a a person or thing that you just can't get out of your mind and you never get tiered of. I have never really had that feeling of true love, but I have known people that did have this feeling. It all depends on the person if their behavior changes. Usually, it will make a person feel a lot happier and they are always in a great mood. Other people will now act totally different and this is something that I really don't understand the reason for. We are attracted to people because of their personality and the common interests we share with them. In a relationship I look for someone who is kind, likes sports, and has an all around good personality. My idea of a perfect relationship doesn't exist because all relationships will have their problems and nothing is perfect. I don't think I was really taught about love, but my experiences and things I have see have been what has taught me about love. My earliest memory of love is seeing my mom and dad always happy together when I was younger. As I got a little older though, their relationship started to fall apart and they got divorced. This was a tough thing to go through at a younger age, but it helped me learn that all relationships will have problems, so before I get married I will make sure that I love the person I'm with from the bottom of my heart. This memory surely effects the way that I view love. It showed me first hand the best and worst parts a relationship can have. I will teach my future children that love will happen and when it does it will one of the best feelings, but be careful because I know that love can make someone happy, but it can also make someone very sad.
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DeleteWhat is love baby don't hurt me, don't hurt me no more. Nah just kidding. Love is quite a complicated yet wonderful thing. In one way love can be the best feeling in the world or it can be the most heartbreaking. To me, love is the feeling when you enjoy something or someone so much you never stop thinking about it or them. I myself have never felt the full forces of love but I do know people who have been in love before. People act completely different when they are in love. They don't care about anything else except the person they are in love with and sometimes take risks because they don't care. I've liked people before but have never really acted different when I've liked people.
ReplyDeleteWe are attracted the people we are attracted to for many reasons. These include whether the person is beautiful or they are similar to ourselves or they have certain traits we like. In my relationships I look for someone who is athletic, has a personality , and will always be there if something is wrong. My idea of a perfect relationship is to have someone who will never get bored in a relationship and will always love you no matter what happens.
The person who taught me about love was my mom when she explained to me how her and my dad were growing up and how they treated each other.
My earliest experience of seeing love was my parents. Seeing them everyday and knowing how long they've been married for, I knew that was love. This does affect how I view love because if I ever fall in love I want it to be like that. When I have kids I will teach them to love the right people so they don't become disappointed if their heart gets broken and I will definitely tell them about my parents and that's what my kids should strive for.
I literally relate every single blogpost we have had so far to love. I think love is a real thing. It is not a metaphor nor a physical thing. It is a feeling you get. Loving someone is hard. Even if it is your family. You have to feel love or it's not real. Sitting in a hospital waiting room while your nonna is having life or death surgery in the other room isn't love. It's the feeling you get that brings you to tears halfway through the surgery that starts to hurt you and brings you to tears. Love can sometimes be a pinch in the heart after you have forgotten to say happy birthday to your mother while she was obviously waiting for someone to make her day. Love can be with anyone. Whether it is your family or in a relationship, but love is not something that you can force. It is a feeling that you can not control like a twitch.
ReplyDeleteI have never been in a relationship where I said I loved the other person. I have never had a hookup that I loved. Listen, the way that our society is today it is hard love these girls. There is no feeling that you get if you think someone is pretty. I know someone that is in love but it has changed them into a terrible person. That girl completely changed him and it scares me to see that because it makes me not want to get into any serious relationships. I have never truly seen my true love. I have not felt it. And I still won't. And as I grow up i'm sure I will find love but right now I'm just gonna sit back and wait for that feeling.
Quite honestly, I wish none of this sounded familiar to me. Unfortunately, and fortunately too, I am familiar with it. Love comes in many different shapes and sizes. Its when you come home on a fall day to homemade, warm chocolate chip cookies. Or, it could be when you see your favorite animal at the zoo. But, the kind of love I will define for you is the kind that builds your happiness and affection and appreciation of life, only to break it down. At least this goes for me, anyway. With that being said, love is becoming so happy and consumed with that person that you can't even imagine your life without them. Love is putting them before yourself, no matter what the situation is. Love is forgetting about all the negatives in your life before they came around, because it doesn't matter anymore. What matters is that you're cuddling on a couch at night in a loud thunderstorm and everything feels okay. Love should feel comforting and powerful and emotional. From the moment you grow a connection, love should just feel real. It is hard to put how I feel into words, but if you have ever been in love then you know what I am trying to say. Ugh, now it's time to get more personal. Yes, I have been in love, and I still am in love; two years going strong! Whoohoo! If you couldn't tell, that was a sarcastic “whoohoo!”- I am no longer in a relationship with the person I am in love with. But, looking back to when I was, yes, my behavior changed. I felt amazing. It changed how I looked at life and the beauty of it. I became more thankful for each day. I became a happier person knowing that I would wake up and see the person I love every day. But then, things went downhill. Lets just say, his mistakes clarified that he clearly was not in love with me. While my outlook on life became more positive, I think his became more negative. Despite being cheating on, his lifestyle wasn't something that I wanted to take part in. And I will say no more. Which leads to the topic of “Why do you think we are attracted to those we are?” Haha. I have no idea. I have no freaking idea. Because, why is it that more than two years later I am still in love with someone that basically ruined me? How could I be in love with the person that cheated on me? How could I possibly even still have feelings for someone that chose drugs over me?
ReplyDeleteThis doesn't mean that cheaters turn me on. I am not the kind of person that allows these things to happen; I don't take them lightly. So it's hard for me to understand why I am still hooked on him regardless of what he put me through and continues to put me through. I am someone who looks for honesty and trust and fun. Not the kind of honesty where you express your honest feelings toward someone else. Not the kind of trust where you trust your friends to keep their mouths shut and don't say a word about what happened in the woods. Not the kind of fun where you go out and do whatever the hell you want, forgetting that you have a girl that loves you at home. A perfect relationship to me includes those 3 things. Honesty, trust, and fun. How can you have a relationship without trust and honesty? How can you have a relationship without some light-hearted fun? I am not really sure who taught me about love. I mean, my mom and dad have taught me how to love life and your family. I think that's the first time I have ever witnessed love. There are people in my life that have shown and taught me what love is. But I can't say that anyone has taught me about this kind of love. Nobody warned me that the struggle of love is something that will stay with me for more than two years, ever since freshman year. Ever since we were little, we have been taught that love is a magical fairytale that takes your breathe away. Which is true, if you're lucky, but usually it's only for some short time. Then it's not so magical. And it does take your breathe away. But in a bad way. Based on my experiences, the only thing I can hope to teach my kids about love is to enjoy it while it lasts. Have fun, make memories, but do NOT let a guy or girl treat you like you don't deserve everything in the world.
DeleteI have never been in a relationship, nor have I ever loved someone in a relationship sort of way. However, I have loved people as just people. I love everything about them, and I love the person they are. When you love someone, you do everything you can to see them happy. You make time for them, no matter what your schedule looks like. Love, to me, is wanting to be with one person. no matter how you feel, or how they feel. If you love somebody, you want their attention. You want to give them attention. All you care about is that one person, and there is nothing anybody can do to take that away. Whenever I'm around people who love each other, they change how they act. I'm not saying this is a bad thing though. If you're around your favorite person of course you're going to change. Usually the person becomes in a better mood. They become more talkative and engaged in things. The reason we are so attracted to the people we are is simple. They make us feel different than everyone else does. They rub off on us a different way. As long as they're with you, you feel right. You feel like anything is possible if they're by your side. What do I look for in a potential relationship? I haven't looked for love too much, but when I have, the most important thing is that you have to desire to be around them. You have to be happy with them. You have to look forward to talking to them. Loyalty is also another trait, but everyone looks for it. The funny thing is that nobody ever finds it. Trust is also important. If you don't trust the person, how can you believe the words they tell you, and the things they say they're doing? When I have my own kids running around my house, I'm going to preach to them that they most love themselves before they love someone else. If you depend on somebody else for your happiness and love, you will only be disappointed. If you're by yourself, but know what your worth, you will be happier than anybody can ever make you.One of my favorite quotes is "What does love have to do with it if you don't love yourself?". As somebody who hasn't been loved, or shown love to anyone, I make myself happy. I produce my own love, and that's all I need in my simple little life.
ReplyDeleteLove is like a puzzle. You may find a piece that kinda fits, but its not true love unless it is the perfect fit. Love is different for everyone. It may be at first sight, or it may develop over time. I myself have never been in love. It just hasn't happened yet. But to me there's no rush. I just have faith that one day it will show up at my doorstep and i will have no option but to let it in. Around me, I havent really been able to witness what love is. My parents divorced when I was in kindergarten, and sadly I only have one grandparent left, so I never got to see what their love looked like. Now although that may seem as a bad thing, to me its positive, because it allows me to come up with an opinion on love for myself and not base it off of someone else's love life. TO me the number one thing that I look for in a potential partner is their ability to make any situation fun. I look for someone that will go through hell and back and still come out with a smile. That is important to me because I know that nothing will go right to plan, and that sometimes shit will hit the wall and I NEED someone who will still look for the positive in it. Like I said earlier, no one has really taught me about love. But to me that's a good thing so I can make my own opinion on it. When I grow up and teach my kids about love I will simply let them come up with their own opinion on it, but I will inform them that their is no reason to rush it.
ReplyDeleteI might get a lot of hate for saying this but I believe love is overrated. Not overrated for people who are in love but overrated in the sense that everyone feels like they need love. Everyone is obsessed with finding love and getting married but form my point of view life isn't like that. Maybe its harder to understand love with divorced parents AND grandparents but it's kind of hard for me to understand it. I have a decent sense of what love is not in a romantic way though. Love is when I come home and my cat is waiting for me at the door. Love is when my mom goes out of her way to make my lunches when she really doesn't have to. Love is when my dog gets so happy to see me that runs around the entire house for literal minutes. Love is when my sister comes home from college during Christmas break and gets me something super thoughtful. I understand the concept of love just not in a relationship. Relationships are so overrated. It's sad that almost every girl aspires to get married in her life. I feel like we base our lives around this idea that we need to get people to like us or we'll be lonely our whole lives and thats not true. Relationships make me feel claustrophobic, I don't like the feeling of being tied down to a single person in fact I despise it. Maybe I have these relationship issues because I never got to see my parents actually love each other but it's hard to get it if you've never seen it. I have never seen someone I think is actually in love, I've heard stories about people who love someone but never witnessed it myself. I am very timid and careful when it comes to saying the word love and meaning it because to me love is something SO rare. There are so many people who say they are in love at this young age and I can't believe it, literally. I think people are so caught up in trying to find love that they search for it endlessly and throw themselves out to it so easily, that they miss it when it actually does come. If I ever have kids I want them to learn that a relationship is not a priority in life. As of now I want to adopt a little girl and raise her as a single mom. I know this will be hard but if I don't happen to find love in time it will show her that it is okay to not have love. Maybe one day I will stumble across someone who makes me feel the way everyone describes love and I will make them feel the same way, but I will not go out and waste my time searching for it if it is out there.
ReplyDeleteLove is something everybody thinks about at least once in their life time trying to understand it completely. There are so many different interpretations on what love is and their is no wrong answer when it comes to questioning it. Love to me is not physical thing anybody can grasp but more of an emotion, an emotion towards people that are the closest to you and know you can be with them the rest of your life. Love doesn't always mean boyfriend and girlfriend, it can be anybody in your family or anybody you consider family. I love my friends and family because they are all so close to me. I have never really been in love with another person but I know plenty of people who are in love in that way. They become much happier in life and more appreciative of the things they have in life. People are always attracted to each other because of the qualities each of them have which pulls them to each other even more. But no relationship is perfect and I can't see there being a perfect relationship. Nothing is perfect but doesn't mean you can't make it work. People argue and fight with each other or they might not have the same characteristics as each other. So I don't believe there is such thing as a perfect relationship, I have been single though my whole life so don't take my word for it. Love though is something I was never taught but is something I have observed over the years. I have seen relationships crumble, some relationships that will never break, and some that are struggling but are trying to push through. All of these things are what I have observed and seen what is right and wrong in a relationship. I don't think I truly understand the feeling of love enough to explain to my future children but if I do get the true feeling then I am sure I can explain very well.
ReplyDeleteI’ve only been on this planet for 16 years so my argument could be invalid. But, love to me is when you can be your true self to someone else without holding anything back and they still love you for who you are. Love is when you’re up at 3 am smiling like a doofus thinking about that one person who makes your world go round. Love is a feeling that will never go away. You find your forever partner, your soul mate. The love of your life changes you, whether you like it or not, in both good ways and bad. We always hope it’s for the better but sometimes, we get caught up in the worst.
ReplyDeleteI would be lying if I said I have never been in love but I would also be lying if I said I ended up with that person. In a way, I absolutely wish that person and I would have been together but we both know it would have never worked out. I know the saying “You never know unless you do” trust me that’s my mom’s favorite lecture but, we both knew that if we were to be together, we would have ruined each other both mentally and emotionally. And that’s something you never, ever want to do to anyone. In a way, he did teach me a little something about love. Of course I knew that true love wasn’t just going out and doing expensive shit, absolutely, but I didn’t truly understand the concept until I found myself with him and we were looking at the stars in his neighborhood. That would hands down be one of the best nights in my life and I got to do it with someone who means a lot to me. With my life, there aren’t many hours in the day for me to have a relationship so I can’t input my ideal significant other or perfect relationship.
My earliest memory of love would be my birth mother giving me up for adoption. It’s a different kind of love that I have talked about in the previous two paragraphs but it’s still love. She wasn’t in the right state of mind to take care me so she had to what was best for her and give me a better life. Her love for me was that she wanted to see me grow up in a better environment than what she could have provided. My parents could not have children biologically so my birth mother gave them something to love since she couldn’t give me the love I needed. Sometimes with love, you can’t be selfish. With what I said before, you want to see the person you love flourish and grow rather than hurt and let down. Sometimes you have to sacrifice your love so someone else can be happy. I don’t plan on having kids, I just don’t have that desire to have any but if I did, I would tell them to be patient. True love will come their way in the right time.
Coming from someone who takes the concept of love very seriously, I would define love as a feeling that brings out the best in you. Love is not having to think twice about putting someone else before yourself. Love is putting all of your trust into someone. Love challenges you to be better. Love is respect. Love is equality. Love is realizing that reality is better than your dreams.
ReplyDeleteI have not ever been in love, partly because the major relationship I had ended before it got to that point. However I do know people that are in love, and as happy as I am for them, it’s hard for me to sit back and watch what I could have potentially had with someone. If there is any type of behavioral difference that I have noticed within my friends that are in happy relationships, it’s that they are exactly what the relationship is; happy. Having someone to talk to everyday and to count on and to love is such a positive thing that can turn someone’s whole life around for the better. Although a few priorities may change, someone’s behavior while in love only improves.
We are attracted to the ones that we feel we deserve. I know what I deserve so I settle my expectations around the type of guy I know I should be with. Trust is the number one thing for me in a relationship. I have major trust issues and if I can trust someone then I feel as if I can do anything. Along with trust, having someone that has the same desire to succeed as me is a major aspect in what I look for in a relationship. I want someone that can motivate me to not only focus on my goals, but someone who can motivate me to become a better version of myself. I want someone that is genuine. Someone that I can constantly joke around with, but also someone that will take me seriously if need be.
It’s difficult to think of my idea of a perfect relationship simply because I don’t think that any relationship is perfect. As amazing as a relationship may seem, there are always going to be flaws. It would be weird if there wasn’t. So my idea of an ALMOST perfect relationship is a reflection of my parent’s relationship. They taught me about love. Growing up watching them look out for one another and protect each other and make each other better has taught me what exactly I should be looking for in my future spouse. I have seen them love each other every day ever since I was able to understand what love was and what it looked like. They give me hope that there is someone out there that I will be able to experience the same kind of love with.
I feel like the concept of love has faded over the years. I’ve seen the word “love” thrown around like a dirty rag when it should be used with careful consideration and genuine thought. I’ve noticed that people tend to just want to have fun and play around in a relationship because it’s something to keep them busy, which is why I want to teach my future children about the importance of love. I don’t want them to think it’s acceptable to throw that word around. I want them to understand the value it holds. I want them to be aware of the love they deserve.
I have personally never been in love, nor did I ever get the chance to see my parents in love so I really never witnessed it firsthand. But from my friends and other people around me, I kind of have a basic understanding. People can define love in many different ways and because of this, they show it differently and have different expectations of what it should look and feel like. Love can be my mom or dad going out of their way to do things for me. Love can be you seeing your dog for the first time on a long day. Love can be eating your favorite food. Love can be the feeling of getting into bed when you’re really tired. Love can be the feeling you get when you’re around a certain someone. As you can see, love can be defined by variety of ways.
ReplyDeleteBeing in love and being attracted to someone are two totally different things to me. Being in love is when you know you can see yourself spending the rest of your life with them. Being attracted to someone, on the other hand, is liking them and their characteristics. Thinking they’re funny, athletic, smart, loveable, caring, and kind is being attracted to someone. In a relationship, I look for all of those things and of course, trust. Trust is a huge factor in a relationship because I need to be able to trust the person with everything. Love cannot be taught because I think its something that you have to develop your own meaning of, based on your own experiences.
Love is not only an emotion it's a commitment you have to be willing to take and grow upon with your significant other. Love is indiscribable but you know when you are, it effects you in every way possible. When your other half is upset, you're upset. When your other half is happy than you're glowing with joy. When your other half is hurt you're there to help in anyway possible. You'll do any and everything for that other person and not even think about it. You won't even expect a thank you in return because it made not only you but your other as happy. Love is waking up and thinking, "i wonder if they're up too?" or going to bed thinking, "i hope i'm on their mind like they're on mind." Love is careless, it just happens and you can't force it. Everyone tends to say, "opposites attract." I don't find that true, what's the point in dating someone that hates everything you do? You need to find someone who fits you well but no one will match up perfectly. If you match up perfectly than you're lucky and you need to hold on the that. You have to be willing to laugh at one another in silly moments and not take everything to heart. Sure, it gets to a point where you want to quit, but why give up on the one you love most dear? Like i said love is a commitment. People tend to call other relationships "goals" but what they don't see is what's beyond that. The little things. Every girl likes to be called pretty or complimented in some way. Girls also like little or thoughtful gifts every once in a while, and every girl hates when you're not there for them. A lot of guys blow off their girlfriends and think it's okay. I try to avoid blowing off people, i try to make everyone happy but that usually doesn't end up working. Last year for homecoming i went with Will Fish. I was suppose to hang with Jess that night, but that didn't happen. So trying to make it up to her at the end of the night around 11, Will took me to her house and i facetimed her while she was in bed. She had no idea i was standing outside her house with a rose. When she answered the call i said "come to your window." She wasn't quite sure if i was making her get out of bed for no reason or if there was a real reason. When she got to the window, She saw me dressed up in a nice outfit with a tie and a rose. She was speechless and shaking. No matter how much you've been through with one person you should always get bitter flies every time you see that person, at that moment we were both shaking and speechless. That's what love is, butterflies after butterflies no matter how much you've been through. You get that same "i love her everything" every time you see them whether it's in the halls or outside of school or even if they're sick as a dog. My earliest memory of seeing love was the day i went to the movies. I went to see Maze Runner with Jess, it was a little awkward at first bc we've never hung out before but she broke the scilence in the theater watching the previews before the movie started. It was probably the most stupid thing but to me that's what started it all. It was some ugly cartoon on the screen and she made a statement i won't ever forget, "that looks like you." From then on I knew what love was. When i have a child of my own i will tell them to love with an open heart and love everyone. You may go through some rough patches but in the end if you really love someone you'll know it's meant to be.
ReplyDeleteI am glad you asked this Mrs. Bunje, it is right up my alley! I was always the kid back in the third grade who gave relationship advice to those kids with actual relationships. It was funny because I had absolutely no experience with girls and had never been in a relationship before, but I thought I knew the basics. They used to call me LoveDaddyGuru back in the day. That was a lie. The guru (me) says there are a couple types of love, and the love you are referring to is closest to a playful love, or the greek word of love, ludus. In some instances, it is not at all playful, and a lot of people end up marrying their high school love, but the majority is fleeting. My personal definition of love is when you genuinely want to be with a person, WITHOUT any carnal impulses. When you can think about spending your life with a girl without wanting her in a "certain" way, then that is love. When you want to be with her, and talk with her, and you think about her all the time, then that is love. I think that definition is great because it really narrows down the number of girls you say you "love". I have been truly in love with a girl only once, in middle school. We will call her Lily. She was perfect in my eyes, and I wanted nothing more than to be with her. She did not like me back, so her attitude did not really change, but we became best friends. You know, #friendzoned, #singlelife, #singleforlife, #foreveralone. My behavior changed in that whenever she was around, I would naturally gravitate towards her, and I would try to talk to her as much as I could. People attract each other based on preference. If one person meets another's criteria, they will be drawn to that person. I look for friendliness, trust, and a whole lot of hugging in a relationship. If your mean, or lie often, it is no bueno. A perfect relationship is one where there are no big arguments, you act as a team, and everyone else aspires to have what you have. Also included are similar interests and hobbies. No one really taught me about love, I just saw it a lot on TV and in books, and around me as well. My earliest memory of love is when Spiderman kissed Gwen Stacy upside down, and trust me, that did not affect how I viewed love. You don't have to save every girl from mortal danger before you fall in love. As for advice, people stopped listening to me a long time ago. I guess it is my personality, but people immediately assume that I do not know what I am talking about. I guess I would tell them not to worry about love until they are in high school, then it is time to get some experience with relationships. I would tell them that love is pure, and that they do not love someone if all they think about is their body.
ReplyDeleteLove is working through a situation no matter what is is and pushing through together while never giving up one one another. Love is always having that person on your mind and always finding something that reminds you of them. Love is your favorite roller coaster with its ups and downs. But when you start getting sick that one person makes you forget it all and continue riding. I like to say I’ve been in love. Love does things to you. Behavior is 100% different. You’re happier and life seems to flow and it makes you feel like you have a place and you are important. You’re attracted because that person brings the best out of you. I look for someone I can have a future with. Someone I can see myself with for a long time and not just a month or two. My idea of a perfect relationship is trust and having a love like no other. When you think of beauty, humor, great personality, they are the person you think of. My parents showed me love by loving one another and myself along with my seven other siblings. I would teach that love is not something you play with. That love is a shelter that you enter in and lock the door not wanting to ever leave it again. That its not supposed to be a fight, but something worth fighting for.
ReplyDeleteInnocently stalling on doing this blog while taking a nap at some point in time, I am finally going to start. Talking about love is like the hardest and most conflicting emotion for me to talk about. My love life practically left me dead twice. In describing love, there are two definitions. One type of love is for family and just friends. This love is where you care. Not the other love unless either a. you are a personnel of a stereotype of the people situated in the southern half of America or b. you have an Oedipus complex. This type of love is what the blog is asking and what I am going to talk about. Love is according to Ashanti in “What’s luv”, “It should be about us, it should be about trust”. Trust is one important factor in a good loving relationship along with another factor, which is talking(such a trivial thing). Love should be about only two people who care for each other deeply. Both parties may look at other people of the opposite sex, nonetheless, they should only think about their other only for love. The other people goes to lust, a deadly but more stimulating sin. My own definition of “Love” is where not both parties have to love but where one person, or both, has someone on their mind most of the day. At random times, she just pops into your head and you just feel all happy and stuff, where you want to protect her from any harm and just want to be with her. Her pains are your pains, her problems are your problems.You have to be there for her when she needs you or if she says she wants to be alone when she actually needs you there to comfort her. If anyone is questioning the song, a notice that I only listen to song like hip-hop from back when I was a toddler and befor I was even born. In honor of this blog, I’m listening to love songs from genres like hip-hop and R&B compared to pop love songs and like Haddaway’s “What Is Love”, which is a good song but I just don’t listen to on a daily basis.
ReplyDeleteHave I ever been in love? I would say quite a lot of times although that wouldn’t be true. I have never been in a relationship, but I have still loved. Ever since 1st grade, there would always be one person I would “like”. Emphasis on the like as it means a petty love like a little kid thing. Middle school was the same. That was a waste of time to just learn it was thought of differently. As freshmen year was starting, a lot of my friends went to relationships like a tissue box is used during flu season. I was sick and tired of their relationships, talking about it all the time. Always talking about how they fell in love made me want to punch them. Then somewhere in October or November I thought my time was going to come out. I’m not going to go in detail to save time so long story short, she liked one of my friends and they went out. I died for the first time right there. Jokes on me for trying to get them together before it happened. Only good thing is that my best friend and I were and are still single and ready to mingle. Freshmen year just went past leaving a good amount of happy Bobi with it. Good thing it didn’t work out for me as I later learn. I dodged a bullet.
The thing is though, I feel like I still love her. Reason being is probably because she’s younger whereas every other girl I “like-like” were and still are older than me. Whenever we talk in the hallways and someone bumps into her, I get angry. Because of this, my second death is not restarting from the checkpoint. I’m not going to bother about the Second as it would be really long and this blog is long enough, so the Second is just because of a mistake I did that I am trying to fix which from anyone’s point of view, has no progress. In a potential relationship, I look for a “dime that’s top of the line. Cute face, slim waist, and a big behind”. Just kidding. I look for a cute face, since looks are what gets people’s attention, and a nice personality. I honestly don’t know how I started to love the Second but here I am now, trying to make plans to fix thing but never executing them. This type of love was influenced by the music I listen to like one song which is my favorite, “Suga Suga”, by Baby Bash. I can not recall the first time I have seen this kind of love, but the family kind of love is from my grandma. Whenever I got in trouble as a toddler, my grandma always comforts me. This is the family love I remember and will still remember as I grow older while taking care of my grandma. If I have kids, big if since marrying would lose money and kids would just double the money loss, I would tell them to love in college since then they could marry or whatever they want. Kids of the future man. Who knows what they would be like.
DeleteReading this blog post makes me think about A LOT. What is love? Hmm. I asked myself this a couple of times before and I honestly don’t know. Love is a very strong word and I feel as though that people use love too freely. Love is often used in all of the wrong places, and is often said to the wrong person. Everyone has their own perspective of love, therefore there is no type of definition for it. The feeling of being in love can really hurt, especially when you’re giving someone 100% and they aren’t giving it back nor making the effort. A lot of females have been in a situation where they felt as if they loved someone and the person they loved, felt the same way too just because they told them they did. Love is dangerous. Being in love is where you can look at that person and strongly believe that you want be with them for the rest of your life. Everything that person does or goes through affects you. That person that you love can stab you a million of times and you will never believe that they meant it. You would do anything for that person no matter how much dirt they threw on you. Love is something that doesn’t die. I personally believed that I was in love until I finally realized maybe It was lust. Maybe, I didn’t see anyone else the way I saw that person so I was automatically in love. Being hurt constantly by the person you “love” will soon change your perspective on everything. I have learned that you have to love yourself before ANYONE. There is no such thing as a “Perfect” relationship to me. Every relationship has their differences.
ReplyDeleteMy perspective on love has changed a lot from the past and I am extremely grateful that I did get my feelings hurt. It sounds a little harsh, but everything is a learning experience. I would teach my children that love isn’t something that doesn’t have to be forced, it just comes. Also, to always make sure you love yourself before you love anyone else. It’s really not much you can say.
I honestly don’t feel as if I have experienced enough in the amount of time I have roamed the Earth, to explain one of the deepest, extreme, and captivating of emotions. An unmistakable feeling that is so often confused with actions whether we are the one giving ‘love’ or receiving it. I have never been in love and I don’t know anyone who has been. I feel as if we are attracted to certain people because of multiple reasons. Sometimes it is completely physical. Other times we love what we wish we could be or something we aspire to be. Sometimes we love the idea of someone, even though they are not best for us. At times it can be that we love someone, or someone loves us, and we think it is love but it is really infatuation or worse, obsession. In a relationship, I would look for mutual trust, respect, comfort, honesty, a good mix of content and change, loyalty, and friendship. I feel that you should be able to be in the same room as your significant other and not feel the need to fill the silence. I believe that if your significant is not in competition for the top spot that your closest friend has, then something is wrong. I don’t believe in the perfect relationship. I’ve seen bad relationships and good relationships, whether it be with a person or an object, in books, movies, or stories that I have heard from real people. I will teach my future children that love always prevails and that if it doesn’t, it wasn’t love. I will tell them that the person that they love in elementary, middle, or high school is never going to last, or you’ll ‘love’ somebody else at some other time.
ReplyDeleteNo words are powerful enough to explain the true meaning of love. There is no feeling compatible to the emotional roller coaster that love puts you on, regardless of how " perfect" you think your relationship will be. Sadly, there is no way to prepare for love, same way there is no way to prepare for getting hit by a bus. When love hits you, you fall. All you can do is hope the person you love is there to catch you , because otherwise you're left laying in the street wishing you had never crossed the road in the first place. Wishing you had never laid eyes on that person because now, your heart is in pieces. Love is more than just simply saying “I love you”. Love should be expressed through our actions more than our words. Love is looking at that special person and being satisfied, wanting nothing more and nothing less. Love is unconditional. Love is holding on to every last thread despite what challenges you’re relationship may go through. Love is forever.
ReplyDeleteThroughout my life i've seen many people fall in love and let it change them. Whether you are in love or not, you’re number one priority should always be to stay true to yourself. If you're not happy in your own skin, no amount of love could ever change that. I believe that it is human nature to be attracted to the kind of person you think you deserve. Growing up I never knew how much I was worth, this caused me to settle for less. As I matured I realized how much more I deserved and now I have a different outlook on relationships. If I am ever in a relationship I expect it to be perfect. I don’t ever want to be compared to someone else. I don’t ever want to be kept a secret and I will not allow anyone to make me feel worthless. The person I fall in love with will want to be with me forever because I am not settling for anything less than just that. My mistakes are what taught me how to love. I grew up with two parents that are married, but hate each other. They live in the same house and can’t stand to look at each other. Seeing my parents relationship makes me want to do better. I will never get stuck with someone who I don’t plan on spending my whole life with, because I see what the outcome would be. When I have kids of my own I will teach them that before you try to love someone else, you have to love yourself. I will also advise them to get in a relationship with someone who will be a best friend to them because real friendships last forever.
Love is such a hard thing to define. There's not a clear cut definition. It comes in all different shapes and sizes. There's platonic love, romantic love, self love, etc. Love is knowing your partner's flaws and loving them regardless. It's wanting to infuse someone into your daily routine. Love is waiting to watch the next episode of Big brother until they get home from work even though you've been waiting all week. It's saving them the last donut in the box. It's the little details you admire. The way they chew on their eraser when writing a paper for class. The way they wake up dazed and confused in search for their glasses. It's looking at them and thinking they are the biggest dork you know and loving them for it. It's mutual respect, honesty, trust, and comfort.
ReplyDeleteThe first love I was introduced to was a mother's love. I grew up watching my mom put her children's needs before her own. Some days she went hungry so that we could eat. Even know she can't eat something without offering it to me and my brother. I got that from her. When I go out to eat I almost always bring half of whatever I ordered home if it's something my mom or brother like. I love my family more than anything. Honestly they come before me. I'd jump in front of a bullet for either of them. Love is a strong bond that doesn't go away easily. It's pushing the people you love to be the best versions of themselves even if that means walking away from them.
Love changes you. At least romantic love does. It makes you do stupid things. I feel like a lot of people feel pressured to be in love. As if they need someone else to complete then which makes them jump into relationships too quickly or causes them to ignore the signs of an unhealthy one. They make excuses for those they love because they're scared this will be the only chance they get at it. Many people confuse love and lust. People also say things like love is pain. Love is a pure and beautiful thing. Love does not hurt. Lies, rejection, manipulation, betrayal. They hurt. I will teach my children to love themselves first. To be careful who they give their heart to because not everyone has good intentions.
I have never been in love before. I have never felt what other people say they have felt in a relationship. But because of my family and friends I do understand what love is. It is a bond that can not be broken.I have unconditional love for my family. If it came down to who lives and who dies I would put my life on the line. This is love that out weighs every other single form of love. It is a bond between and father and son, a mother and daughter and a brother and a sister. I feel that I have yet to meet that special women that i will be spending the rest of my life with. Not anytime soon, school comes first but i will have a lot more time to find my true love in the future. I hope I run into Selena Gomez some time though because she is pretty cool.
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ReplyDeleteLove is such an intense and amazing feeling of attraction that two people share with each other, it’s when two people have great charisma and never want to leave each other’s side. I’ve been lucky enough to fall in love and be able to experience the butterflies when you look into their eyes, feeling completely at home when you're in their arms, and my favorite, the smile they never fail to put on your face even on your worst days. As soon as you fall in love your perspective of everything changes and the world seems brighter. As soon as I fell in love everyone told me how much happier I seemed and they told me that my attitude on life changed, and it did. Being with someone that I love makes me want to be a better person, it makes see everything in a positive way and it just automatically makes me happier. I can’t really tell you what makes someone attracted to another person because it is different for everyone. Being attracted to someone all really just comes down to having the same interests. People say opposites attract but I don’t think that is true. What I look for in a relationship is for someone to treat me like a princess and enjoy doing it because they love me, someone who will do anything for me just to make sure that I am happy at the end of the day, a person who can make any situation fun even if it is as horrible as studying. A perfect relationship is with that person who will drop anything for you but it’s okay because you would do the same thing. When two people would do anything for each other, it makes things perfect. I was never taught about love by someone who just sat me down and talked about it. I fell so hard in love in order to find out what it was. I had to figure things out for myself.
ReplyDeleteMy parents have been together for over 20 years and I always saw the love between them. They way they looked at each other, held each other when they were together, just the way they listened to each other when one of them spoke. You could always tell the love they had was strong and it has never faded. My parents being so in love and perfect for each other set pretty high expectations for what I want in a relationship. Having a high standard for love isn't a bad thing at all when you think about it, it just means that when I did find someone, I knew it was perfect. And I hope that when I am a parent myself that I don’t need to talk about love with my child. I hope that I can just set a good example everyday with my husband about what love should look like. Love seems like a difficult emotion that you might want to avoid because of the commitment to another person but when it happens with the right person, it will be the easiest and most natural emotion you can have.
Love is the most beautiful thing anyone could ever experience. There really is no true definition of love. Love is different in everybody’s eyes because everyone has experienced love differently. Some people hate it, some people thinks it's stupid, some people don't believe in it, but some people love it. I’m one of those people that love the idea of love. But the one thing that people don't always think about is, love always comes with heartbreak. Falling in love with someone is the most amazing feeling anyone could ever feel. But when that person leaves, it's the most painful feeling ever. Being in love is amazing, but at the same time scary. In your eyes, that one person is the most precious thing you’ve ever laid your eyes on. You look at them and think to yourself how that one person is your forever and how you can’t imagine anybody else taking their spot. Love makes you so blind to the world outside of your relationship. That one person literally becomes your entire life, where your life is revolved around them. It’s scary that just because you love a person so much, that they have the ability to take over your entire life, but they don’t even mean to. Everything about love is so skewed and confusing that nobody will really ever understand why or how you can have such a strong connection with someone else. Or how someone that was supposed to love you as much as you loved them could ever hurt you. You give the one person you love everything, just for it to eventually be gone. Just for the love to mean nothing. The love will never go away, but it will soon be meaningless when the heartbreak comes.
ReplyDeleteI'm going to start this off by asking the question, "What is love?". I'm going to answer that by saying love is a crazy thing that ends up influencing every decision you make. Love effects all of your decisions, especially after two years of being with that one great girl. Love effects your decisions even after you broke up with her because you thought it'd be best for both of you. Love is the fact that even though she didn't live with you, your house no longer feels like a home without her. It is probably becoming obvious that these situations are specific to me. I was in love. Actually, five months after the relationship ended, I still am. But I have screwed up horribly with probably the best part of my life and am now incapable of ever getting her back...... I actually literally just zoned out and reminisced on my old relationship and mourned a little bit. But, love is something special. So, if you find that special thing, don't mess it up like I did; because you'll be miserable without her.
ReplyDeleteSince I do not have as much experience in love as most people do (not even love for my family), I do not have a clear understanding of this idea. I see love as something that can be interpreted in many ways: an obsession over a person, affection for a personal item, or selfishness. Love is inconsistent and differs from every other person. For instance, the rushing feelings that one receives whenever they see the image of their beloved or of their crush on their minds shows that the person is burned into their brain. Or a person never leaving an area without having their phone on them since they believe that they will die without the device being in proximity to them. Or the want of a relationship that would give the benefits of money or popularity within society. All of these are the different forms of love that I see in the world everyday. You can see the obsession of other people plenty of times in high school, or easily on most drama shows on the television. People, particularly younger children, have feelings attached to personal items that may be sentimental to them: jewelry given to someone just before their family member died, a teddy bear, or something simple like a wedding wing. Or love for someone’s benefits when marrying or dating someone, such as Hillary and Bill’s political marriage or a high school student dating someone just for looks and a good reputation.
ReplyDeleteHave I ever been in love before? Yes. I will admit that I had a crush before and I had helped my other friends with their relationships too. But I have not recently been in an affectionate relationship and I am not planning to have one. If I ever get into a relationship (which may never happen), an ideal relationship would be where I can fully trust that person and both sides be willing to sacrifice themselves for each other. My parents never really told me about their experiences of love, mostly due to their inappropriateness, so most of my knowledge of love comes from observation of my friends and a few personal relationships. But they do usually remind me that I am not allowed to date until I reached the age of twenty-eight (which is unreasonable). If I do have a child of my own, I would probably not allow her/him to date unless she/he gets good grades in school, since I see relationships as distractions that can sway them away from their education.
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DeleteTo be completely honest, I've never experienced love, in fact, I've never even considered it. It's been a foreign idea ever since I was six and found out what the word meant. For such a long time I thought love was a secretion of hormones when sensing someone or something you desire. Weird right? For approximately five years, I lived in confinement. I was restricted from going to the movies or to the mall. Because of this, I never really got to see love.
ReplyDeleteWhat changed my perspective on this topic is...Korean dramas. Before I get made fun of, hear me out okay? When I was 13 and getting ready to transition into the great OHS, I had finally gotten a laptop. So the first thing I did was go to Youtube and watch all the music videos and podcasts etc. Somehow, I stumbled upon a channel called KBS World TV, and bam! I got addicted. So it's safe to say all I really know about love, comes from a TV show.
The first example of love I really witnessed is from my first Korean drama called "You Are My Destiny". It started out with the two main characters Jang Saebyuk and Kang Hojae who hated each other initially but then grew to like each other and then basically get married. So I guess you can consider this a behavior change. Weirdly, this is the same case for all other Korean Dramas so I can't really argue it.
I can't really guess why we all like who we like. I'd like to say it's personality but that isn't the case for everyone. I definitely know people infatuated with others because of what they have and not what they are. But can you even consider that love? I've never been able to differentiate love from a desire from an obsession anyways.
The perfect relationship for me would have to be someone who accepts who I am. I've lived in an environment where doing my best simply isn't good enough and that I have to change my personality and my interests to fit the "Asian Standard". I've never really been accepted for who I am and if someone accepts me for me, I think I would be happy beyond words.
If I ever had kids, I'm not too sure on what I'd teach them about love. Like I said, I've never experienced love before, so I can't really teach anyone about it. It's like teaching someone about spectrophotometry without them knowing the basics of the wavelength. (Chemistry reference :) Jk I hate chem with all my life ). I guess I'd just teach them to love whoever they really want to love and not to regret it. I haven't even taken into consideration things like unrequited love, so it better be a one-hit kill! (I'm gonna suck as a parent lol).
Love has no accepted definition, and its meaning is extremely ambiguous and based on the person you're asking. If you ask me though, I believe love is a collection of actions that a person does for another, and for themselves. Love is the late nights spent with someone talking, love is holding off an important event just to be with someone, love is an indescribable anomaly in which a person feels destined to be with another and will do anything to be with them.
ReplyDeleteIf you ask me if I've ever been in love, well according to my definition, then yes. There's been times where I've stayed up talking to that "special someone" for countless hours. There's also been times where I've skipped "parties" just to talk to that same person. Looking back at the times where I "loved" someone, I feel like my behavior changed significantly. During those times, I felt myself wanting to be better and not only for myself, but for them too. I felt the need to be good enough, for them. Not only that, though, I became more reserved as a person and I tried keeping to myself more because I felt like I didn't need anyone else. "Love" clouds your brain with false conceptions of a person and life itself, that sometimes it starts to feel like a drug.
I think we are attracted to those we are because they… actually I honestly have no idea. That's the thing about love and attraction in general, you can't really describe why you like someone. Feelings are an indescribable thing and I think that's another way you can tell if you love someone. If someone makes you feel something you can't describe, in a good way, then you probably, maybe, love them. But if I had to name things I look for in potential relationships, the three main things would be commitment, genuineness, and playful nature. I want someone who won't be afraid to tell me anything, someone who I won't be afraid to tell anything to, and someone who will stay there through the hardships that come with all relationships. My idea of a perfect relationship would probably be the one I described. One where the two people aren't afraid to share their feelings but in the end, they'll still be together.
The things that taught me about love, to be completely honest, are romance movies and self experiences. I've watched so many heartbreaks in movies that I'd hate to put someone through the same thing. I've also gone through so many things in my life where I felt my own heart breaking that I would never want to go through it again. My earliest memory of "seeing" love is when I saw my parents fighting. That last sentence probably messed you up, but that's cause I'm not done. I saw my parents fight but then in the end of it all, I saw them hugging and I think that was the most loving gesture I have seen. "For better, for worse…" is a quote that clearly applies to the situation because it shows that they will be there for each other for the good AND bad time. That memory definitely affects how I view the idea of love because it taught me that love means forgiving. Honestly, I don't think I'm going to teach my future sons and daughters about the idea of love and relationships. I want them to feel it themselves and I want them to find their own meaning of love because that's the beauty of it all, finding it. Finding love without a template or a mold to follow.
Love is defined by the user. Some people tend to throw the word around to fit their own life and meaning; for example, have you ever heard THAT person walking around spewing about how they just absolutely, "love this" and "love that". Well, these people have a different definition than me, and probably you as well. To me, love comes in many forms and they will never be clearly defined in my head as long as I live, so I prefer not to dwell of the types of love, and when I fall in love again, It'll be a simple, real, and pure type of love. Does behavior change? Yes, however this change is dependent on the person and how they generally act. There are exceptions to this rule and some people are always genuine most all of the time and these people never change no matter their relationship with the other person, but these kinds of people are rare. What I look for in potential relationships mainly dwells on personality and the little things people do to make you smile. After all, a relationship without happiness is not a loving relationship nor one I want to be a part of. I don't believe in a "perfect relationship" because I feel that if you truly love someone, you should never be content with them being content; your job should be to always strive to improve their day, if even only a moment at a time or to a degree that could be considered negligible. I won't expressly teach my kids about love because it is my belief that they should be smart enough to figure it out on their own, if not then I've probably goofed somewhere in raising them.
ReplyDeleteWhat is love? To me love is that feeling you get when something drives you to do better, that passion that makes you greater and continues to build on the strong foundation that you have laid out before yourself. Love is what gets you out of bed in the morning when you want just 10 more minutes, with the help of your alarm clock. Love is what makes the hard days worth suffering through when all you really want is to go home and plop yourself in front of the television.
ReplyDeleteThere are those among us, in our lives, that do exactly that, make us greater, and that is exactly what I feel is needed to build a strong, “perfect” relationship. I need someone who is going to push me beyond my limits to help me succeed.
Some think love is nothing but a chemical reaction in your brain, but it's much more than that. Falling in love is both the best and the worst feeling you could imagine. You eventually find yourself doing anything and everything in your power to make this special someone happy because you feel they are worthy of your love, and not many people are.
Love can change behavior more than any other emotion, people drive themselves crazy over a relationship, change of moods, behavior, and focus can be the result of a bad relationship.
Love is a tricky emotion, it can have happy moments as well as sad ones. Relieve stress or cause it, bring people together or move them apart. The one thing that is always the same is that when you really love someone you put their needs before your own. I’m not referencing the fake love that usually occurs, like most high school relationships these days. Love is, and always will be, putting someone else's well being above yours, physically or mentally. Family, friends, pets are things I love in this regards but when you start to talk about relationships with another person things get more complicated. There are so many different factors to consider, like what your SO likes or doesn’t for basic examples, that you feel like you’re walking a very thin , frail line. With that being said I experience on a daily basis. The family mindset my parent have created for me and my brothers over the years puts love above all, loving one another is just who we are as a family. Included in my family is my pets which I probably love more than any human. When it comes to real relationships with other people I find myself most times falling for people I probably won’t ever date. I’ve had crushes since the beginning of school when it felt that everyone had to have one. After many crushes as well as fake relationships I got to the point( around middle school) where love started to change. Crushes had a little more meaning but they really never resulted to much. High school was when I feel we start to actually love people for the first time. Looking back at early high school I had more lust than love for some people. As I have matured though I now believe I have hit the first point in having a actual crush I love, It’s different. It’s not like the ones before, it seems to have much more weight to me than the ones before. Usually people fall for the prettiest girl in the school or such but at this age there is shift from physical attraction being the main focus to their personality. Obviously if have a strong repulsion due to someone's appearance you might not fall for them because you need a balance. The more you talk to that special person the more their flaws disappear. I honestly don’t think I will date this person but this experience has changed my views on love going forward. Now when I’m looking for a relationship I look for a certain personality rather than a certain appearance. A perfect relationship will be different for everyone though what should be similar throughout all of them is that you feel the person completes you. The best example I can use for this is Voldemort with his horcruxes. When you take away the dark stigma applied to them you see that someone loves something so much they’re willing to put part of their soul into it. That’s the ultimate form of love.
ReplyDeleteI’ve never actually experienced love before, not even for my parents really. That sounds harsh, but I’ll explain in my OP one day. Like Melissa, the only way I see it for a while is through books. Not romance ones, but the action-packed, fantasy/sci-fi ones (there’s almost always a love interest). The main character seems weak and scared at first, but as the book/series goes on, they become stronger and solidify what their morals are. Along the way, they meet a significant other and they start to go through all the bad stuff together and develop feelings for each other. They both fit perfectly together and make each other stronger.
ReplyDeleteBased on this, my definition of love is a little bit too optimistic in reality, but it’s this: love is when you would do anything for the other person (even fall into Tartarus with them (PJO reference)). You support whatever your partner wants to do no matter what. You lift each other up in times of sadness. You have your problems, but you can talk it through with the other person. You accentuate the other person’s good qualities and make up for the bad ones. It’s the feeling you get when you see the love of your not life, but of the moment. You know when you have it for someone when you can’t imagine another way of living and you’re grateful that they’re in your life. Etc. that I can’t think of right now.
I don’t know how I’ll teach my kids about love the way I want them to. I want them to grow up confident and independent. They shouldn’t feel like they need to be in a relationship if they don’t think it’s right for them. I don’t know if I’ll set a dating age like my parents (ahem, when I graduate college), but I don’t want them to be in a serious relationship when they’re in middle school, if that’s even possible. I also don’t want them to have a dirty mind, but I know they can’t stay innocent forever. Love is not all about sex. It should be about being with the person for their personality, not their physicality. I don’t know if I’ll ever know if I raised them to be good people.
Unlike those stereotypical "lovey-dovey" high school teenagers on TV who are always hugging, kissing, or sneaking out to meet their attractive boyfriends and girlfriends, I have never been in such a relationship. Part of it has to deal with my super strict upbringing of my African parents, emphasizing that I will have no boyfriends until I'm completely finished with school,, quoting their famous words: "If I see you with a boy right now in your life, I will finish you!" Of course, anyone who's African will understand that the main reason African parents say this is because they all have some conspiracy theory that all teen girls who date end up getting pregnant, definitely something they will not tolerate. Instead, I was raised to make education my priority which, as I have learned from their lectures, is not optional to receive high grades because I have the opportunity to do what they didn't and couldn't: become a doctor. My parents are the reason why I am just so different compared to the way most others were raised, both a good thing and a bad thing (that's a story for another day).
ReplyDeleteAnyways, I always never understood what I perceived to be their unreasonable rules. In fact, because they said that, I, when I was younger, adopted the mentality that dating is wrong now and I'll get married after college or med school. I said this, not knowing a thing about relationships as your typical obedient and confused little kid. It wasn't until I got older when I wondered and realized why they said that to me all these years (and not just about the automatic pregnancy reason) until one day, it hit me. Many teenage girls end up thinking they have true love as they date from boyfriend to boyfriend, acting unusually happy as they gush about their interest. I walk to class everyday and always see at least three or four couples stopping in the middle of the halls, kissing their partners (while me, annoyed rushes to get to class since they block the halls). With that being said, what happens when those couples break up? Well based on my witnesses, especially with various girls I know, they often develop low self-esteem, get bad grades, skip school, or hate everything about their life, convinced that they are are nothing without this person who filled the gaps of their emptiness. Why? Weren't you happy before you met him or her? This made me realize that a lot of the times, teens are just too premature to handle a serious relationship. After all, rarely do you realistically see anyone actually marrying their high school sweethearts. Most high school relationships are short-lived, temporary. The thing is, most teens end up relying on them for everything, but for the wrong reasons, many times from lust or only to fit in. This lends teens wrong judgement, hence why I do not believe in young love. Maybe it is just a result of the way I was raised, but I genuinely feel this way. With this in mind about relationship love, I then realized that my parents have been saying this to me because they love me and expect me to make good decisions as they do not want to see myself in that position of having detrimental break-up effects. This itself, I realized, is love, beginning with the love from my parents, leading me into my perspective of love.
Love is when you make yourself inconvenient to help that other person. Love is being comforted you when you are dyspeptic. Love is bringing the best out of someone and encouraging them even when they do not believe it themselves, seeing potential. It is when you have that one person constantly on your mind 24/7. Love is holding on, even through the tough times, to move into something better. Love is caring for one another, whoever. Love is what prevails.
DeleteThrough all the cases of love I've seen in my lifetime so far, the love of my parents was evident to me since I first comprehended the concept. When things became very difficult in our family, they still remained together, teaching me about perseverance.I knew about love all along, but I am not exactly sure who taught me about it. I guess with the combination of what love meant at school and in my own experiences I learned it from school and on my own.
Finally, down the road when I do complete school and eventually find love, I want it to be founded on trust, loyalty, and compassion along with the other qualities I mentioned. I don't believe that every relationship itself is perfect like the Instagram ones, but a perfect relationship is one that never fails to give up on each other regardless of how complicated life becomes. Along with that, in the future when I will have kids of my own, I will teach them that they are loved and supported unconditionally by their family and friends, and relationship love will find them at the right time.
I know every single thing about love, and at the same time I know nothing. I don’t know love from a personal experience, but from what I’ve seen in movies and heard in music. But from what I’ve heard, love is pretty great. And that’s all I’ve got. I’ve been thinking about this blog since Sunday, and that’s all I got. I’ve never been in love but I know it’s there. I know it’s a feeling you get when you can't get someone off your mind, and you want to give the world to them just to make them happy. I know that I want to love someone and I want someone to love me back, but I don’t know what that means. Are they supposed to text me every day to see what I’m doing? Are they supposed to hug me every time we’re in the hallway. Are they supposed to buy me expensive gifts for them to show me how much they appreciate me? Or are we supposed to spend countless hours laying under the stars having deep conversations? Which one means love and if they don’t do that, do they not love me? I’m sorry, but that’s all I know. I make people seem like I’m this hopeless romantic because I listen to all these love songs, but songs are only songs and movie are only stories made up by someone else’s experiences. I’ve never been in love, but I hope that I will be one day, and when that day comes, I promise you that I will write a whole novel on it.
ReplyDeleteMy parents have been divorced since I was 1… so they weren’t any help showing me what love was. And my mom didn’t remarry until I was 10. My dad has had countless girlfriends, but never got married. Therefore, what did I have to look to for love… music. The only constant thing I can count on in life. I have 2,000 songs on my iPod, and I guarantee that 90% of those songs are about love. But, no matter how many different versions of a guy singing how much he will jump in front of a train for a girl, I have never had that feeling. And it’s a feeling I wish to have. What does it feel like to have someone want to check on you and see how your doing? What does it feel like to have someone hold your hand and give you random kisses. What does it feel like to know that you can call someone and they would want to listen to you talk for hours and hours? What does it feel like for me to love someone back?
Finally, I want to teach my future children that they should love with all their heart. No matter what or who the person or something is; put all your emotions into it. Just be careful my little kiddies, and don’t get hurt. Get to know who the person really is, and not just who they are on the outside. Love makes the world go round, be apart of it.
Everything has a two sides of a coin. In this situation it's love. Love is an abstract feeling. Love comes in different variations and meanings. Love could be in conjunction with caring like how your parents care for you. The likeness of something etc. Relationship wise it could be full of hope, joy, happiness or despair, obsession or an illusion. When it comes to that situation everyone has a different opinion about it. In my perspective love can be either be looked in an optimistic way or pessimistic/ cynical way. I've never been in love but people around me have. From middle school to high school, people have claimed to be in love from left to right. And through my analysis of it, they also seem happy, giddy, blushing all the time, always say I love him/ her, the love of my life, my dream come true, I'll always be there for you, I don't know what to do without you in my life (I'm going to stop there because thinking and writing that makes me what to grab a brick and slap myself with it). Though they always say that, I always laugh and think to myself that their relationship is definitely not going to last despite how mean it is it is the truth. And from the past to now, I've been proven right. If I could have bet on it, I think I would have won a half a million dollars by now.( Should've, could've, would've) High school/ middle school relationships will not last it's basically an illusion and experience they will learn from. For me I basically think it's a distraction from school and my ultimate purpose of coming day by day. Even delving into it is a headache. And if they manage to survive through high school or who knows college and people say that I was wrong about it which is never going to happen ( yeah right, Andy is always right and he always will be which is rule #1) then I'm going to say good luck with the divorce. If it happens to come true, then I'll laugh my butt off till I cry tears of joy. Marriage is the ultimate test to see if if your claimed lover is the one. I may say this just because I've never been in love but the examples out there always result in what I just said. For instance everyone thought Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt were perfect for each other, full of happiness, they even had kids OMG but look at what the results were they are in the process of getting a divorce.(LOL) A rift in two worlds that once collided in sweet harmony ended with a great befall. True love is hard to achieve and hard to come by. People assume that they have found their true love but they haven't really. It could be just an obsession, lust, or having a temporary crush on them. When I was a kid, I did have hope for love that it could be real till I saw how the world really is. ( I still have a piece of hope left) Back then love used to be genuine, true, pure and leaves people full of hope. Now the world corrupted as it is, the word love is a joke. It usually sex sex sex, one night stands, 16 years and pregnant, The Jerry Springer Show, Maury ( you're not the father), prostitution, gigolos, lust etc. There is no such thing as being in a perfect relationship but you can try and make it as close to it as you can. I can't really make a great example for you guys to picture it but here it is. A ‘perfect relationship’ is when there is no arguments, hate, anger, sadness but full of happiness, joviality, care for one another, their characteristics and personality matches each other so and so forth. When it comes to my earliest memory of love it a different story it is one that means to care for someone in every situation. My example being my parents who love me every day and every night and brought me up to be someone great in future. They guided me throughout my life like the north star guiding the lost. My advice to my kids and particularly anyone relationship wise is to look before you leap. Be aware and analysis whom you claim to be in love with and be patient for the right one will always be there but you won't know it right away.
ReplyDeleteHowever in general love with all your heart, hatred is the enemy. If love someone the light in you will shine do bright that people around you will want to know and what to do the same.
DeleteAnd I know excuses are excuses, I want to apologize the reason for being late is because I did it in my school's account and it didn't recognize it. It ended up refreshing losing everything I previously wrote. Henceforth redoing it all over again. I greatly apologize for this.
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