Every once in a while,a situation presents itself to you, and in so doing, however unwittingly, that situation tests your resolve, challenges your moral fiber and forces you to examine (or re-examine) your values.
When things like these happen, one of two things may be the result: you will try to ignore the situation until it absolutely HAS to command your attention, or you will rush to a decision so that you don't have to think about it for too long. I have a theory about why these two possible reactions are so prevalent. And here it is:
There are simply not enough moments in a teenager's day to give the appropriate attention to the notion of what he or she values. Not to mention the word itself, values, is such an abstract term that who really has to time to ponder its meaning AND the implications AND live the life of a carefree kid?
So, as a result of my theory, this blog question was born. I would like you to really let the questions I am presenting here have some time to marinate so that you can reach a deeper level of understanding.
What DO you value? Please don't say things such as "friends, family, or iPhone7 in rose gold." Those things are just that--things (yes, even the people). While they have surface value, they are not what I am talking about. Why? Because, in order to get to the deeper understanding of yourself and your actual values, you have to ask yourself WHY you consider those things valuable. We already know the selfish answer to what makes the people in our lives valuable--we need them. That's why I don't want you to list people.
Because, now, you have to ask yourself a two-part, very fundamental question:
1)What makes you so mad you could scream? What fills you with unabashed joy?
and
2)Why do you have those reactions to what you listed?
The sum total of those answers is the amorphous notion of your values.
These are hard questions, and like all hard questions, the answers may take a while to come and you may have to write it as you're thinking about it. Please do so, because I would be willing to bet that all of us could benefit from your thought process as well as your answers.
Buena Suerte.
When I think about what I actually value in my everyday life a few things really strike me; honesty, effort, and trust. Everyone knows what honesty is, everyone is fully capable of being honest, but very few actually are. I value the hideous, ugly truth way more than any sugar-coated lie, even if it means hurting one’s feelings. For example, trying to protect someone from getting hurt by lying to them is getting them nowhere. The way I look at it, you’re actually hurting them more. Especially once the lie unfolds and the truth is revealed, that person is even more hurt. This is why I value honesty. Effort is kind of similar to honesty. Seeing effort in someone is seeing dedication. Yes, there’s always going to be someone better than you. Yes, your weaknesses are someone else’s strengths. But I will always value effort, seeing someone strive to be better. You could be the worst at anything, seeing effort says it all. I value effort more than being naturally good at something any day. As trust ties it to both of these things, it’s still extremely valuable on my end. Knowing someone is always there, to listen to you, give advice, letting everything out and not having to worry about anyone else finding out. Trusting someone with your tears, arguments, biggest fears, and darkest secrets. This is so important to me. Being undermined and looked down upon is something that could and has frustrated me so much to the point of screaming. All my life people have looked down on me. Because I’m smaller, not as smart, not as strong, or anything else they could top me at. I always try to give my all and push through anything to try and be the best that I can be. The fact that majority of people don’t see that infuriates me almost to the point of tears. What fills me with pure happiness and joy is basically the complete opposite. Someone giving me credit for even the smallest thing, feeling like I accomplished something that makes people proud of me. Giving it one-hundred percent and actually getting credit for it. This is what fills me with unabashed joy.
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ReplyDeleteI value happiness and integrity, and to be honest, I feel that these two actually go quite well together. My happiness is brought because of the integrity in my life, I love honesty. Being a good person with moral values isn't at all possible without being happy. Happiness has high value in my life because without it, life would pretty much be depressing. As long as I'm happy and have good character, my life is complete.
ReplyDeleteThings that make me really mad are when I'm driving fast and I get caught off by someone who drives really slow, when someone doesn't listen to me, and getting really bad customer service. I really hate when someone cuts me off to go slow because it gives me really bad road rage. It's just pretty idiotic to go in front of someone that's going fast, only so you could go slow as hell. Also, I hate it when people don't listen to me because most times I like to be in control and it feels so disrespectful when someone doesn't listen to me. Lastly, bad customer service angers me so much because i think it's pretty stupid to have a job and everyday have an attitude. It's common sense to just quit your job if you hate working.
My unabashed joy comes from going shopping, getting my nails done, seeing my boyfriend, and getting good grades on something I worked hard on. Obviously shopping was listed first because what girl doesn't like to shop? I love shopping and it sort of feels like i'm playing dress up when I get to try on all the clothes i'm going to buy. To add on, getting my nails done brings me joy because I find it as a necessity and it's relaxing to get a manicure. If my nails aren't done, I swear I will catch a fit because I hate seeing my nails messed up. Also, spending time with my boyfriend brings me so much happiness and it would have to be one of the top most reasons why i'm usually happy. My boyfriend is like my best friend and it's always fun when we hangout. I always feel that butterfly in my stomach type feeling when i'm around him, and it feels my heart with joy. To conclude, getting good grades on something I worked hard for is almost always the best feeling ever. It honestly feels like a reward because it's a good treat to myself when I do great on something I put pride and dedication in to.
I hands down value nothing more than honesty. I get filled with so much anger when I catch someone in a lie. I just don't understand why people can not just be honest with me. Liars irritate the crap out of me. Growing up with a drug addict mother and always catching her in her lies. Growing up having to lie for her was the worst, but of course she was my mother so I supported her to no end. There came a time in my life where I got sick of the lies, sick of supporting her, and sick of my mother in general. This is when I promised myself no more lying, there's no point in lying. The fact is if you have to lie about something its most likely because you're doing or did something you shouldn't have. Why not just not do it instead of lying. Something else that completely irritates me is cheating. When people cheat on tests, in competitions, or people. Anyone who cheats their way through life isn't actually winning anything. They're cheating which is so wrong, they didn't earn their good grades or win their competitions fairly. People who cheat on their significant other thats just down right selfish. They don't care to take in the other persons feelings into consideration because if they did they would just break up with them instead of hurting them. Cheating in general is a selfish act. This leads me to my next issue, selfishness. When people care about nothing but themselves. This is such a problem for me because of my mom. She chose the obvious over me, which was selfish. Selfish people don't care for others which aggravates me because there is more to the world then themselves. I have the reactions I do to what I've listed mostly because of my childhood but also because of my teen years. My childhood definitely was not the easiest for me and has taken a toll on me. That's where I started to hate selfish people and liars. Although my childhood has had a huge impact on my values, my high school years have too. Being around people that have cheated off my tests and them getting good grades without having to do any work has created my hatred for cheating test wise. People cheating on significant others, let's just say high school love hasn't been the easiest for me.
ReplyDeleteTraits are what make or break a person. I always try to dig deeper and look for the good in even the worst people, and that is exactly why I value trustworthiness and politeness. Putting forth small amounts of trust until it builds up to an enormous amount is not something simple. It’s more than believing your boyfriend or girlfriend when they say that your outfit matches or your hair looks good. It’s about caring for a person so much that you know they will never let you down, and if they do they are there to pick you back up. I know we can’t talk about people that we value (or else Reec-talk will occupy this whole blog post) so I’m talking about the traits that I value. Being polite is something that can’t be taught, in my opinion. Yes, manners like “please” and “thank you” can be taught, but knowing when to stop talking in an argument and knowing when to walk away is something you train yourself to do. Disrespect is a habit that, once formed, cannot be broken. That leads me to my next point of things that anger me most. School wise, I hate when students talk back to teachers. I have always known to never talk back to my teachers because they are there for my benefit. Everyday in class I think, “Who in the world would voluntarily wake up at 5 a.m. just to teach kids in which the majority is uninterested?” I can’t imagine being rude to someone that I look up to and respect. Another thing that angers me is stealing. Last year in Honors English II, Mr. Clark said, “Stealing is the worst crime because everything falls under that category. For example, when you lie or cheat you steal somebody’s trust.” What fills me with unabashed joy is a plethora of things. Reec makes me happy, learning new things makes me happy, my little dog Toby makes me happy, and most importantly I make me happy.
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ReplyDeleteI value kindness. We live in a very fast paced world and often worry about ourselves so it’s a nice change when someone goes out of their way to do something nice. For example, one time I was having a hard time during a practice (I had bronchitis and I was doing a high intensity workout- smart idea, right?) and when we were done a boy asked me if I was okay and if I needed anything and I have never forgotten that moment. Someone going out of their way just to make sure you’re happy and/or okay is one of the nicest things you can do. I value kindness so much because when it happens, it’s like a life changing moment. People never forget when you were being nice to them and that’s a great moment to be remembered by.
ReplyDeleteWorking in retail has made me realize how horrible some people can be but the absolute worst is when people get an item, decide they don’t want it and just throw it wherever. That makes go insane. My parents have taught me that if you make a mess, you are the one to clean it. No one else should pick up after you. I understand it’s my job to straighten things up but have the human decency to put it back where it belongs. On the other hand, what makes me happy is whenever I see anything that has to do with animals. My favorites are basically anything furry and marine life. I just love how cute and innocent animals look. I would rather spend my money on going to a petting zoo than do anything else. If you looked on my twitter, ninety percent of my feed is retweets of animal photos. As a child I hated everything that had anything to do with dolls or dress up and my parents weren’t fond of the idea of me playing with toy guns and boys (I respect it now that I’m a teenager) so we met in the middle and they bought me anything that had to do with animals. So my unabashed joy comes from mammals ten times as big as me.
To value something is to cherish something beyond doubt. After thinking about everything in my life, the good and the bad, the one thing I value and cherish the most is optimism. To be optimistic in a rough patch is what makes a person strong. I believe, no matter what the situation, things will get better. Take our school for example, we may not have ceiling tiles and air conditioning in all of the classrooms, and we may hear the sound of construction constantly, but to me all I see and hear is progress. I don’t mind having to walk a little extra to get to class, I don’t mind using the athletic locker rooms for gym class, what I do mind is the constant complaints of those students and teachers who just can’t seem to see the brighter side of things. I constantly look for the better side in people and situations, and when that fails, I fail. September 8th, the day of our first field hockey for the 2016 school year. Middle Township was on our turf. I knew we had a chance, but nobody else did. Middle Township has had a winning field hockey for years but I also knew that this was our year to win. When the scoreboard starting rising for them and plateaued for us I failed. I lost all my optimism, I was upset, and I was angry. I was angry at myself for giving up, I stopped believing in the team I stopped believing in myself. I wanted to scream. At the end of the day, I took a breather and realized, this was only our first game, it was a tough team, and we still played well. I saw the light at the end of the tunnel. There was nothing I could do but hope that the rest of the season be more successful. I value the optimism that I hold. It’s what makes me happy instead of dwelling on bad memories and bad situations. The optimism that I hold pushes me to the future. It pushes me to be a better me. It pushes me to be happy.
ReplyDeleteIf there’s one thing that I can say I truly value, and appreciate, it would be passion. In my eyes, there’s nothing more appealing than seeing someone who is so passionate towards someone/something. Passion equals effort and hope, and as long as someone has a little bit of both, it could take them so far even in the toughest of times. I’m the type of person who can care about others way more than I would care about myself, and seeing the people I love become so passionate about a sport, a person, a hobby...anything really, it fills me with extreme happiness. Now, if there’s one thing that upsets me, it’s seeing people give up on what once occupied them with so much passion, and enthusiasm. I believe that everyone has to hold onto what’s important to them, in order to actually stay sane. As for myself, I could say that I have a passion for many things, some small, some big, but all of it together is what keeps me going every single day, and because of that, a simple trait like so, is what I value most.
ReplyDeleteWhen I think of values I automatically think of trust, hard work and loyalty. Even though I feel like these are the most important, I think it’s hard to follow these values throughout a lifetime. Loyalty and trust are two values that you don’t see in many people these days. It’s like nobody can be trusted because even the ones you think won't ever hurt you, will end up hurting you at one point in life. From personal experiences,I can say there are very few people that I can completely trust and maybe thats like 1 or 2 people. Everyone starts off trusting everyone until someone comes along and proves that trusting everyone is a mistake and some people like me probably learn that the hard way after someone untrustworthy comes along and ruins your trust for almost everyone you meet. This is probably why I think trust is an important value because I wouldn’t ever want to be untrustworthy towards someone and have them not trust anyone because of me. Loyalty is another value that is very important to me because there are so many people that are unloyal to one another and I see it all the time.This applies a lot in relationships because there are so many relationships where I know one of the people aren’t being loyal and it’s usually because someone loses interest, they aren't getting what they want or the person finds someone better. There’s nothing wrong with losing interest or liking someone else, but what’s wrong is leading the other person on or cheating on them. The last value that's important is being hardworking. At some point in life, everyone has probably cheated somehow whether it was on something big or something small. There are people who cheat on a daily basis and have no regrets at all because they don't work hard for stuff they want to achieve,but instead they try to take the easy way out and still get a good outcome. There’s also people who have cheated a few times,but then they feel bad afterward even if it has a good outcome because they know they truly don’t deserve it. I'm one of those people that have cheated before when I was younger and maybe a few times when I grew up, but everytime I cheated I would feel bad because it just feels wrong getting something good that I don't truly deserve because I didn’t work for it and so i stopped.What makes me really mad is when people lie to me about something because they think they will hurt my feelings if I know the truth because I rather know something I don’t want to know then believe something bad is good for me. When I work for something really hard and get a good outcome or when somebody comes to talk to me about something personal it fills me with unabashed joy because it’s something I truly worked for so I know I actually deserve it and when someone comes to talk to me about something personal I know they think they can trust me which makes me feel trustworthy.
ReplyDeleteIf there is anything that I have learned based off of personal experience within the last few years, it’s to know my worth. I think we can all agree that we are living in a society with unbelievably high expectations of ourselves, a lot of those expectations having to do with physical appearance, which does nothing but tear us down. The phrase “it’s what’s on the inside that matters”, or however it goes, means nothing when the person that is saying that also feels the need to point out how bad that girls hair looks or how out of style that boys shoes are. As for me, I live by that phrase.
ReplyDeleteIf you don’t know me, here’s what you need to know: I love love LOVE being able to give someone the ability to believe that there is still hope in this world. I’m the girl that tells the kid sitting alone at lunch to come to my table. I’m the girl that will walk into class five minutes late if it means that I was able to help a new student find her class. And I’m the girl that will defend a boy against a bully. Although all of these things have happened, it shouldn’t be such an out-of-the-blue action. Those 3 things that I have listed should be second nature to all of us, but instead it leaves people stunned when I tell them. Because of this, there’s nothing more in this world that I value than purity and someone who lives by the phrase “it’s what’s on the inside that matters” just like I do.
I could go on and on and on about all the things that make me mad. I could say that my head steams when the person infront of me stops dead smack in the middle of the hallway to hug their friend as if it hasn’t been 40 minutes since they last saw each other, or I could say that I cringe so hard that my blood vessels pop when someone talks back to a figure of authority, or I can even say that my eye twitches and every ounce of my body fills with hatred when I see someone walk away from a mess they made without cleaning it up. But after deep thought, I’m going to say that the number one thing that makes me want to scream until I cant breathe is when someone tells me that they are not good enough. What is “enough”? If you have an answer then please tell me because I would love to understand what it means to be “good enough”. It’s natural to have insecurities, I admit to having many myself, but I cannot stand when I hear someone put negative thoughts about themselves into their head, simply because I feel as if EVERYONE has something good going for them.
Like I said, I can go on and on about all the things that make me furious, but I can also do the same for all the things that make me happy. I love ice cream, I love cooking, I love a good book, I love koalas, and I love seeing someone genuinely happy. Coming from someone that has dealt with a few hardships and has come back stronger than ever, seeing someone that is just plain old happy fills my body with joy. Everyone deserves happiness and I love watching them attain it.
As words fly through my head, the two that sticks out the most for me is: trust and open-mindedness.
ReplyDeleteI value trust because my trust for people shattered at a very young age and it drastically changed the way I look at people. I had shut myself into a dark closet and coiled it with metal chains and became very cautious when being around others. It was not until fifth grade, when I met a girl who gave me light through the cracks of the closet doors, that I started working my way to trust people again. The closet’s doors are still opening up and I am still in the process of becoming the person I used to be.
I value open-mindedness because I love looking at different perspectives of one topic. It fills me up with a fresh sensation and allows me to feel as if another door to a path unexplored before has opened up. I like sharing these thoughts with my friends. I like to think that I bottle my thoughts up in tiny mason jars and when there’s a chance, I can twist the lid open and allow them to see a whole new perspective to a certain topic as well.
Now, what makes my blood boil ties along with being open-minded. I just hate, hate, HATE it when someone is narrow-minded. For example, there is someone I know who pretends to want to know more about my religion and beliefs, only to make me feel inferior to them. It is normal that they ask me questions about certain things I believe and I try my best to answer them because it is not easy to translate a certain word or phrase from Chinese to English. But then, they try to make me feel belittle towards them by judging and comparing my beliefs to their’s and I find it hard to respond back to them when being pressured to that extent. The worse part is they do not stop pressuring you even though you are giving out all the signs possible that you want to drop the topic. I do not like narrow-minded people because they do not want to understand the other side of things, and try not to understand the other side of things, and they even want you to change your way of thinking into their way of thinking, which makes the problem even worse.
What makes me unexplainably joyful are the very little things that people usually do not take notice of. I enjoy taking pictures of sceneries that I find very relaxing and they captivate the joy I feel during the time I take them. I enjoy seeing a family being all together and having a great time with no worries and/or problems occurring. I enjoy reading a good romance novel when a character finally attains their happiness. I enjoy taking things in slowly like the smell of the air, the noise around me, the view I am seeing with my very own eyes. I enjoy all of these things because they make me feel free, allows me to clear my head, and gives me a different type of happiness that some may not understand.
Of all the thing I value in value in life two stick out to me, every form of love and trust. When I mean love in every form I really mean every form. Whether it be romantic, brotherly, sisterly, friendly, heck even love for your stuff. Love to me gives us a reason to stay in this life we'er in. Without love we would I don't know be something robots or a machine perhaps? Anyways love can also be a driving force for many of us to make that extra effort towards pretty much anything. Many famous people became famous because of the love of whatever field they're in which turns into passion which then pushes them to pursue their ideals in their field. Another thing I value is trust. Knowing that someone has your back and you'll cover theirs is also another great thing in this world in my opinion. If you go though life without trust in the world your life would be miserable. I say this because I've heard and seen so many stories where someone grows up not trusting anyone. Then they end up in turn trusting the wrong people. So trust and love are fragile but if we truly value them they will work in our favor.
ReplyDeleteNow what makes me so mad that I what scream, well that would be those people in school who just CAN'T STOP talking in class even when the teacher says be quiet. This makes me mad because sometimes I feel as thought they don't care about school and I find it hard to learn in said class. Although I really don't mind people who talks a lot but it's really those people who can't stop even id their life depends on it.
What fills me with joy is Family, video games and funny videos. Family because I just love my family so much. I would proudly say that I have the best Mom and Dad ever and maybe my sister. Only maybe because she drive me insane. Videos games I find so fun that I would spend over 5 consecutive hours playing one game. And finally funny videos because who doesn't want a good laugh?
Throughout my life and time in highschool I have learned to value many things but the two things that I value the most are contribution and success. I have always been a firm believer that it is always good to give back to the community and to the people who are less fortunate than myself. I am always trying to find ways that I can contribute to help society whether it is volunteering at a local food bank, feeding the less fortunate on Thanksgiving, or helping to raise money to cure pediatric cancer. These are things that I have done to give back and it just makes me feel like a better person knowing the someone has gotten to eat or has got the treatment they needed to survive.
ReplyDeleteThe second and biggest thing that I value is success. To me, failure is not even a remote option. When I work hard at something and I succeed I get the biggest feeling of joy knowing that the hard work paid off. Sometimes failure is inevitable and I understand that it can happen but this forces me to get back up and to keep trying until I finally get it right.
There are many things that get me so mad that I want my head to explode. One thing includes the people of Oakcrest who stand directly, dead center in the middle of the hallway to stop and talk to their friends because it’s impossible to walk and talk at the same time. The one thing that really makes my head want to explode is when people brag extensively. I hate when people think they are better than others and have to say it out loud. It’s just so much easier to keep it to yourself.
There are two types of people in this world. There are overly aggressive people who always seem to find a way to take everything to the next level, whether it's good or bad, to get their way. And then there are the people who tend to be more laid back and let nature take its course in a passive way. I would classify myself as a passive person. I know I'm not the most perfect example of that but with being a passive person, I tend to value traits that I think everybody values at one point in their life. And those traits are only two traits: trust and tranquility. From the moment you are born, whether it's your mother, your father, sister, brother, uncle, or grandparent, you have to trust someone to guide you in life all the way up until you're eighteen, when you can start making you're own decisions. And those decisions may include what you want to do in your life. You get a job, hopefully get married and have kids. Will you trust your wife and kids? Will you trust the guy that's cool with everyone at your job? Trust is key in this world, but the problem is that this world is too unstable, especially the United States. I mean just look at the presidential race right now. You have to choose between a democratic lier or a demented republican that YOU have to trust for the next four years of your life to make decisions for the US. And that's a scary thought. So when I do meet someone, I always try to get on their good side so I can be on their good side because I'm a lover, not a fighter. And I believe trust is key and any type of relationship. And trust goes with tranquility like peanut butter and jelly. If everybody was able to trust everyone in this world, just think about the endless possibilities of acts of kindness is this world, as well as maybe we might be living in a utopian society. And at this point, that's all I want. Tranquility, peace, love, trust and equality in a country that has lost that idea at some point in time. And it really does make me think about how lucky I am to be centered around people that at least care about me on a mutual level. And how it's not fair that innocent black teenagers my age are getting shot on a daily basis. Thats why I try to be nice to everybody and try to relate to everybody. Because life can be short and I'm only trying to keep my trusts to everybody who has decided to come my friend and live in tranquility.
ReplyDeleteThere are many things that I value. But I can't lie, I sometimes will break those values. So giving you values like respect and bravery would just be a load of BS. But if there is one thing that I will never ever lose grip of is the value of love. If you don't think love is a real value think again. I was lucky enough to get raised by my own parents in a stable household with my brother. But love is not something that you adapt to, or what other people do, but love is what comes out of all the values in the world and in you. Never will you hear me say that I don't love someone dearest to me. And although I may say the word hate, I don’t hate anything or anyone. Because all the values that I hold mesh into one category love. A women that really made sure that I kept this value my whole entire life is my Nonna. She loves anybody or anything that walks. Something she would always tell me was, “ I’m not forcing you to go around and love everybody, but please don't forget a life without love and caring would be a life not living.” Almost all of the normal values listed are possibly easier to live with. But a life without love means a life without every value.
ReplyDeleteThings that make me mad. I don’t take fondly to people who think that they are bigger and better than everyone else and just use that against others. I also get frustrated when people that are in the celebrities eye either use it for harm or think to greatly of themselves and make them come off like a complete jerk. But things that make me happy go along with the Steelers and fantasy football. If you know me you know that I am a diehard Pittsburgh fan and nothing gives me a more sense of joy then watching them. Also, waiting for that Sunday and locking in our lineups is a great feeling. A public eye should view people for the good they are doing not the bad. And when people misuse that power I just find true anger for that other person.
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ReplyDeleteAs I think of what I value the most, there are a ton of words that ramble through my head. But the three words that stand out the most to me are Honesty, Loyalty, and Trust. Honesty is extremely major in life. Without honesty there’s no trust, and without trust there leads to a lack of loyalty. I have experienced many situations where someone has either lied in my face, just told me what I wanted to hear even If none of it was true, or just turned on me. Do to the experiences that I have had with past friendships and relationships, I find myself not being able to trust or even believe a lot of things that comes out of a person’s mouth. I am extremely cautious with who I call my friends. I am also very pressed on determining the difference between a friend and an acquaintance.
ReplyDeleteOne thing that makes me so mad that I can scream is when I am having a conversation with someone and they always think they are right when they’re ALWAYS wrong! Also, when my mother blames everything on my phone. Now that is annoying. She assumes that my cell-phone is the cause of everything and every time I turn around she always has something to say about me being on my phone. And what makes me even more mad that I can scream is when I can hear someone eat. I honestly think I have some type of phobia with that because it really irritates and gets under my skin badly.
When it comes down to things that makes me extremely happy I would have to say getting my nails done, hair, and getting new clothes. Those things are something that I think is completely normal. I honestly feel so naked and weird without having those things done. Also, another thing that keeps me extremely happy is Track. When I work hard and get the results I wanted in my meets, it brings a lot of joy. It shows that my hard work is paying off and that I’m getting stronger. Also, being able to do great with anything in life makes me happy. I love seeing myself improving on everything.
There are so many things that make me so mad I could scream, for example my horrible hair dye job, or when I hear my coach tell me we're doing bleachers, but there is one particular thing that makes me furious and simultaneously sad. It is impossible to be mad at someone for this issue, it's much easier to be mad at society as a whole for creating this issue : girls that are unaccepting of their bodies. Now I know this is not an easily solvable issue but it is SUCH a big issue in todays world. I'm not saying this problem doesn't occur in boys too, it's just a lot less prevalent. We were all raised in a society that teaches us to count our weight, have clear skin, want perfect hair, but most of all to want what we don't have. Every girl wants what they don't have and it is okay to want but it is not okay to body shame yourself. There are so many videos out there but one that caught my opinion is a video of a girl listing all the 'problems' with her body in a mirror. Suddenly a little girl who is her younger self appears on the other side of the mirror and begs her to tell her what else is wrong with her. The end slogan is "If you wouldn't say it to yourself when you were little, then why would you say it to yourself now." This message is very important. It is not only important to keep that in mind but to also keep in mind how much your body actually does for you. If you step outside your body and see it rather as a vessel containing YOU, it is much easier to see the beauty in it. Your body is NEVER not working to keep you alive. Life is such a beautiful thing and it amazes me how people can spend their whole lives distraught over what their body looks like when in reality when you die it doesn't matter one bit. Everyones body is a temple and its time we all start treating them like one. I value my body so much. As someone who struggled with body image a little bit in the past I have learned to change the things I can change, and learn to accept the things I can't. There is ALWAYS someone out there who wishes they had your body. Every time I look in the mirror I admire my body for its hard work to keep me alive and healthy. There is no reason in the world to be mad at your body for doing its job, its just not right.
ReplyDeleteI don't value that many things but one more thing I value so much is music. Music can help people express themselves and it can help others. There is a specific band and I'm sure everyone is sick and tired of hearing me talk about them but they're called Twenty One Pilots. You will most likely hear more about them in an OP of mine, or just in general but many people don't know why I am so obsessed with them. The band is comprised of a drummer, Josh Dun, and the singer/songwriter/basically all other instrument player, Tyler Joseph. This band has saved countless lives, their music is so much more than todays sexist music. The lyrics to their songs say things you didn't know could be formed into words and when I say their music has saved lives, its not an exaggeration. I could write about this band for forever so I will cut it short and if you ever want to hear more about them you can look up their music or ask me, I'm basically an expert. Those are two things I feel as though I value so much, I know it isn't much and it isn't a virtue or a trait that someone can possess but these two things are very meaningful and significant to me.
When I hear the word value many things come to mind, but the two things I value the most are hard work and kindness. I work as hard as I can at everything even if I'm not that good at it. If you work hard enough and long enough at something most likely you are going to become good at it. There is no better feeling than putting a ton of work and effort into something and then seeing the great results of the hard work. I value kindness because it's nice to see some kindness every once in awhile when there are so many bad things going on around the world. I like seeing people give back to the people in need and be kind to people no matter who they are. It makes me extremely happy to put my best effort into something and be satisfied with the outcome of what I did. This isn't just for school, but for everyday life in general. It's just a happy feeling of accomplishment when you put a lot of work in and get good results. when I get mad I usually don't show it, but there are many things that make me pretty angry. I hate when people judge other people by the way they look for no reason. I Think it's pretty wrong to judge someone by the way they look because you never know what kind of person they really are until you get to know them. A person could look a certain way, but you actually have to talk to them and get to know them before making a judgement. That person could wind up being really cool and could the share the same interests as you and potentially be your friend. This is why I always get to know someone before I determine who the really are. I think everyone deserves a chance no matter what they look like.
ReplyDeleteIf there is one thing that gets me ticked off it is unfairness. Yeah, I know “life is unfair” blah blah blah. I understand that. I don’t consider myself someone who pauses every unfair moment in the day just to explain why it is unfair. Nor am I the person to complain during a game because I want to be a sore loser…. Well this is the case for most of the time ☺. I’m flexible with life and what it has to bring. The unfairness that makes me want to scream is a different kind of unfair. It’s the kind that puts babies who cant even talk yet in the hospital because of cancer. It is the kind that leaves minors in foster homes because of the absence of both parents. It is the kind that attacks certain people, but not others. And again, I know that sometimes life throws curve balls and you have no choice but to learn to deal with it. But, I also know that there are people in this world who don’t deserve this kind of unfair treatment. Why do they have to live life without a parent figure? Why do they have to watch their child suffer from the moment they were born, knowing that time spent together is coming to an end? Why do they have to experience a loved one forget everything about them, including their identity, just because of a silly disease? Why aren’t they like me? Now, I don’t mean to say this in a bragging type of way but I feel like there is no other way to get my point across. I have luckily been blessed to have both parents in my life. My family is healthy and happy. I couldn’t ask for much more. So what I’m trying to say is that if I can live life like this, why cant everyone else? They should not have to go through certain tragedies for no reason while I am eating a home-cooked meal at home, in my house, with my loving family around me, eating well. This is not fair. With this being said, I value health and love. I feel as if everyone in this world needs these two things. Health so that they can live life to the fullest without being held back, and love so that they can do so with supportive and caring people right by their side.
ReplyDeleteNow, on a more positive note, something that fills me with unabashed joy…. ANIMALS!!! I haven’t always had a love for animals, but within the past few years I’ve grown an usual appreciation for them. Anything such as looking at pictures, watching videos, or seeing them in person fills me with so much joy. I make an effort to go to the pet store at least once a week just so I could walk around and look at all of the animals. I have a dog myself, and no matter how much she tends to get on my nerves I always appreciate what she is doing in the moment. I think a lot of people take animals for granted. They don’t find them interesting because it is something we are all used to seeing. Some of you may know about my obsession with the monkey family. I could watch videos of monkeys, gorillas, chimpanzees, etc. when I am in the worst mood and it will always make me happy. I am not sure why I enjoy the world’s creatures so much. Maybe it’s because of my appreciation for life. Or, maybe, its because I strongly believe they deserve to be treated with respect, just like a human. Whatever the reason, I totally value nature and its components. It is a beautiful and magical thing and every one of us is fortunate to be able to experience it.
What does family mean? Who can be called family? Why are they called family? Family isn't just those who are related by blood. Family is those who are there for you, those who care about you, those who you feel safe with, those you can trust. Friends can be considered family as well. Friendship is about trust and support between two or more people. Caring for others is very important to me as since I have three young bros, one legitimate brother and two cousins who I treat like brothers, that I care about and the rest of my family cares about. Being my grandparents first grandson means I have more responsibility than my brother and cousins in the future. Since they are younger they can live a more care-free life than me yet when they are in need, they can count on me for help. Since I show them care now, so they know I am not that one guy who doesn't care about others. I care a lot about my cousins and my brother and I want to see them do well in the future. Now in answer to the blog, I would be pretty mad if someone uses their friendship for their own needs without a shred of care for the other guy. I don't know if I would necessarily shout but it would piss me off. Friendship is really important. I don't know how many people I count as "friends" but I do know that there are a couple of people I can really call friends. For example, my best mate from 1st grade, Matthew Carter, and I have the best of times together. Ever since 1st grade we fooled around together and helped each other. He's my go to guy when I am on the down side like at the beginning of high school, he helped me to my saddest time in my life(for the time). He got me back on track from my under-the-weather mood. I thanked this guy as best as I could for it. This guy is as good as a true friend as there is. So when people use friendship for their own needs where the other guy does his best and then some to care without getting a shred of care for himself pisses me off. These people are the worst arses in the world. Pardon my British.
ReplyDeleteThe things I value are going to sound really… really cheesy but it's the truth so I guess I'll tell you. The things I most value in life are knowledge and being genuine. I love knowing things, I love learning things, and I love when I meet someone who has as much knowledge as me, or someone who wants to learn as much as me. I also love when someone does things and speaks genuinely. The honesty that comes with their genuineness is most appealing. When someone can just be straight up with me, my level of respect for them goes up. This, although, is not the same as being an a**hole. I respect the people who aren't afraid to hurt other peoples' feelings but mean the best.
ReplyDeleteKnowledge has just recently became a top value of mine. If you asked me this question a couple years ago, I would've said something stupid like having fun or video games, but after a certain experience, I started to appreciate knowledge. I also started to loathe ignorance and people who are ignorant but love talking. This… this is definitely one of the things that make me so mad I could scream… ignorance, ew. The fact that I hate ignorance so much probably accounts to my quiet nature, but hey, at least I'm not sounding stupid? I know teachers always say don't be afraid to ask questions, you won't sound stupid, but I feel like that's always been a lie and someone ALWAYS has something stupid to say. But on the other hand, when someone's knowledgeable, I LOVE it. The different kinds of conversations you can have with them is ENDLESS.
Genuineness has been a trait I always appreciated. Whether it comes to taking a test, or telling someone your feelings, I respect the people who do it genuinely. I stick by the phrase "honesty is the best policy" and I whole heartedly think that even if you hurt someone's feelings, as long as you were genuinely doing what's best for them, then you're the real MVP. Given this, it's probably clear that I hate, absolutely HATE, liars and cheaters. Whether it's cheating on a test, or on a person, if you cheat I hate you.
Something else I value, but didn't mention earlier, is consistency. As I listen to "I Will Always Love You" by Whitney Houston, I realize that I love it when you can count on someone all the time. In general, I like it when things can be reliably there and you always have a fall back that you KNOW is there. You probably have caught on the trend by now, but with a love comes a hate. I HATE inconsistency, if something or someone is inconsistent, it makes me want to… I don't know to be honest, I just don't like it.
The things that make me angry and also fill me with unabashed joy are imbedded into the previous paragraphs so I won't give you the trouble of reading extra words, ironic. But the reason I have the reactions to the things I listed are basically, in short, the experiences that I have. I've had such terrible experiences with the things I said I disliked that it just turned into terrible hatred.
This is an extremely hard question to answer. It's such a difficult decision for me to make because I don't really know myself that well and I'm unsure of what I things I value as a person. Although I'm not really that sure of who I am, I think my most valuable trait would be my friendly and social personality. No matter what happens, I can't really be a mean person to anyone. This has helped me out in so many ways. It's gotten me out of trouble, and it has even got me a raise when it comes to my job. I feel as if I have this great ability to be adored by a lot of people and if that was not the case my life would be much more difficult.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I hate being doubted. People doubt me all the time and I just want to argue with them until my tongue falls out because when I believe in something, the chances are I'm going to be correct. If I'm faced with a task and I don't one-hundred percent think I can successfully accomplish that task, I usually won't act like I can. So, sometimes I'll doubt myself but it's even worse hearing it from someone you think should support you.
The thing that makes me happiest in this world at the moment is nothing. There is literally nothing right now that makes me happy. I am miserable and would love to do nothing more than eat sleep and wrestle every day. The only thing that really makes me happy is the fact that if I work hard enough, one day I might be able to make that a reality.
There aren't a lot of things that I value that don't consist of my family, friends, faith, and 'hobbies'. But if it came down to a way of living, somethings I personally value are humor and perseverance. Even though the two obviously differ they are equally significant to me regardless. Having humor is something that can make a moment count in any situation, when it's appropriate of coarse. It's a tension breaker, and even more than that it's physically healthy for your body. Loving to laugh and enjoying the company of equally silly or funny people makes it a seriously valuable character trait. I find that when I'm around people who are two serious, I become more of a shadow, quiet and to myself, so having a light hearted laugh is a given way to make me open up and be a lot more charismatic.
ReplyDeleteOn the other hand the ability to preserver is incredibly hard in the moment of difficulty. It's always going to be easier to give up,
and I figured that out personally, and nothing haunts me more than the fact that I gave up. So now sitting in the back of my mind is this motivation to keep pushing myself. Sometimes it's obsessive but in the end if I defeat all the negative thoughts playing in my mind like a broken record, I'll have something to be victorious about.
When it comes to things that make me happy music will always be at the top of my list. I love music, it can literally shape the way my days go and feed my emotions, regardless of how I'm feeling. I value the lyrics that people create, and I metaphorically consume. Their words inspire me and based on the way the lyrics relate to my life they keep me motivated or help bring tranquility to what feels like a very rocky moment in time. Not only that but the lyrics that some artists write contribute to my own writing. whether it's a lyric that opens up a thought that I expand on, or a verse that I let my imagination run with, music and my writing coexist and I value both of them because it's what I live by.
On the other hand there are some things that make me upset and others that really make me angry. And majority of the time people provoke the worst kind of anger from me. And whether it's ignorant statements or actions that I don't agree with, people can evoke anger a lot easier than they should be able to.
After thinking deeply about what I value the most, two things came to my mind. Kindness and ambition. Being kind is such a simple gesture that anyone and everyone has the ability to do. It's a very simple task and it could make someone's day a whole lot better. Whether it’s telling someone they look nice, or holding the door for someone, or anything that you think would put a smile on their face, could make their entire day. You will never EVER know what someone is going through so that one act of generosity could brighten their mood immediately. Seeing people genuinely happy makes me feel an ilk way inside that I cannot describe, especially when you do something to make someone smile.
ReplyDeleteAmbition means a whole lot to me, mainly because I’m serious about soccer and especially school. Ambition is a strong desire to do or to achieve something, typically requiring determination and hard work. I want to achieve a lot of things in life and in order to do that, I have to work hard. Yes, I know everyone has to work hard to achieve success. But some people just don’t have it easy. For example, with soccer, I work extremely hard to earn my spot on the varsity team. I don’t let anything get in my way and I continue to work hard even though I’m where I want to be.
Jumping into what fills me with unabashed joy, is the comradery we have here at Oakcrest. Comradery is defined as the spirit of friendship and community in a group. The students at Oakcrest all support each other in sports and other activities. The amount of energy and spirit that I experience at a friday night football game, fills me with so much excitement and happiness. On the other hand, I could go on and on about things that make me mad, but there’s one that makes the top of my list and that is people who lack empathy. Something I always try to do is put myself in other people’s shoes and try and relate to what they are going through. People who do not attempt that with others frustrate me tremendously.
I have no patience for people who are homophobic, racist, ableist, hateful, judgemental, etc. I want to scream and pull my hair out when I see people being cruel towards one another. I refuse to sit there and watch someone degrade someone else. It’s not hard to be kind. It's literally free. People are so quick to judge and comment on every aspect of other people’s lives. If someone walks by you and you don't like their outfit or hair keep it to yourself. They could honestly feel so good about themselves that day and those few negative words you say could bring down their self esteem. If you have nothing nice to say don't say anything at all. Its that simple. Be kind. For me to be able to put a smile on someones face by doing something as simple as just being nice, giving them a compliment, or helping them with something makes me extremely happy. I value kindness as much as I value authenticity. It's sadly becoming hard to find an authentic person now and days. Someone who is genuine, real, honest, and isn't scared to be who they are. It's a breath of fresh air to be around people like that.
ReplyDeleteValue, “a person's principles or standards of behavior; one's judgment of what is important in life.” Something I value very much is my youth and health. Your youth only lasts for so long until all you can do is look back. Your youth is such a big part of someone’s life but sometimes taken lightly. You’re basically in your prime. This is the part of your life you can get up and go conquer the world. The possibilities are infinite. Every day I strive to do something memorable and my youth worth something. I never turn down an adventure. This is one of the reasons I love to pole vault. Its such an intense, crazy, dangerous sport. It makes you feel alive knowing the one day I wont even be physically capable of doing this ever again. Which leads me to my next value. I value hard work and doing everything to your fullest including life. You never know your limits and until you push them. It absolutely kills me to see potential never used especially when there is so much of it in your youth. You’re young, you should be out taking over the world (Figuratively of course) and finding your limits and pushing them even farther while you still can. Iv see so much talent in people that is never released into the world because instead of living life to the fullest, people are glued to their phones, video games, and television. Think of how much time is wasted watching a screen. People will wake up one day in regret because they never got out of their cave and experienced the world. Cherish your youth don’t waste it. But what makes me jump off the walls with joy is reaching goals. I SET COUNTLESS goals for myself to beat over over again. Its just how my brain works. I love pushing myself to reach new goals. It hurts and is so hard on they way there, but when you get there you’re so proud. You think back to all the hard work and have absolutely no regrets. It makes you stronger in everything that you do and in the end all it brings is happiness.
ReplyDeleteI can accept and deal with majority of people, however diverse they are. People are who they are you can't change that, but ignorance is one thing that drives me insane. When people speak on something they do not know anything about it tends to just complicate things. In my case it just causes more confusion and frustration. Lack of knowledge and being content with that does not make sense to me especially when someone speaks out in ignorance.
ReplyDeleteI am a family type of guy, I find the most joy in seeing others I care about happy. I value someones happiness more then mine. Their happiness with bring me happiness. Do not get me wrong I live my days seeking to be happy, but learning of someone's good fortune automatically puts a smile on my face regardless of my current mood or situation. Knowing someone I love is happy releases a burden from my shoulders. The stress and anxiety of making sure all I care for out weighs the happiness I find in things pertaining to me. When I know others are happy it seems that all things come to me much easier. It is like now I can focus on finding my own happiness, but I'm already content with the happiness I find in others.
So when I think of values what comes to mind is not people, but the happiness that is found in people. Sure I value family and friends, but the happiness inside them is what brings sun shining days my way. I don't value people, but whats inside of them and what that brings out of me each and every day. Their happiness makes me a better person and helps me potentially bring happiness to someone, it spreads like wild fire. Positive vibes bring positive vibes which brings positive vibes... and so on.
Honestly, sarcasm and humor are the best in life. Seeing other people have joy, even if momentarily from a quick laugh, is what makes the day worth enjoying. Humor allows people to better their relations with others, or even worsen it. Humor has no one set defined effect. This is why there is many different types of humor, for all people, this includes dark humor, slapstick comedy, deadpan/dry humor, satire, etc. Have you ever been thinking absentmindedly, and without taking notice of your surroundings, you start laughing uncontrollably because of a joke you thought of? Well that's weird, get a grip. Similarly to humor such as this, sarcasm is another major thing to be valued. Sarcasm, like humor, has many different uses, or ways to present itself. One could express humor, seriousness, contempt, polite criticism, or a variety of other emotions while using it. This is why I value sarcasm; for it is not just positive use only, but negative as well. What use is having values that are only positive in a society filled with both positivity and negativity? Sarcasm allows you to see a wide variety of the persons traits, or express your own no matter if people view them as "good" or "bad". To see this humor and sarcasm in the world undoubtedly makes me enjoy the people around me.
ReplyDeleteThe thing that makes me expressionlessly angry is people's lack of respect for society. My meaning being this; our society is great. Beyond all doubts and small issues, we are a large society that was able to come together and form a place to live and for our posterity to live, and this is no small feat. When I see people having a blatant disrespect for our country, community, or even property, my enmity is unfathomable. To be able to be privileged enough to even wear the clothes on your back is a gift. To be able to live in this country is a gift. Even to be able to do something so simple as shop or buy something is a gift, and when people disrespect that, I have no words. To disrespect that is to disrespect the air you breathe, the ground you stand on, and the life you live. Nothing angers me more.
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ReplyDeleteWhen people think of values you tend to see the likes of “Trust” or “Honesty” and similar things be repeated over and over again. While I definitely don’t want someone to lie to me I'd much rather them not lie to their self. Individualism, or in simple terms just being yourself, is what I want out of everybody. I would consider this a more specific quality under honesty because it revolves around the idea of being honest with yourself. A lot of people these days walk around with a mask to hide whoever they are whether it be shyness or the fear of backlash from society. People don’t feel like they can be who they really are and when you strip away a personality that individual person becomes nothingness wrapped in a shell we would call a human. There is one topic that I have seen float around various science youtube channels that is the question of “What’s the difference between life and death?”. Seriously, take a moment to try to process what makes the two different because it’s hard to determine where the line between the two is. Most people would say that to be alive (or to not be dead) you have to eat, move, or many other human characteristics until you look at examples that are harder to pinpoint an exact distinction, one example could be any basic plant like grass. How is grass more alive than say a rock, both are stationary objects that don’t really do much. Another comparison could be that of grass to lava. Lava is something that can “move”, consume, grow, react to changes in the environment. It seems from these traits lava should be more alive than some dull grass. Going back to people and individuality, people's personalities are what make them alive. Someone dead on the inside is as much dead on the outside. People's individualism is what makes their life worth living, it’s what makes being alive very different than being dead. Take it away and you are left with a rock masquerading as a person. What’s the point of getting up every morning if you have nothing to get up for? Let me tell you a little secret that can change your way of thinking, we’re all worthless. You’re worthless, I’m worthless, my mom, dad, neighbors, siblings, everyone is worthless. Worth is in the mind, the only worth that matters is the one you decide. I can tell myself that I am of no value, or I can tell myself I’m priceless. How anybody else views my worth isn’t going to change unless they want to change my worth to them. Anyone is only as valuable as you believe they are to you. So as long as you believe you are worth something who am I to tell you you’re wrong. “I do not agree with what you have to say, but I'll defend to the death your right to say it.”(Evelyn Beatrice Hall) is also true when it comes to individualism. I might not agree with how you’re living your life but it isn’t my life to live in the first place. Individualism is something you can’t recreate, it’s unique and that’s what sets it apart from other common values. Many people can be honest but I can’t be you and you can’t be me. Now that’s something I value
ReplyDeleteThe first thing that popped into my mind when I read the two questions was about recycling. I’m pretty sure mostly everyone around me knows that I care a lot about the environment. I literally scream and yell when someone doesn’t recycle or harms the environment (just ask my friends). I just can’t understand why people don’t think more about the wastefulness of this society and how global warming is a threat that’s closer than they think and how it’s okay for corporations to keep drilling oil in the arctic even when they’re destroying the habitats of many creatures. I guess I hate selfishness and I value forward-thinking. It’s not okay to ruin lives just for profits. Although I’m a little guilty of it, I especially hate how people are materialistic. There’s more to life than just money. UGHHHHHHH
ReplyDeleteAlso another thing I dislike very very much is unnecessary drama. Yeah, it’s funny sometimes when people are telling stories, but people have just got to face the facts and need a slap to the face. Right now, I know there’s a situation going on in band, ahem, with a certain group of people that is all because a certain person can’t handle the truth and they are blowing it up way too much. I can’t remember the word for it, but I value when someone actually listens, accepts the criticism, and tries to become a better person. It just makes life so much easier and that’s why I try to avoid drama at all costs.
Cheating is at the top of the list too. It's just so unfair how people have to work their butts off being busy with getting homework done in time and doing other sports while getting no sleep and the cheaters don't get any sleep from procrastinating and sitting home all day doing nothing. Instead, they go to school and ask their friends for the answers because they're too lazy to do it themselves. It's just really stupid how they do that and they don't care. That's why I value hard work and honesty. Together, they will take you far.
Well played Mrs. Bunje, well played indeed. This is a really good question, and you are right, this is not something I normally think about. After thinking about this, I can say for sure that I value entertainment and dependability. Having someone, or something, that I can rely on, is wonderful beyond belief. To know that if I go to school, there will be a friend there who will laugh along side me is a true blessing. To know that if I go home, there will be something funny on the internet to watch gives me a sort of drive to get through the day. I also value having fun, however shallow that may be, though I will try my best to explain. I HATE dull and boring days. Laughter is like a narcotic, I can't get enough. Most people will watch something funny and laugh. I will watch something funny and laugh, and then I will keep on watching that same funny moment, over and over again, until I have squeezed every last bit of humor from it like a sponge. It makes me ecstatic when I am enjoying myself, creating this weird cycle of happiness that puts me into a state of extreme euphoria. Weird right? Usually I do not get mad because of the aforementioned reasons, but when I do it is because someone is being mean. It really ticks me off when someone is being spiteful just for the sake of bringing someone down. Why is it necessary to call someone ugly, or fat, or make fun of them for the way they are? I understand jokes, but only if the person knows you are just joking, and they are cool with that. I'm all for a great roast session, although I can't do it because I am sensitive to others feelings. I used to be that kid who had the whole group take turns poking fun at me, so I guess that is why it aggravates me. As for my values, I just do not like thinking about bad or boring stuff, and having someone dependable allows you to be more comfortable. At least that is what it is for me.
ReplyDeleteValues are things or abstracts like love, hate, hope despair,loyalty etc. which is held as utmost importance. What I value as utmost overall is manipulation. It excites me on how the process goes while the pawns are disillusioned by the outcome. Is basically underhanded tactics use to control things in my favor leaving the person in deleterious situation. One quote I created from it is, "Manipulation dominates the battlefield. The puppeteer sits high and mighty controlling the game while the pawns or human shields take the damage for me." It may sound hectic and chaotic, but it generally helps you maneuver around hasty obstacles but it leaves deleterious holes in the process. Though that is the case the results are great just the cost of someone being confused like a dog looking in a mirror and left to deal with the tremendous calamity caused by moi. Overall the cost of it is devastating to the pawns involved in the scenario but it doesn't matter really much to me as long as I get away with my objective hook,line and sinker. ( Nah I'm just joking that is way overboard) What I truly value most is my future and my life. As of right now, my parents treat me like a baby. My explanation to this is because I'm the only child so the attention is focused on me. In return they prepare me for the future and what life has to offer for me. Sooner or later we are going to be all by ourselves, No one to cook for us, no one to take care of us, no one to shop for us, no one to tell us what to do, basically to sum it up no one is there to baby us. We are technically stepping on the plate of responsibility. We basically are making our own choices as we go further in life. The path you take towards the future is what defines and shapes you. My future plan starts after I graduate from high school then i'll go straight into a four year college and for more additional years since my career is being a physical therapist which takes about seven years or an anesthesiologist which approximately takes twelve years. In order to achieve and make your dream plan come to fruition all starts with education. If you do well you will succeed, if not you set up your own demise. My mom sticks to this really well as if it were one of her own laws which i agree on. There have been times when we go out somewhere like New York, Philly, or right here in New Jersey and see real life examples of unsuccessful people. (Not going to give an example of the scenario because in my head it sounds harsh from both sides.) Overall, seeing real life examples helps and pushes me to move forward. Not in a slacking manner but a focus and structured manner. Like the saying there is always time for everything but education/ learning comes first. This way you will have a greater brighter future instead of being like a lost sheep which deteriorates your path to success. Our lives are also important because we have some advantages and qualities that others don't have. Which is why we should be grateful for what you have in front of you as others lack it. (Like food, clothes, money, transportation etc.)
ReplyDeleteWhat makes me mad you ask? And What fills me with unabashed joy? Stepping back a bit, simply the answer is arrogant and ignorant people. They really grind my gears, thinking they are superior and perfect, higher up, better than everyone, and over exaggerating things confusing it with reality. It basically shows how stupid they are. It kind of sad, they were in see it is that they walking around in circle full with a web of lies. To me I think they are in Lala land and they should wake up and smell the coffee. On the other hand what fills me with unabashed joy is the accomplishments of other people and their joviality afterwards. When people walk up to me and say the achieve and accomplished what they wanted in their entire lives follow by their happiness radiating around them which is almost like a morale boost. That makes me elated for them and in return inspires me to accomplish my goals and move forward in style
Two things that I value a lot in life is determination and a hardworking mentality in life. I love the idea of the american dream, the main goal that everybody in America would love to achieve which can be achieved through determination and hardwork. Determination is what fuels that drive to wanna do something with your life and be above and beyond the average person. Without determination it would be very hard to get the things we want. People can’t be spoon fed everything in life, people need to have determination to want to be better than that. Whenever I see or think about anybody who has achieved their goal in life because of being determined makes me happy, it shows how much hard work can pay off in the end because of determination. Determination connects with hard work, there is no hard work without determination and vice versa. Even if your life starts out bad even though it’s not your fault, you still have work hard and live with stress and worries anymore. I really respect anybody who has worked hard to get what they wanted in life and I hope to do the same in my life. People who don’t have have determination or don’t want to do hard work bites them back in the end and sometimes might regret not working hard enough.
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ReplyDeleteThis would be a hard question if you didn't know your values in life, and to me I believe I know what I do and don't like in a person. Things I absolutely love and make me happy are when other smile. It seems corny but smiling is actually contagious and I believe that. Also trust, trust is beyond important with anyone or anything. Once someone lies it's just like they don't care or never cared and it's really disrespectful. This brings me to something I cannot stand... Liars. I much rather spend 2 weeks with someone I cannot stand, rather than be lied to. Sure other things make me mad but that would have to be number 1 on my list. Number 2 would be laziness. I hate unproductive, lazy and inactive. You have a life... GO LIVE IT. My father would be what you consider bottom of the barrel scum but he was never inactive, he would always do something whether it was right or wrong. My grandfather on the other hand never lets me stop and sure it's a pain sometimes but in the long run I know he's preparing me. This blog was about things you value, and I know I'm not suppose to value people but without my grandfather I wouldn't be the young man I am today. I have always been respectful to people and when they don't respect me back I forget about them, to me letting things go is a very very good quality to have. I've been through a lot and I haven't let the most of it go, Im trying and the more I let go the better I feel. Letting go of things whether it's something little or something huge it'll make you feel better. When you feel better you're more positive and positivity is a good trait to have also. So in the end I love, Trust, Polite, Letting go and Positivity. I cannot stand Liars and Lazieness.
ReplyDeleteIf there is one thing I know about myself, it’s that I am a very forgiving, whole-hearted person. Therefore, I value forgiveness. I don’t believe in “holding a grudge” on situations. I believe life is too short to waste it away on being mad or upset at something or someone. How is anyone ever going to be happy when they’re busy worrying about something else. Something else that happened so long ago, but still upsets them. Forgiveness is the key to moving on, and people will never be happy until they learn to move on. Everybody makes mistakes eventually, some worse than others. Some people repeat their mistakes over and over again, but it always catches up to them. That’s why forgiveness is so important, because if someone doesn’t understand the mistake they made, it will always catch up to them. So it’s not your job or anyone else's to make sure someone “gets what they deserve”. Revenge is not and never will me the solution for me. Revenge is something people try to do to make them feel better about themselves, but does it really make them feel better knowing they stooped down to a level they never wanted to stoop down to? No. Forgiveness is the answer because forgiveness leads to happiness.
ReplyDeleteWhen you tell people you are the only child they automatic reaction is this “Lucky!!” or “I wish I was the only child.” Or “You must get everything you want.” They always assume that being an only child is great. When in reality it isn’t all what it is cracked up to be. Yes, I get whatever I want when I ask for it, but that doesn’t mean anything when most of the time I’m lonely. Yes, I have friends but remember my friends have lives and I always have to come back home. That is why the thing I value the most is my doll DW. I had DW since I was three and ever since then, she and I became inseparable. I would tell DW everything! From new people I met and the boys I liked in school too. Everywhere I go in public I would take her along too, even school. Ask me to look inside my book bag and I bet you’d see her! Not only has she been there for my good days, she has also been there for my bad days. Days where I was feeling depressed and I just wanted to lay in bed and cry all day. I would hold her in my arms and after a while I would feel better. She always comforted me when my parents and friends weren’t around. DW has always been there for me. Without her I’d probably be a wreck. When most people see her they will most likely say “Oh it’s just a doll.” When that isn’t true she is my sister! My family and nothing will ever change that!
ReplyDeletePhilippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me. Up until the age of eleven I use to go to church every Sunday and until the age of 10 I use to go to a private school called Cumberland Christian in Vineland, New Jersey. With that being said I practically grew up in the church. Therefore, another thing I value in life is my faith in God. Without God I wouldn’t be the person I am today nor would I have received this many blessings that I am very grateful for. For a while I was having doubts in my faith. In this time period I would things that weren’t Christ like and it bite me right in my ass. Eventually I had gotten back into my religion and all the goals I want to achieve is finally falling into place.
What I hate the most is narrow-minded people. It is impossible to live in a world and expect people to have the same mind set as you. (Unless you’re Amish). Of course there will be a lot of people who have the same political and core views as you, but not all of their views will be the same as yours. In order to survive in the world you have to take consideration of everyone else’s beliefs. You have to always see the other side.
I am a very easy going person. For the most part, It’s pretty difficult to get under my skin. Nothing infuriates me more than being lied to. It literally makes me hot. Lying to me is saying nothing besides the simple fact that you don’t value me. Making up a lie and telling it to someone is the best way to disrespect them. Although lying is much easier than confessing and telling the truth, the truth can save that person from a lot more damage in the future. The truth does most times cause a lot of pain, but it is far less painful than finding out from someone else that the person you love betrayed you. I have a big heart. Anyone who knows me knows that i am very understanding, sometimes a little too understanding. When someone tells me that they made a mistake I may be angry at first but, I am easy at forgiving truthfulness.I respect anyone who cares enough to fix their relationship with me rather than digging the hole deeper without our future in mind. There is no worse feeling than making a mistake that you could never get back. Especially when you know it would hurt someone you love. It sticks with you everywhere you go. Your conscience constantly reminds you no matter what you’re doing. It eats you alive to the point where you break down and tell them everything. Everything, not leaving out any part of the truth, pleading for forgiveness. That's love. That’s consideration. Love doesn’t allow someone to bottle up lies forever. If someone has the audacity to lie to me, that is enough proof for me to come to the conclusion that I am insignificant in their eyes. In other words, I don’t need them just as they don’t need me. Nothing fills me with more joy than self love. I went through a stage in my life where i hated everything about myself. I would wake up every morning, paint a smile on my face, and wonder why i could never get rid of my sadness. All of the compliments in the world don’t mean a thing until you truly believe them. I felt alone, as i matured i realized that if you love yourself you could never be alone. You don’t need anyone to survive or be happy. You should never base your happiness on another person. That is giving them way too much power over you. It is healthy to love people but, you have to love yourself first. If I would have learned this earlier I could've saved myself from a lot of hurt.
ReplyDeleteIt is seldom for me to be asked what I value the most, and I am glad that this question is brought up. I have seen different kinds of people in my life, and for me those who stood out are those who have self-respect, and those who showed proper etiquette and manners. We now live in a society where there’s a lot of peer pressure. Sometimes, people tend to lose their self-respect to blend in or fit in among the rest. They are afraid to stand alone, in that way, they go with the flow even if they are aware that it is not appropriate or it is something they will regret for the rest of their lives. Most of the time when I see someone like this, I just want to scream and tell them what they're doing is wrong. I don't know if they know that losing one's self-respect means paving a way for others to disrespect you. You should know your value as a person and you should never let anyone else treat you the way you shouldn't be treated, however all these begins from you, yourself.
ReplyDeleteThe other thing I mentioned earlier is my appreciation to those people who have proper etiquette and manners. I grew up in a family where this is a big deal. Honestly, in my everyday life, there are only a few people I see and know that demonstrates proper ethics. I noticed that a lot of us, talk back to our teachers or parents or anybody because of the fact that we cannot get what we want. We forget to be polite and keep a good attitude. Also, people forget about the basics such as keeping the mouth close when it’s full; instead of saying “excuse me”, people just do whatever to get to where he/she wants to be; lastly, not listening to the person who is talking. I believe that etiquette and manners will play a huge part not just in school to have a good relationship with your teachers and schoolmates, but also in the future when each of us start our own careers.
The thing that makes me a happy person is being able to see somebody strive on his/her own, after overcoming all the obstacles that he/she faced. These kinds of people inspire me to do better, and no matter what happens just keep on trying.
Besides the required things like family and friends, the two things that I would value the most are individualism and honesty. The concept of following other people’s behavioral patterns and others using slang just to fit into society is ridiculous to me; those people could actually just be themselves instead of copying someone else. The reason for most people not showing their true colors today is either because they think that their character has more holes than swiss cheese, or that they believe that they will not fit in with the personalities around them. Society’s idea of fitting in is implanted into people’s mind because they do not want to be seen as an unpopular figure who is scoffed off as: weird, crazy, a loser, ugly, or talentless. The stress of fitting in and not being the unique person that they truly are makes me irritated at how stupid people could be. Individualism is important to me because that is how others can find the friends that fits them better than the fake persona most people hide behind. No one can hold up their “mask” long enough for their friends not to notice. But others will try to hold this mask with loads of stress and fears that if someone got to know their unique selves, they would be shunned away and their friends will leave them. Who cares if the friends of your fake persona leave, they were not your friends in the first place if they didn’t accept your genuine and unique personality. There can only be one “you” in the world and no one can change that. Coincidentally, honesty is related to being an individual by the fact that you have to be honest with yourself and everyone else with the true personality that you have.
ReplyDeleteAnother side of honestly and individualism that I value is the self reliance part when it comes to school or work. Instead of depending on someone to do all the work in a “group” project or copy their homework just so you do not have to do it, it is better to do it yourself and start becoming independent. You can not rely on other people to do your work when you obtain a job. You can not rely on your peers to come to your aid on a test and give you the answers to the questions you can’t fathom on your own. You can not rely on your parents to give everything to you on a silver platter and continue to baby you for as long as they live. These reasons are why I value honesty and individualism the most.
What makes me angry to the point of screaming unintelligent are arrogant people who think highly of themselves. They do not have any kind of self control when it comes to their haughty attitude and always think of themselves as the victim of anything bad happening to them. They always believe that they will be in the right every time since they will think so lowly of other people and only trust what they think is right. After a while, the arrogance of people will start to anger and affect not only one person, but the people around them.
What makes me happy is when I have the spare time to actually spend on my friends. Usually, when I am invited to something, I do not have the time to actually attend because of the usual reasons my parents give me: my parents are busy, they want me to study instead, or that I have an abundance of school work. So having the time to relax and talk to my friends actually fills me with unabashed joy since spending quality time with friends is something that I can not get back.
I Value life. Life is the existence of an individual human being or animal. Life is where it all begins. Without life nobody would be here. I am thankful for the little plant that I walk by every morning to the bus stop for that plant gives off the air that i breath.Human beings and plants have a symbiotic relationship, without each other we would not be here. I am thankful for the sun because with out the sun the plants would not be able to do the process of photosynthesis. To understand life you need to stop and look around, life is much more then just a phone, life is much more then a computer and life is much more then a TV. Life is a newly growntree, a new born baby, friends, family and the new puppy you just got. Life is about learning new things everyday and finding joy and happiness in everything you do.Life is having a laugh with one of your friends.Most importantly life has taught me to get back up when nothing was going my way.To get back up and be better and to not stop living. Life has taught me to be there for people who are in need and need some one to lean on. life can be bad or it can be good. That is just how the world spins around but life will always get better no matter what. Every one is here for a reason sometimes it just takes longer to find out what that reason is.Life is that drive that you have in your heart to never stop. Life is a bigger picture then what some people think it is. so I would like to give a personal thanks to life because without it none of the things that i value in life would be here today including myself.
ReplyDeleteIf you ask anyone that is close to me, they will definitely tell you that I am a VERY emotional person. This means that no matter what I do, or what decisions I make, I do everything with my heart. Now this could be for better or for worse. This means that when I feel emotions, I feel them with everything in my body. When I’m upset, I bawl my eyes out until I have no more tears left. When I’m excited, I have the biggest smile on my face and I could bounce off the walls. However, there is one emotion that I rarely experience, and if I do, someone must have done something REALLY wrong to make me feel mad. Now with this being said, there are two things I value the most, and when people lack to show that they possess these qualities, it makes me furious. They are empathy and patience. I believe we are all in this world together, and if you don’t take a moment to think about how others feel, then you are a cold hearted person. I don’t mix well with people who go through life with blinders on, and don’t realize that other people have feelings too. In my person life, I try my absolute best to comfort somebody when they are feeling down. Given that I am not a professional psychologist, I do tend to try to understand their side of any story, and try to cheer them up. It breaks my heart to see someone upset, and the least anyone can do is comfort them and give a hug or some motivational words. For example, I’m captain for marching band, and one day after our sectional one of the woodwind players was crying because she was nervous for competition season getting closer. Well, of course I understood how she was feeling, I was once a freshman too, and nervous as heck that I was going to mess up or not be good enough. But instead of saying, “come on let’s go, we have to get to practice,” I stayed an extra 10 minutes with her. I explained to her that I once had those nerves too and that she has nothing to worry about because I and the whole entire band believed in her, and that she should feel special and confident. I believe by doing this, that I made someone’s day and potentially their whole marching career by just telling her that I can relate to her situation and boosting her confidence. I’m not saying that you have to give a pep talk everyday, but just make someone smile because they know you understand how they feel. Similarly, I value patience, which is not surprising, but most people don’t have. Not everything or everyone in your life is going to work out, or at the pace that you wish. Don’t rush things in your life and just live in the moment. Don’t get mad when something isn’t going as fast as you would prefer, such as high school. You’re not going to be in school forever, and be able to see your friends everyday, so don’t rush life. Time has been ticking at the same rate since the first day the earth was formed, understand that it doesn’t go any faster than you want it to. Likewise, have patience with people. Let them speak before you criticize them, or wait for somebody for that extra 5 minutes, so you get the pleasure to finally be with them. On the other hand, there are an abundant amount of things that make me over the moon. The obvious one for me being band and music. I’m going for the cliche answer and say that music is my passion, and whenever I play a song it makes my frown turn upside down. It’s not just when I’m at band practice that I’m happy, but unlike many others, I love just playing at home, in my room, just for fun. Now I’m pretty sure that everyone else is calling me a music nerd, but it’s true. Despite everyone despising practicing, I actually love it and usually go over the top and find extra songs to master; which usually lands me the spot of “show-off” or “too good for everyone else”. Additionally, my absolute favorite feeling in the world is performing. I love participating in band concerts, jazz band gigs, marching band competitions, and my new favorite… musicals. I have no idea why, but the feeling of being apart of a musical just makes me the happiest person in the world.
ReplyDeleteI love the music, the acting, the singing, the dancing, all the technical parts, but I mainly feel at home when I’m playing in the pit on flute or piccolo. I blame my mother and my grandfather for my addiction because there was never a moment in my childhood where music wasn’t playing. Finally, after all my rambling on, I love seeing people smile. I love witnessing people follow their passion, just like how I follow music. No matter whether they passed a test because they worked so hard at school, or if they won a game for their sport. It makes me happy to see others happy. How could you not smile seeing someone else having their dream or their goal come true. It’s like a book right before your eyes. It seems as if you are living a happy, momentous movie ending unfold right in front of you. This is especially true for when my friends or family get what they want, and I was there to witness all their hard work and dedication to something. If one day something amazing happens to you, wouldn’t you want the people you love congratulating you? I love being there for people during their ups and downs, because when the ups happen, it makes it all the better to go through it with the people you care most about in your life.
ReplyDeleteWhat do I value? Love, but not love love. I strongly believe that if you're heart is filled with love and peace, you will be happy. I love waking up in the morning and not have to worry about if I have enough food to eat Breakfast. I love walking down the crusty halls of the nest, while my back is covered in sweat, and I'm stressing about the vocab test i have next period. My version of love can also be comparable to gratefulness, and the ability to see things with a hint more positivity than negativity. There were moments in my life where I should have lost everything, but I didn't. Those days make me who I am. They make me proud. They make me grateful that I'm on my own two feet now. Most people can't relate to this, but there's nothing worse than being trapped in a dimension of physical agony and mental institutionalization. The only way to escape the prison is to see the positives and love what you do have, even if it's not much. I don't need much attention, as long as someone in this world loves me. I don't need much, as long as I have something a love. I don't need to go out that much, as long as I'm able to do what I love. People make life out to be complicated, which I don't understand. The simplest word is love, and it's all we have, and all we need.
ReplyDeleteThe next question: What upsets me the most, and what makes me full of joy? Nothing makes me more upset than feeling underappreciated, or when someone assumes my motives without actually knowing me. If I put my heart and soul into something and nothing changes because nobody cares, that hits me hard, or when I do something and people think it's for the wrong reason. I usually don't care what people think, but for some reason that's the exception. Now what makes me joyful? Well it would only make sense if it was the opposite of what filled me with anger. When I feel appreciated and influence something, I get a feeling like no other. My big goal in my life is to make positive change in someone's life or in the community, because it makes me happy seeing other people smile. However, at the same time, I put myself before everyone except a few people, so I'm interested to see how I'll reach my goal. It's safe to say I'm one of the most selfish-unselfish people you'll meet.
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ReplyDeleteWhen I really thought about something that I value, I thought about what I don’t see often in today’s society, and what I don’t see in myself but wish I put into action more often. Loyalty, trust, and generosity. I value these because of the fact that they are so absent in today’s society and living in this society it’s hard to live using values without getting crushed by society. People get stabbed in the back by those who they trusted the most, which makes them live in constant fear of it ever happening again and sometimes they do the same to others. When trying to show generosity, people tell you to beware of those wishing to find someone to leech off of. It’s hard to be generous out of fear of being used. Some people seem to think that if they help others, the other person or persons will gain all the benefits while they are at a loss during their interaction.
ReplyDeleteFrankly, many things make me mad in this world, from the smallest pet peeves to some of society’s most repulsive standpoints. However, I think what sickens me the most is people who oppress those who don’t share the same ideals as they do or those who are not open-minded. Using an example, think of people’s attitudes toward homosexual people. Some people don’t care whether or not people are homosexual or not and just leave them alone or are perfectly fine befriending them.Others, the less accepting people of society, will have view these people as disgusting based on the ir sexuality and nothing else. I have seen at times where two people will be perfectly food friends, but one becomes homosexual and the other either quietly separates themselves from said person or, they are more blunt about their dislike of the other person’s newfound sexuality. Another example is women’s rights and status in today's society. Even though it has been nearly a decade since women have one ‘equal rights’, women are still paid less, thought down upon, are considered to be objects for reproduction, and are typically supposed to be the ones taking care of the children and house. I know this is not all men, but what sickens me is that women themselves hold this value as well. What fills with me joy is when I sit with my family and we talk about funnier topics. With the schedule of the people of the people in my family, it doesn’t happen very often.
Alright, so I pondered about this question for the past two days, and what I am about to say may sound cliché, but they are genuinely my values. My life would indeed be dull without valuing the following things: humor, fun, and happiness. I definitely value humor and fun, especially in the midst of all the stress of busy classes I need to take this year or everyday life in general. At the end of the day regardless of how many APs’ or honors we all take, we are teenagers. Yes, we are beginning to gain independence and more responsibilities as young adults. Yes, teenagers have a reputation for doing wild things. However, it does not signify that we must capitulate our recreational hobbies or passions. We need fun to relieve stress and enjoy life, especially at this age. For me, that could be the music I listen to, my ability to play instruments, or even hearing and laughing at hilarious jokes. This eventually falls into the grand scheme of being authentically happy. Happiness is crucially valuable because without it, well, let’s just say that we would all go nuts. The level of depression and anger in our lives would effortlessly spike and everyone would be miserable and hostile.
ReplyDeleteExpanding that track, I could sit here and create an entire essay of all the things wrong in this world that angers me. However, what by far infuriates me the most has to be racism. It is absolutely sickening and unfathomable to me why in this year 2016, 48 years after the end of the civil rights movement, people are still racist! Why?? It just disgusts me to even think about why people would use the color of one's skin to define how superior or inferior they are to another race. It is depressing to turn on CNN and hear about police brutality, or hear people call all Hispanics drug dealers. Unlike those racist morons, I absolutely adore seeing various types of people from disparate backgrounds, one of the reasons why I love coming to Oakcrest: the diversity. I've been to schools where I happened to find myself in the position of literally being the only black girl/person in class or sometimes in the entire grade, while the vast majority of everyone else were all white (Don’t even mention history’s slavery unit--Ughhh, the awkwardness!). Not that there is anything wrong with being in a class with whites (of course not), but I would like to see the disparity of all people, not just too much of one kind. What’s also frustrating to me as a result of racism is the negative stereotypes of different races (ex. Asian terrorists, African-American gang members, etc.---I won’t even expand on this one because I think we all know the issue with that). Of course, racism is an issue which originates from hateful, rude, judgemental, and ignorant people, so I guess I can say above all, I absolutely abhor people who have all those pessimistic qualities. People aren't born racist; unfortunately, they’re taught. Rude or judgemental people isn’t just an issue with racism, but I’m also talking about in general. Why judge someone or taunt them? Why call someone names? Why live to liberally crush their self-esteem?
On the other hand, what fills me with unabashed joy is my success academically. I take school seriously, and work hard to see my name with high honor roll. It is just amazing to see that despite the struggles and doubts, all the effort of my hard work eventually pays off when I see A’s on my report card. It ensures that I am on the right track of my future. Also, I love kindness, and even if it is simply holding a door for someone, it could actually make my day. Kindness shows that there is still hope in this crazy world we live in for people to be nice.
As a kid I valued little things like candy and bubble gum, but nowadays my values have changed greatly. The number one thing that I value the most is dedication. Showing dedication is something that I value alot, because when you're dedicated to something, it also shows that you have a dream. No one will ever be dedicated to something if they don't dream about being better at that certain thing. For example, over the summer, I was dedicated to Field Hockey. Everyday I was outside rain or shine, working towards getting better at it. But the only reason that I was dedicated to it, was because I "dreamed" on becoming a better player. It sounds cheesy, but i really did. I wanted to get better at it, I dreamed of getting better at it, and that determined me to get better at it. Secondly I value honesty. Honesty to me shows a persons true color. If someone can't be honest about the little things, then how am I supposed to rely on them to be honest about the major things. When someone isn't honest to me, it makes it very hard for me to trust what they say. When people lie to me, depending on how big of a lie it is, it will make me mad/upset that someone would lie. Half the time when people lie, its just because for them its the easy way out. But in the long run they could get screwed over for it as well, because when lies catch up for a person, it puts them in deep deep trouble. I get these reactions when people lie, because half the time it makes no sense why they would lie about that certain subject.
ReplyDeleteI have been sitting in my bed for an hour thinking about what it is I really value in life. What it is that I appreciate that isn't materialistic or bought. And it came to me, I value forgiveness in me and in other people. Life isn’t something that you can get right 100% of the time, you are going to make mistakes. Whether it be you or someone else, something is bound happen where a person makes a mistake and someone is going to need to forgive. Forgiveness is something that I wish everyone had. I don’t see a point in living my life full of hatred and grudges against other people. My older brother and sister, the people that I look up to the most, have been in a feud for almost a year now and it honestly breaks my heart. Forgiveness is such an amazing thing and because neither of them are willing to use the power of forgiveness my family is forced into awkward tension when they both walk into the room. I have had many fights with people in the past whether it be with my family or friends and I always found it hard to forgive anyone, which put me in a constant state of anger. Life is something that you shouldn’t need to tiptoe around because you’re afraid of making a mistake, if everyone had the ability to forgive then you could live life a little more carefree and happy. Now I’m not saying if you go around killing people you should be forgiven, but I truly believe the little things you may do wrong, you shouldn’t have to waste your time worried about, you should just be able to move on and nothing be held against you that could stop you from living happy.
ReplyDeleteI have only recently been able to forgive because growing up in my family, you are basically taught how to never let anything go. Being raised that way unknowingly, missing out on the true bliss of forgiveness is horrible because forgiveness isn't always about other people, you also need to learn how to forgive yourself and if you can't do that, you'll constantly hate yourself. Things you do in life that you regret shouldn’t hold you back from anything you want to achieve. If you want to achieve something as simple as happiness you need to be able to forget whatever you’ve done in the past that has made you feel like shit. That is something I have learned to do these past 3 years and I have never been this happy and calm. I walk around with my head held high because I know that I can love myself with every mistake I’ve made. Forgiveness is a powerful thing that every person should be able to find in their lives, it would make the world such a better place, I know it has definitely changed my life.
I’m probably the biggest hypocrite I know. Sadly, most of the things that piss me off are also the things that I do in my daily routine. The things I value the most are sincerity and patience. That's probably why I hate myself too. The reasons why these are valuable to me are because in difficult times these things were provided to me. When someone's in a tough situation and you act like a complete jerk to them then not only are you presenting yourself as a jerk but you can harm someone else in the process. When I was in the sixth grade my mother was in a car accident. Although she didn't die she got injured. Rather than treating my mom with sincerity, people such as police officers and insurance workers hassled her to the point of a panic attack. My mom eventually had to go to a hospital where the doctors and secretaries still treated her like crap except for one person. It was my mom’s nurse. She welcomed her in kindly and offered to do anything that my mom needed. Her attitude about the situation gave me hope in people.
ReplyDeleteTime is of the essence right? Wrong. That was my perception of everything I did. “You're wasting my time.” “I don't have enough time.” It seems that everything is revolved around time (and money) in this world. Whether it's not going fast enough and “wasting someone's time” or going too fast and get unorganized, time is everything. But lots of time you need slow down. You have to wait. In my freshman year, I was introduced into many activities and clubs that I wanted to join. One of these activities was marching band. I joined marching band back in June of 2014. We were going at a very slow pace and we had only completed parts of our show in a matter of time. We had gone into competition without a complete show. I wanted to quit a couple of times because of how slow we were moving. But once we completed the show I had realized we perfected every single second of the show. Even though it's annoying and tedious to go back and redo things five to ten times, the difference is obvious.
I tend to reflect on past situations a lot. That's how I came to these conclusions. Once long ago I basically hassled the crap out of someone and they got annoyed with me and basically hasn't been in my life since. If I had more patience that situation would have never happened. And ironically even though I know about it, I tend to repeat history. Well I guess it means I'm a fool for not correcting myself. The same thing happened with me not being sincere. When you're having a bad day you tend to act negatively towards others around you right? Well that was the situation when sincerity was not on the top of my priority list. I had a really bad day. I missed the bus, my parents annoyed the crap out of me for missing the bus and I left my 100 point assignment at home. After being pissed the heck off by all of the above I pissed everyone else off too. Especially my friend who's sibling got into a car accident. After that incident I was never able to forgive myself for not considering other’s feelings. But somehow, someway I did the same thing (I'm pretty sure I made my best friend cry a week ago because of my insincerity).
My biggest pet peeve in life would definetly have to be a liar.Someone who lies just absolutely makes me so livid that my skin crawls.I try to be the most understanding person as possible reminding people that when dealing with me no matter the circumstances I will not judge you if your honest with me.Don't get me wrong I'm not trying to establish a hypocrtical view point I know that the truth hurts from experience.However, not knowing the truth from the beginning and deciding if you want to deal with a certain person or situation means alot.For instance, if your boyfriend or girlfriend cheats on you in a relationship.Of course it will rip your heart to shreads to hear that but, you have to ask yourself would I rather hear it out of someone elses mouth? You can't expect to hear it out of the person who cheated on you withs mouth because, at the end of the day they owe you no respect or loyalty at all.The person who owes you respect is the person who said they'd be there for you and be loyal.Honest is the root of all things because, if someone will lie they will cheat and if they'll cheat they will steal.Its just like in order to keep yourself sane to a certain extent you have to know some of the truth.Even if it will heart you to stomach it to me it still matters.
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